Why do older men become bi-curious?

[none2_none2]

...But I know exactly what guys want - they want to get off, and then to walk away. Then maybe to come back and get off again. That's not terribly different than jerking off. That's what's interesting about it, sex without emotional clinging and all the embellishments that a woman puts on it.

I guess I don't quite follow this stereotype about guys. Yes some want to walk away after sex because they might have had to sneak out to do this sexual encounter in the first place. I'm much older now, but I always wanted the guy to hang around. Sure for me part of it may have been emotional if I like the guy, but from a physical standpoint, I thought of sex so often, that I wanted to do it again and again. When I was in my late 20's and 30's and had both mentally and physically such a high sex drive, I had one f-buddy who ended up becomming a prison guard on the night shift. He would come over like once a weekend when he got off (Friday night/Saturday morning). He'd take a morning nap, spend time with me, then if he had the next day off, he spent the night. I would normally carry him into the bedroom, give him a nice back rub, rim, finger and fuck him, then let him go to sleep. We would do it a few times then again later in the afternoon. When he spent the night, sometimes I could slip it in during the night. I'm not sure if he was asleep or not as his cock would get hard whenever I started to slip it in. Sometimes he wanted to lounge around and watch a ballgame on TV, yet didn't mind if I gave him a slow fuck while he watched -- especially if his favorite team was winning.

In all honesty, there was no long-term future together (long story), but when he visited it wasn't cum and leave until he had to go to work that night, or the next morning if he was off. Now had he still been married, perhaps he would have had to leave right after an encounter to go back to his wife. However, being that he was single if he left after I fucked him (I would always make sure my bottoms got off too.), I would have felt like I had done something wrong as I liked sex multiple times and would like to think he enjoyed our multiple romps too.

I don't consider j/o like other sex. Yes, j/o is when your hand is all you got and you just have to get off. However, when I had someone who was open to being fucked, I wanted the option to do it several times through out the day. Granted, I cannot do that now (especially with ED), but then I'm not a spring chicken anymore. When I did have someone who was cum and go, I was rather frustrated as I felt I had to either go find someone else later in the day, or masturbate a few times. Hunting for sex or masturbating a few times seemed like such a waste of time or energy. J/o took less time. Hunting for anther partner was such a pain. You would have to find someone attractive. Hope he felt the same for you. Hope he was descreet. Hope that he loved getting fucked...

Where as if the guy hung around, I could control my own urges some -- knowing that I would get lucky later. Nothing is more arousing than knowing you can tap a handsome ass later if you are a gentleman for a while. Now granted, I did not need the guy to tell me I was handsome and desirable (as many say is the stereotype you her from guys about relationships with women) -- although it was always a downer when they wanted someone else even though I had more sex drive than they did.

Unless, I myself had other plans for the day myself, give me a guy who hangs around anyday. I especially liked it if the guy would touch my junk on the spur of the moment throughout the day
and would like me go for seconds, thirds, or whatever at the moment.

 

[hikingman37]

wishing

.......

 

[IWonderWhy]

Divorced after 25 + years, not finding any ladies my age that I can really get into, not talking sexually . Then my bi kicked in, not looking for a relationship, maybe a hand job or BJ may be nice once in awhile

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Go for it

Treat this as an opportunity, not a disaster. I'm sorry about your divorce, but here's your chance to try cock, with no-one to disapprove.

 

[scott6251]

Divorced after 25 + years, not finding any ladies my age that I can really get into, not talking sexually . Then my bi kicked in, not looking for a relationship, maybe a hand job or BJ may be nice once in awhile

You'll be surprised how natural it feels. Once you accept the feelings, you will look at men differently.

 

[lindasuebt]

My ex-hubby in his late 30s liked a bit of cock. I would never call him gay, but in a 3 or 4some session one of his favourite things was getting between my legs while I had someone else's cock inside me, riding reverse cowgirl. He loved looking at a cock sliding in and out, and I used to raise myself up so that the cock head was visible against my clit. Hubby would often pull it out and suck on it, then put it back in my pussy again. I found that quite erotic, we would sometimes share a cock between us too. I don't think he ever did anything outside of a group session, it was just one more sexy fun thing to do.

 

[IWonderWhy]

Thanks PleasePeesMe

Funny thing is I think about this a lot lately. I imagine playing with or sucking one can be quite nice. Maybe one day I will be able to do this.

 

[hikingman37]

phone

i have always been interested in phone sex. anyone else? any experiences? Advice.

 

[jackstud]

phone

It can be fun

 

[hikingman37]

It can be fun

any advice on how to do it anomymously.

 

[Y_Diner]

any advice on how to do it anomymously.

You contact me by PM. I give you my number. You using blocking to keep me from seeing yours....and I give good phone.

 

[dacoach44]

Now is your chance. My poor wife died off, found myself with a sissy; loved it. Found myself sucking her cock, loved it.

 

[Luv2SukMOff]

My set of "changes"...

Three things changed for me at about the same time. I got ED, became submissive, and started wanting cock. Not sure what caused what, but now I consider myself bi

Like travler here, I experienced some similar events that contributed to my own "change."

I'm now 62 and my wife of 23 years is 72. About 10 years ago, her vaginal tissues began to thin and our only occasional intercourse became painful. That put an end to the occasional fuck, although she still allows me to eat her periodically. About 5 years ago, we discovered my testosterone level began dropping and with that came ED. Interestingly, when we treated the Low T, the ED continued...but only when it involved her! I love her, but I can no longer get it up for her. However, when I think about sex with men or any porn, I get erect fine!

Now, I began having sex with men, mostly giving blowjobs at first, when I was just 18, and I loved it! From that first experience of being on my knees to service another man's sexual pleasure and my first taste of his cock, I was hooked! 100% addicted! For me, "submission" and a certain femininity developed and became an integral part of me as, when I was with man, I always assumed the female role in servicing his pleasure and submitting to his sexual desires. But, for many reasons, I had to keep my bisexuality and sex activities with other men a deeply guarded secret. I kept my homosexual desires hidden through two marriages and building a family. Fortunately, I lived fairly close to a very cruisey highway rest area and several adult bookstores that had gloryholes in their private video booths, so I was able to regularly satisfy my hunger for sex with men in relative secrecy.

Then, several years ago some emotional things in both Wifey and I reached critical mass and she accused me of having an affair with another woman! I was occasionally giving head in an ABS, but was not having an affair with anyone, let alone a woman! She continued to repeat that accusation over several months and during that time, and making those repeated denials, I began to realize that I was no longer attracted to women AT ALL! Thinking that little fact through, I also realized that I had been finding men more and more attractive over a period of years and that I increasingly hungered to be with horny men! There were flashes of clear realization going off in me like wild now, and this led me to further analysis. I began thinking about my fantasy life a bit more and came to an almost startling conclusion; although my sex fantasies for many years had been solely about sex acts with men, I realized that, for some years now, those fantasies had shifted from simply sex acts, to actual lovemaking...complete with kissing, making out, touching, sleeping together and LOTS of emotional stuff! I suddenly realized that I could no longer call myself a bisexual, but that I had become completely homosexual! (Before anyone says anything, I actually LIKE the labels!)

Unlike the way I probably would have reacted to this knowledge in earlier years, I now just sort of basked in the warmth of this personal epiphany and decided to fully embrace my homosexuality. Having done this, the next time Wifey began the affair accusation, I simply looked her in the eye and, gently but firmly said, "Honey, there is no way on earth that I'd want to have an affair with another woman because I don't like women! I like men! I love you, but I am a homosexual...get it?" Well...She sputtered and puffed and just deflated...that ended THAT argument! But that's another interesting story...

So...As you can see, MY "changes" moved me out of my bisexuality and fully into homosexuality, something I've really come to LOVE and enjoy!

Older guys...none of us are alone in this and I would encourage you to think your feelings and desires through, and come to enjoy being who YOU determine that you are! I can tell you this for sure...once you put your mouth on another man's cock and experience the joys and delights of homosexual sex, you will NEVER be the same! I LOVE IT!

Glori

 

[bottomshooter]

Like travler here, I experienced some similar events that contributed to my own "change."

I'm now 62 and my wife of 23 years is 72. About 10 years ago, her vaginal tissues began to thin and our only occasional intercourse became painful. That put an end to the occasional fuck, although she still allows me to eat her periodically. About 5 years ago, we discovered my testosterone level began dropping and with that came ED. Interestingly, when we treated the Low T, the ED continued...but only when it involved her! I love her, but I can no longer get it up for her. However, when I think about sex with men or any porn, I get erect fine!

Now, I began having sex with men, mostly giving blowjobs at first, when I was just 18, and I loved it! From that first experience of being on my knees to service another man's sexual pleasure and my first taste of his cock, I was hooked! 100% addicted! For me, "submission" and a certain femininity developed and became an integral part of me as, when I was with man, I always assumed the female role in servicing his pleasure and submitting to his sexual desires. But, for many reasons, I had to keep my bisexuality and sex activities with other men a deeply guarded secret. I kept my homosexual desires hidden through two marriages and building a family. Fortunately, I lived fairly close to a very cruisey highway rest area and several adult bookstores that had gloryholes in their private video booths, so I was able to regularly satisfy my hunger for sex with men in relative secrecy.

Then, several years ago some emotional things in both Wifey and I reached critical mass and she accused me of having an affair with another woman! I was occasionally giving head in an ABS, but was not having an affair with anyone, let alone a woman! She continued to repeat that accusation over several months and during that time, and making those repeated denials, I began to realize that I was no longer attracted to women AT ALL! Thinking that little fact through, I also realized that I had been finding men more and more attractive over a period of years and that I increasingly hungered to be with horny men! There were flashes of clear realization going off in me like wild now, and this led me to further analysis. I began thinking about my fantasy life a bit more and came to an almost startling conclusion; although my sex fantasies for many years had been solely about sex acts with men, I realized that, for some years now, those fantasies had shifted from simply sex acts, to actual lovemaking...complete with kissing, making out, touching, sleeping together and LOTS of emotional stuff! I suddenly realized that I could no longer call myself a bisexual, but that I had become completely homosexual! (Before anyone says anything, I actually LIKE the labels!)

Unlike the way I probably would have reacted to this knowledge in earlier years, I now just sort of basked in the warmth of this personal epiphany and decided to fully embrace my homosexuality. Having done this, the next time Wifey began the affair accusation, I simply looked her in the eye and, gently but firmly said, "Honey, there is no way on earth that I'd want to have an affair with another woman because I don't like women! I like men! I love you, but I am a homosexual...get it?" Well...She sputtered and puffed and just deflated...that ended THAT argument! But that's another interesting story...

So...As you can see, MY "changes" moved me out of my bisexuality and fully into homosexuality, something I've really come to LOVE and enjoy!

Older guys...none of us are alone in this and I would encourage you to think your feelings and desires through, and come to enjoy being who YOU determine that you are! I can tell you this for sure...once you put your mouth on another man's cock and experience the joys and delights of homosexual sex, you will NEVER be the same! I LOVE IT!

Glori

I love your post. I see some similarities with me. A little over 15 years ago when a gay coworker started making subtle passes at me at work. I didn't know what to do so I played aloof and dumb about it. Looking back I wish I would have had sex with him. Even though I didn't know what to do in real life, I immediately started having fantasies about him when I would masturbate. I didn't every time but when I did, the fantasy would come in bunches and omg I would cum so hard and stay hard. It would bother me so I would push it out of my mind through the years.

Over the years, I eventually discovered shemales but wouldn't masturbate to gay porn vids or pics but then I did start reading gay porn. Long story short (which I've posted on other parts of this site), now, I only masturbate to gay porn and fantasies. I regularly use dildos in my play and fully enjoy watching and thinking about anal sex, cocks erupting, etc.

My fantasies have evolved to the point where I want to have a love affair with a man. I want to make love, kiss, and all of that. My wife thinks I have ED and we use viagra but I don't when I am talking to men and watching gay porn. I can easily cum six or seven times in 8 hours talking to men. Labels don't bother me. In fact I would love my future lover to tell me what a homosexual I am as he is releasing his seed in me.

 

[wishywashy]

I think one can do anything without the passion it deserves. People have sex all the time without intimacy or passion. I do agree that it should be an intimate act. Many guys avoid the word "intimacy," though, because they don't want to be gay or bisexual, I think, and maybe they believe that's where the line is drawn. Personally, I don't want a blow job from a guy who isn't going to do it with passion any more than I want to fuck a woman who isn't fully into it. Sex should always be intimate, even if it's not romantic.


Edited to add: I don't know the answer to the OP's question. Maybe as we get older, we grow farther apart from the conditioning of our youth that told us it was wrong.

Well said because I'm that way.

 

[Luv2SukMOff]

I love your post. I see some similarities with me. A little over 15 years ago when a gay coworker started making subtle passes at me at work. I didn't know what to do so I played aloof and dumb about it. Looking back I wish I would have had sex with him. Even though I didn't know what to do in real life, I immediately started having fantasies about him when I would masturbate. I didn't every time but when I did, the fantasy would come in bunches and omg I would cum so hard and stay hard. It would bother me so I would push it out of my mind through the years.

Over the years, I eventually discovered shemales but wouldn't masturbate to gay porn vids or pics but then I did start reading gay porn. Long story short (which I've posted on other parts of this site), now, I only masturbate to gay porn and fantasies. I regularly use dildos in my play and fully enjoy watching and thinking about anal sex, cocks erupting, etc.

My fantasies have evolved to the point where I want to have a love affair with a man. I want to make love, kiss, and all of that. My wife thinks I have ED and we use viagra but I don't when I am talking to men and watching gay porn. I can easily cum six or seven times in 8 hours talking to men. Labels don't bother me. In fact I would love my future lover to tell me what a homosexual I am as he is releasing his seed in me.

Thanks, bottomshooter...I enjoyed your post as well!

I've been privileged to enjoy sex with A LOT of men over the years, and I don't want to seem greedy, but looking back now, I could have done soooo much more! So many opportunities to visit rest areas and cruisey parks I had heard of and so many more times I could have visited adult bookstores but just didn't go! How dumb was that?!

I, too, love dildo play in my ass and, believe it or not, two new toys just came in the mail today, so I'm psyched to get them in me tonight! Of course, I'll have to convince Wifey of my need, and she may resist, but I think I can bribe her! Ha! But...we'll keep after it!

LOVE THOSE COCKS!!!

Glori

 

[policywank]

Personally I don't think sexuality is as simple as gay, straight or right down the middle bi. I think we all sit somewhere on a continuum and can have at least some nominal curiosity in the same sex if we are open to the possibility. But in youth, men especially, are taught not to be open to the possibility. Over time some people become more open-minded, start to question some of those early teachings and/or become less concerned about the judgment of others.

 

[loverofintersex1]

A blowjob is a blowjob....

I sort of agree it's not all that simple, but neither is it very complicated, once you face up to it, you wouldn't mind sucking a cock or having another guy suck you off. From there, I'm not so sure it's so very far to taking cock up the ass, or putting your cock up another guy's ass either. So yeah, sex is sex, and the childhood divisions get discarded eventually, if you're of adventurous enough a mind -- or you live long enough? -- but still, I think there really is a taboo you've got to get over, too. Gay guys -- faggots -- sissies -- we've all heard the labels, and many of us absorbed the insults, so it's sort of hard for us to let them go, too. Am I right? I know a cock is a cock -- but also, a cock is a cock...! Jeez.

 

[nakedworld]

Personally I don't think sexuality is as simple as gay, straight or right down the middle bi. I think we all sit somewhere on a continuum and can have at least some nominal curiosity in the same sex if we are open to the possibility. But in youth, men especially, are taught not to be open to the possibility. Over time some people become more open-minded, start to question some of those early teachings and/or become less concerned about the judgment of others.

I think that what you say is all very true.

 

[nightjack]

For me it came about as a slow dawning of realisation. I had experienced several guy on guy moments throughout my life from my late teens onwards. At the time each event was considered by me as no more than experimentation, or drunken horniness. Nothing more

All through this i believed that i could only consider myself as straight as i preferred women and had no emotional desire to be woth a guy.

As i have matured, my foundations have shifted, and so has my understanding of myself. I can now look back and understand that my primary drive was to breed, hence my perceived attraction to women, however my sexual self was, and always be bisexual in context.

I am equally attracted to both genders. The overall deciding factor is personality. The joy of making love differs with the person that i am with, but at the end of it all, that is what it is to me. Lovemaking. And at the end of the day the physical aspects of that are as varied as the people who inhabit the world.

 

[scott6251]

I sort of agree it's not all that simple, but neither is it very complicated, once you face up to it, you wouldn't mind sucking a cock or having another guy suck you off. From there, I'm not so sure it's so very far to taking cock up the ass, or putting your cock up another guy's ass either. So yeah, sex is sex, and the childhood divisions get discarded eventually, if you're of adventurous enough a mind -- or you live long enough? -- but still, I think there really is a taboo you've got to get over, too. Gay guys -- faggots -- sissies -- we've all heard the labels, and many of us absorbed the insults, so it's sort of hard for us to let them go, too. Am I right? I know a cock is a cock -- but also, a cock is a cock...! Jeez.

Once I found how natural it felt to take another man in my mouth, I really didn't pay attention to the 'labels'. I realize that there are a lot of us, and it's nice to be able to share the desire.

 

[Jerseyshore]

Like travler here, I experienced some similar events that contributed to my own "change."

I'm now 62 and my wife of 23 years is 72. About 10 years ago, her vaginal tissues began to thin and our only occasional intercourse became painful. That put an end to the occasional fuck, although she still allows me to eat her periodically. About 5 years ago, we discovered my testosterone level began dropping and with that came ED. Interestingly, when we treated the Low T, the ED continued...but only when it involved her! I love her, but I can no longer get it up for her. However, when I think about sex with men or any porn, I get erect fine!

Now, I began having sex with men, mostly giving blowjobs at first, when I was just 18, and I loved it! From that first experience of being on my knees to service another man's sexual pleasure and my first taste of his cock, I was hooked! 100% addicted! For me, "submission" and a certain femininity developed and became an integral part of me as, when I was with man, I always assumed the female role in servicing his pleasure and submitting to his sexual desires. But, for many reasons, I had to keep my bisexuality and sex activities with other men a deeply guarded secret. I kept my homosexual desires hidden through two marriages and building a family. Fortunately, I lived fairly close to a very cruisey highway rest area and several adult bookstores that had gloryholes in their private video booths, so I was able to regularly satisfy my hunger for sex with men in relative secrecy.

Then, several years ago some emotional things in both Wifey and I reached critical mass and she accused me of having an affair with another woman! I was occasionally giving head in an ABS, but was not having an affair with anyone, let alone a woman! She continued to repeat that accusation over several months and during that time, and making those repeated denials, I began to realize that I was no longer attracted to women AT ALL! Thinking that little fact through, I also realized that I had been finding men more and more attractive over a period of years and that I increasingly hungered to be with horny men! There were flashes of clear realization going off in me like wild now, and this led me to further analysis. I began thinking about my fantasy life a bit more and came to an almost startling conclusion; although my sex fantasies for many years had been solely about sex acts with men, I realized that, for some years now, those fantasies had shifted from simply sex acts, to actual lovemaking...complete with kissing, making out, touching, sleeping together and LOTS of emotional stuff! I suddenly realized that I could no longer call myself a bisexual, but that I had become completely homosexual! (Before anyone says anything, I actually LIKE the labels!)

Unlike the way I probably would have reacted to this knowledge in earlier years, I now just sort of basked in the warmth of this personal epiphany and decided to fully embrace my homosexuality. Having done this, the next time Wifey began the affair accusation, I simply looked her in the eye and, gently but firmly said, "Honey, there is no way on earth that I'd want to have an affair with another woman because I don't like women! I like men! I love you, but I am a homosexual...get it?" Well...She sputtered and puffed and just deflated...that ended THAT argument! But that's another interesting story...

So...As you can see, MY "changes" moved me out of my bisexuality and fully into homosexuality, something I've really come to LOVE and enjoy!

Older guys...none of us are alone in this and I would encourage you to think your feelings and desires through, and come to enjoy being who YOU determine that you are! I can tell you this for sure...once you put your mouth on another man's cock and experience the joys and delights of homosexual sex, you will NEVER be the same! I LOVE IT!

Glori

Quite a story and not unlike one I posted earlier. Many people come to peace about being LGBT later in life. That was the case with my partner, who finally came out to himself after years of marriage and two children. We have been a couple for five years and are in our early 60s. I have had other long-term relationships but this is his first.We are very happy together and he is completely comfortable about being gay. He came out about five years before we met but he told me that our relationship made him completely comfortable about being a gay man.

 

[Luv2SukMOff]

Quite a story and not unlike one I posted earlier. Many people come to peace about being LGBT later in life. That was the case with my partner, who finally came out to himself after years of marriage and two children. We have been a couple for five years and are in our early 60s. I have had other long-term relationships but this is his first.We are very happy together and he is completely comfortable about being gay. He came out about five years before we met but he told me that our relationship made him completely comfortable about being a gay man.

It is beautiful to be fully out, isn't it! I can finally say, I LOVE being gay!

 

[BigBear2066]

I became bi curious after a young guy(30ish) began stroking his cock at a urinal next to me at a rest stop. I was 59 at the time. I tried to ignore him but couldn't. I left without responding and got so horny I had to masturbate. I've wanted m2m sex ever since.

 

[PinkPanties4me]

I am also 60 years old and have always loved to wear panties,camisole,etc. Even though I am in a long lasting relationship with a loving wife, she does not have the desire for sex like I do. Since that has happened, I have developed a bi interest. I can not act on it though, because my wife means too much to me. Perhaps talking about with guys with similar situations like my own is what I need to do.