why do men stay with abusive women?

[paganangel]

stripping away the machismo for a moment, we al say the ones who controlthe pussy control it all, but if we are honest with ourselvs, we have to admit there's something else. i have myon theories, but i want to her others first.

 

[islandman]

Who gave this man too much egg-nog?

 

[paganangel]

i deserved that. has been edited.

 

[busybody..]

Angel

Some stay....cause if they left....they will get no pussy again for a looooong while.....

 

[*Eve*]

men stay with absuive women for the same reason women stay with abusive men, low self esteem, or because there are children involved

 

[Dantetier]

I have no idea why women stay with abusive men.... I can't believe it's due to love... maybe fear of retaliation.

My mind couldn't stay in a relationship like that. I'd kill the other person..

 

[Dantetier]

I have no idea why women stay with abusive men.... I can't believe it's due to love... maybe fear of retaliation.

My mind couldn't stay in a relationship like that. I'd kill the other person..

Had I read the thread title correctly, I could have just saved myself embarassment.. Oh well...

 

[islandman]

Who gave this man too much egg-nog?

I've had to come up with alternatives since the spelling buddy died.

 

[metalpalace]

iv never had to deal with an abusive relationship of any kind. Hopefully I never will, but if anything ever comes to that then its time to end it and move on I dont want to tolerate it.

 

[S.Daedalus]

Is this a serious question?

I can give you a serious answer cause I'v been there. But I'm not about to release a peice of me to be joked around with...

You want answer..PM me..cause I just left a relationship of a year and a half of her verbaly, mentaly, physicaly abusing me. And I didn't stay for the sex!

~Stephen

 

[*Eve*]

Stephen, I'm sure anyone who would make fun of you because of this isn't worth responding to, the important thing is that you got out.

 

[paganangel]

of course it's serious. i've said nothing to indicate otherwise. BUT...this is a public forum. i can't be responsible for other people. in fact, i myself am very crass. so if u don't have a thick skin...

 

[S.Daedalus]

Basics of the relationship i was in was your typical I can CHANGE them relationship.

She had come from a very very very abusive background. I had not. I never ever ever held her accountable for anything threw out the relationship. I always blamed it on her past and that this was not her acting out against me as a person but more of her acting out against me as a gender. I took the brunt of everything she hated about men. But i stood threw it cause 'i coudl change her'. I forgave her everytime she would flip out. I understood it when she told me that I have to wake her up everytime i leave the bedroom or that she wanted to have a shower with me every time I showered because she was nervous and scared 'because so and so did this'. So I said..'OK' just to prove to her beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was not THEM and that all men are not the same. I gave in to all her questions everything. THINKING that what it was doing was helping.

It wasn't. It just got more and more controling, more and more abusive. The more I gave in, the more she took and never gave back. I didn't even want to have sex with her. How can you have sex with a woman after they have berated you and dragged you over coals for the past 3hrs?

Finally, my family stepped in and I got the courage to leave...although even then she attempted suicide again. But I realized one thing....she made choices..she made the choices to alow the past to constanlty creep up. And she did nothing to change that. We went to counsiling. I was the only one that stuck with it. She went on meds, soon as she started to feel good she got off them. I don't know what she wanted then and I din't know what she want's now. It still hurts and I still feel like I failed her. But I dont' talk to her, see her or hear about her. But I still feel like I failed her.

Thats how come I stayed in an abusive relationship.

~Stephen

 

[I'mVan]

It's a legitimate question...