why do we expose ourselves?

[katt_g]

I got positive feed back on parts of me and the whole but it didnt help me.

well...TT...you have beautiful eye! and from what i have seen, a beautiful heart as well!

reading through this thread reminds me that i have come a long way in comfort with my body, but still have a long way to go in exposing the 'real' me. i have become much less guarded about my physical self, but have not made much headway in the emotional area. *sigh*

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

well...TT...you have beautiful eye! and from what i have seen, a beautiful heart as well!

TYVM!

reading through this thread reminds me that i have come a long way in comfort with my body, but still have a long way to go in exposing the 'real' me. i have become much less guarded about my physical self, but have not made much headway in the emotional area. *sigh*

Me either. I have tried butI have a lot of trust issues and cant get past things. I am not actually sure if I should even try to get past things right now.

 

[katt_g]

TYVM!



Me either. I have tried butI have a lot of trust issues and cant get past things. I am not actually sure if I should even try to get past things right now.

i often feel like the minute i think i'm going to try it....there comes another reminder of why i didn't in the first place...lol.

 

[the_pet]

hmmm.....

soothes my boredom.....
and i'm an exhibitionist so it arouses me

pet

 

[bethpage]

it has been my experience...limited as it is...that others have a much less critical eye than i do when it comes to my own photographs.

I pretend it is not me. For the lack of a better way of saying it, that is someone else. And that person is beautiful on the outside. So, since that outside and my outside are the same, then I must be beautiful on the outside, too. Its all algebra, at one remove. If a=b and b=c, then a=c.

Doesn't mean I don't sort though pics like a national geographic editor (for every 15 pics in a layout, there are usually 300-800 shot, and that's numbers from before digital!) looking for the most flattering ones.

 

[Adakgirl]

I must say I am an exhibitionist and when I had my thread up in the AM pic forum, it was the first time I was able to freely express my exhibitionism. I had problems with a member here offering the link to members of a professional site we were both members of so I had to pull down my pics. But I loved it. I also love exposing myself occasionally to other drivers on the road, repairmen...ect, for shock value and because like BiBunny, I am just a slut. I like it.

I expose myself in a few adult chat rooms motivated by the fact that I love teasing men and flirting with them and arousing them on cam. I enjoy their complements and comments but I can't say that is why I do it. I don't do it for attention or for complements. I do it because I love men and I love turning them on and making their cocks hard. I guess it is the use of my sexual power over men that I get a kick out of. I think flirting is a dying art, so I like to flirt on cam even without exposing myself, to see what kinds of reactions I get. There is nothing like a good slow erotic tease/flirt to drive men batshit crazy with lust. I like being lusted after.

I won't lie and say I don't enjoy and appreciate the men's comments and complements, I certainly do. It makes me feel great about myself when I can get on cam in a room with women many years younger than myself doing the same thing...and hold my own. When my thread was up in the AM pic forum, my motivations were the same, and I enjoyed the ego boost from those pics the same too. But I do not need to expose myself in order to validate my womanhood or sexuality. More like... in order to give my sexuality more freedom of expression, so I enjoy it more.

I was just thinking I could start a new pic thread under an alt, and no-one would be able to use it against me. Why didn't I think of this before?? *digs out the camera*

 

[Shankara20]

I expose myself to find acceptance as a sexual being and to repair the many shame messages I received while growing up.

When I entered the BDSM community I was just one more middle aged male. In time I tested several ways to stand out from the unattached crowd including incorporating some crossdressing elements - like wearing a lace 1/2 slip top with leather slacks and boots. It worked. Then it became more lace undies and less traditional clothing at play parties. The drive to be totally naked and accepted while having male plumbing became so strong that one night I took the plunge at a club in San Francisco, I got naked and spent the night walking around the building fully exposed. What a rush. Soon I incorporated some lace or rope bondage elements in my naked walk-abouts at the club and the attention was incredible. I also started keeping myself stimulated just enough to keep a hard-on as I walked around.

Some of my shame was replaced with a certain pride. I was experimenting with wanking in the club while being watched to work through a deeper layer of shame but that was meeting with limited success - as I stated to reach my orgasm level I would withdraw to the dark recesses of the club to finish myself off. That has not been resolved - yet.

When I joined Lit once again I was just one more male showing off my bits. So I searched for ways to stand out a little. It is working but every now and then when I post some self pics I feel the old shame return *sigh*.

 

[Adakgirl]

Oh Shankara, you do indeed stand out amongst men! You should be proud!

 

[Shankara20]

Oh Shankara, you do indeed stand out amongst men! You should be proud!

aaaa shucks

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I have always been a bit of an exhibitionist. I have stripped, and taken nude photos ever since I was old enough for it NOT to be a crime. I love my body, and it took a long time to get to the point where I enjoy my curves. (I was a stud for years...and spent ages binding my breasts and keeping a package so that I wouldn't be a *girl*)

I love the freedom I feel now, at 36. I like being nude, I enjoy taking pictures. The compliments I receive are neither here nor there...with or without the words...I would still take naked pictures and I would still post em.

 

[Shankara20]

I expose myself in a few adult chat rooms motivated by the fact that I love teasing men and flirting with them and arousing them on cam. I enjoy their complements and comments but I can't say that is why I do it. I don't do it for attention or for complements. I do it because I love men and I love turning them on and making their cocks hard. I guess it is the use of my sexual power over men that I get a kick out of. I think flirting is a dying art, so I like to flirt on cam even without exposing myself, to see what kinds of reactions I get. There is nothing like a good slow erotic tease/flirt to drive men batshit crazy with lust. I like being lusted after.

How refreshing (and somewhat arousing) to actually read this - in a world where sexual power is often one of the few powers available to some women to see that power used with understanding is wonderful!

...and hold my own.

I like to hold my own as well

I was just thinking I could start a new pic thread under an alt, and no-one would be able to use it against me. Why didn't I think of this before?? *digs out the camera*

*Shank goes off to check for storage space on his hard drive*

 

[gloriann]

I'll answer the opposite: I don't expose my "treasures" (I like that term) publicly, only to my SO. Why? Because I trust her. I cannot trust someone I cannot see.

Those that do, however, I pass no judgement on. I enjoy seeing some nice treasures as much as the next person.

 

[katt_g]

I expose myself to find acceptance as a sexual being and to repair the many shame messages I received while growing up.

When I entered the BDSM community I was just one more middle aged male. In time I tested several ways to stand out from the unattached crowd including incorporating some crossdressing elements - like wearing a lace 1/2 slip top with leather slacks and boots. It worked. Then it became more lace undies and less traditional clothing at play parties. The drive to be totally naked and accepted while having male plumbing became so strong that one night I took the plunge at a club in San Francisco, I got naked and spent the night walking around the building fully exposed. What a rush. Soon I incorporated some lace or rope bondage elements in my naked walk-abouts at the club and the attention was incredible. I also started keeping myself stimulated just enough to keep a hard-on as I walked around.

Some of my shame was replaced with a certain pride. I was experimenting with wanking in the club while being watched to work through a deeper layer of shame but that was meeting with limited success - as I stated to reach my orgasm level I would withdraw to the dark recesses of the club to finish myself off. That has not been resolved - yet.

When I joined Lit once again I was just one more male showing off my bits. So I searched for ways to stand out a little. It is working but every now and then when I post some self pics I feel the old shame return *sigh*.

i think so many of us have something to overcome from the past, but this is certainly a daring and fun way to do it! no shame needed! keep it up...i do so enjoy seeing it!

Oh Shankara, you do indeed stand out amongst men! You should be proud!

amen to that! and thank you for your post also. it is refreshing to see women who are comfortable with themselves as sexual beings!!

 

[katt_g]

I like to hold my own as well

heehee

 

[lass714]

In RL exhibitionism is scowled upon or illegal because exposing yourself in public non-consensually involves bystanders... many of whom may have fragile sensibilities, or would have the rest of the public believe so at least.

Online, if you have just a touch of class about it, the only people who see you're exhibitionism are the people that came for it, or at least people that expect it from the site they're visiting.

The internet essentially removes the non-consensual aspect of exhibitionism, yet you are exposing yourself to unknowable masses. Its not a crowd, it's a void that stares back, like a stage where the lights blind you to your audience, and you have no idea whether the house is empty or packed. That can be part of the draw in itself.

I believe Stag says it best. The anonymity of it including the acceptance without judgement makes it attractive, in addition to soothing the ego.

 

[Netzach]

I like to photograph sometimes and I hate finding models. That said, I'm not a huge sharer of my image, but sometimes.

 

[rida]

it started as a way to express some restlessness I was feeling

it continued because I liked the compliments, the creative process of thinking and creating new images and, above all I like to flirt and tease

I've been slacking with new pictures because creativity is down, time is down and I do not like to just keep on repeating the same shot over and over

 

[WriterDom]

it started as a way to express some restlessness I was feeling

it continued because I liked the compliments, the creative process of thinking and creating new images and, above all I like to flirt and tease

I've been slacking with new pictures because creativity is down, time is down and I do not like to just keep on repeating the same shot over and over

I never get tired of your pictures. Surly you have some new panties to show off?

 

[rida]

I never get tired of your pictures. Surly you have some new panties to show off?

thank you!

actually ... they are old panties but ... I do have new pics ...