Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Excitabletom]

For me, there are a lot of pieces to complete this puzzle.

The ability to poentially have quick, purely physical sex with a different person. (a quickie!)
The "dirtiness" of doing something taboo. (cum play and exploring another body)
The raw animal lust involved. (enthusiasum without commitment)
and times have changed; it's not as taboo is it used to be. (why not try? It feels great!)

 

[lit_ch3]

For me, there are a lot of pieces to complete this puzzle.

The ability to poentially have quick, purely physical sex with a different person. (a quickie!)
The "dirtiness" of doing something taboo. (cum play and exploring another body)
The raw animal lust involved. (enthusiasum without commitment)
and times have changed; it's not as taboo is it used to be. (why not try? It feels great!)

All this, plus, for me anyway, it became a Plan B as the sex on the homefront continued to not exist.

Did have an early 20s encounter my wife doesn't know about. And, I do find cocks attractive.

 

[richgo50]

For me I love to dress up. My wife doesn't enjoy my doing that. So my desire to dress leads me to be with another crossdresser that enjoys it as much as I do. The sex with my wife is also practically down to zero. I also love rimming and it seems that guys that like dressing up also like rimming. Hope that makes sense

 

[Crios]

Today is Celebrate Bisexuality Day!

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I tend to think that the progression mainly represents a peeling back of the layers of oppression and expectation imposed upon men by society to reveal that which was there all along. That as opposed to a man actually being changed. But I suppose it could be both.

There are so many differences between men and women that it is hard to compare. But it is worth noting how many women have tried same sex relations at some point. A lot of us. We just don't face the same kind of judgment or compulsion to analyze what it means. I have been with women many times. I prefer men. But I don't feel any need to declare myself bi or straight or whatever.

I think it is unfortunate that society doesn't tend to give men as much latitude to explore. But I think that with age comes a decreased concern about what others think so it only makes sense to want to explore.

Absolutely right, I think. I was 66 before I decided I wanted to know what sucking a cock was like. Once I'd actually had a cock in my mouth, I thought, "That was nice, I want to do it again". In the end, sex is about giving and receiving pleasure. And it doesn't really matter how you achieve that, or with whom. Of course, it's more complicated if you're married, but sex and love are different things.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I've always wondered what being with the "other team" was like, just never had the courage or opportunity to try.

When you try out for the "other team", I found out that it's much easier to start out as a pitcher rather than a catcher. Plenty of catchers ready to get in that crouched position at ABSs and they don't care whether you're throwing fastballs, curves or sliders. They can handle the pitches and the balls too.

 

[Oshkosh60]

I agree Curious in PA !

I would have gotten a great deal more head in my early days of going to an ABS, but I didn't know that there were plenty of men who were just wanting to catch. There was no way I was going to catch back in those days. Now, as I am curious in WI, I have given thought to finding someone to play pitch and catch with.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I agree Curious in PA !

I would have gotten a great deal more head in my early days of going to an ABS, but I didn't know that there were plenty of men who were just wanting to catch. There was no way I was going to catch back in those days. Now, as I am curious in WI, I have given thought to finding someone to play pitch and catch with.

Oh, yeah, of all the times I've been to them, I only had a couple guys ask if I wanted to suck them, but have had a lot of them ask or signal that they wanted to suck me. And, unlike my wife, they all swallowed (except for one guy). You should read my true story about ABSs on Lit.
https://www.literotica.com/s/my-trips-to-the-store

I've thought about playing catcher a lot, and if I didn't have to worry about disease, I would probably be playing both positions.

 

[jbird4]

I too am a child of the 60s. And the one poster is absolutely correct, labels like gay and fag and queer were tossed around frequently and no one wanted to end up in that bin. I was also a catholic kid, so I was told from an early age that it was bad and sinful.

I had a same sex relationship when I was very young and it ended before Jr High. I lived in fear that it might somehow become known.
I love women and am married. I loved sex with my wife when we still had it. She has lost interest and I am left to my own solutions.

So later in life I circled back on all these feelings and fantasies and desires. I am still happily married, so I try not to do anything to jeopardize that. But I have finally accepted that I am a mostly non practicing bisexual. If there was no way I would be caught or catch a disease I would suck and be sucked by as many men as possible. I think about it all the time.

 

[Dreamer110]

I too am a child of the 60s. And the one poster is absolutely correct, labels like gay and fag and queer were tossed around frequently and no one wanted to end up in that bin. I was also a catholic kid, so I was told from an early age that it was bad and sinful.

I had a same sex relationship when I was very young and it ended before Jr High. I lived in fear that it might somehow become known.
I love women and am married. I loved sex with my wife when we still had it. She has lost interest and I am left to my own solutions.

So later in life I circled back on all these feelings and fantasies and desires. I am still happily married, so I try not to do anything to jeopardize that. But I have finally accepted that I am a mostly non practicing bisexual. If there was no way I would be caught or catch a disease I would suck and be sucked by as many men as possible. I think about it all the time.

That could've been me your talking about right to the end.

 

[Illgiveitatry1]

I’m 68 mwm and yes more and more curious. My wife actually got it started. About 3 years ago she would start a role play while I’m eating her pussy. Always another guy coming into the room jacking his meat watching us. She always ends up having him rubbing his cock on me then closer and closer to my mouth, ultimately me taking him in my mouth at her encouragement. Always ending with him cumming in my mouth. I went along in beginning because it got her so hot. But the longer this has gone on this has me craving cock sometimes so bad I can’t stand it. I’m not attracted to a guy at all. But a hard cock standing at attention is my fetish. Absolutely gorgeous.

That sounds absolutely amazing that your wife started the role-playing and that both of you are getting so turned on by it. So have you guys ever had another man join you?

 

[romer12]

In short, if you can't fuck, then suck..................

 

[Katch123]

We had similar childhood experiences and upbringings. I was not raised Catholic but there's the same guilt and being gay is horrible with a direct road to Hell. I had a couple of experiences with a friend, jerking off & blowjobs that I enjoyed. We never said anything and I always carried that fear he would talk. Everything worked out and I was thankfully never outed.
Today in my 60's I like being bi but for most of us we still cannot be open about our preferences. In some ways we have to live double lives or refrain from acting on our M2M desires. Sometimes because of the need for discretion or secrecy I feel like I'm some kind of super secret character, maybe call him James Blow or something.
When you think about all of the horrible things in the world, like famine and wars and all of the millions of unnecessary deaths, sucking a cock just doesn't seem that big of a deal.
Thanks for reading.

You did a good job articulating your thoughts.

 

[ILikeIt]

It's a difficult question to get the one right answer. It's oblivously a number of factors but I think it stems from ones first becomming aware of sexuality (those things that make you feel good). Most of us don't experience that feeling with the opposite sex until we are quite a bit older. So for the first several years it's the boy and his cock. They are best friends. They give each other immense pleasure. A boy beats off lovingly staring at his cock in his hand and revelling in the feeling it's giving him. A boy beats off anywhere from hundreds to thousands of times before he touches his first girl. It's his first love affair and (barring a terrible accident) one who won't leave him, or hopefully won't stop giving him pleasure, for the rest of his life. When girls enter into the picture it becomes a threesome you (your mind), your cock and her. She might get mad at you but he won't. As she gets older maybe her libido fades but his won't (unless you want his to). As we get older mores change and because we have this embedded affinity for cock (and there are a lot more cocks out there than just his) we think 'I love my cock why not give it a try'. Many of the guys on Lit talk of not being gay but love cock. There must be something to it. So there you have it, it's just staying true to that first love.

 

[Jeph77]

We had similar childhood experiences and upbringings. I was not raised Catholic but there's the same guilt and being gay is horrible with a direct road to Hell. I had a couple of experiences with a friend, jerking off & blowjobs that I enjoyed. We never said anything and I always carried that fear he would talk. Everything worked out and I was thankfully never outed.
Today in my 60's I like being bi but for most of us we still cannot be open about our preferences. In some ways we have to live double lives or refrain from acting on our M2M desires. Sometimes because of the need for discretion or secrecy I feel like I'm some kind of super secret character, maybe call him James Blow or something.
When you think about all of the horrible things in the world, like famine and wars and all of the millions of unnecessary deaths, sucking a cock just doesn't seem that big of a deal.
Thanks for reading.

You're an orator and an oralist.

 

[Jeph77]

In short, if you can't fuck, then suck..................

You said a mouthful.

 

[Jeph77]

great emoji

 

[Jeph77]

Good grief, I need a hungry mouth to take my length.

 

[Crios]

Just called a local plumbing company to send over someone to look at a leaky toilet (damned if I could figure out where it was leaking). Anyway, they sent over a cute young guy. After he finished he tried to setup Bluetooth between his tablet and credit card reader. The entire time he was trying to get it to work, I was staring at his crotch. I was praying that he'd not be able to get the Bluetooth to work and I'd have to "pay" him using another method, if you get my drift. I was ready to fall on my knees and unzip him and...

 

[Hardon4u21]

I think part of it is sexual frustration. My wife told me a few years ago she wouldn’t have sex with me. Ever since then my curiosity about having sex with other men has started to be amplified. At first it was a gay man coming on to me. Now I see a sexy couple and start to focus on the man. Some days all I can think about is getting seduced by some young stud.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

It's a difficult question to get the one right answer. It's oblivously a number of factors but I think it stems from ones first becomming aware of sexuality (those things that make you feel good). Most of us don't experience that feeling with the opposite sex until we are quite a bit older. So for the first several years it's the boy and his cock. They are best friends. They give each other immense pleasure. A boy beats off lovingly staring at his cock in his hand and revelling in the feeling it's giving him. A boy beats off anywhere from hundreds to thousands of times before he touches his first girl. It's his first love affair and (barring a terrible accident) one who won't leave him, or hopefully won't stop giving him pleasure, for the rest of his life. When girls enter into the picture it becomes a threesome you (your mind), your cock and her. She might get mad at you but he won't. As she gets older maybe her libido fades but his won't (unless you want his to). As we get older mores change and because we have this embedded affinity for cock (and there are a lot more cocks out there than just his) we think 'I love my cock why not give it a try'. Many of the guys on Lit talk of not being gay but love cock. There must be something to it. So there you have it is just staying true with that first love.

Well stated... in addition the things we were taught were taboo when we we were younger, isn't all that taboo anymore and there is more of an acceptance of those underlining feelings.

 

[SPARTAN047]

All the above are on point. Sexual frustration with women, occasionally, and caring less what people would think of them even if they found out.

Overall, I'd say men and women become more discreet as they grow up too and less likely to divulge too many details to even their closest friends. No guarantee of that though.

 

[Deleted member 6666935]

I’m starting to believe it’s so we can understand why women keep complaining that men are jerks!

 

[SFV55]

I’m starting to believe it’s so we can understand why women keep complaining that men are jerks!

Hilarious!

 

[van_delay]

Fear of missing out. Older you get the stronger the urge to try new sexual experiences.