WARNING: This is mainly a personal musing, an internal monologue writ large I guess. Read on at your own risk.
A similar thread has been done before but I wanted to get some feedback on my own personal reflections.
I will start with a question: How is a Dom like a sub?
I enjoy a session with a sub on many levels but a very important level to me has little to do with my own satisfaction. For example, I enjoy the marks of a sub vicariously mainly. I enjoy the fact that she is proud of them. I enjoy the fact that she gets a thrill seeing them and recalling the experience. I guess my whole attitude towards being a Dom is similar to what I have heard from some subs...
In many ways the exchange is very much reciprocal: I enjoy the fact that she enjoys pleasing me which in turn motivates me to help her to the place she needs to go, which makes her happy to be pushing herself for me and so on ad infinitum. The whole thing strikes me as having a certain symbiosis.
While I enjoy the discipline, exercising control, correcting her behavior when she is bad and more... the biggest turn on is knowing her needs, her body and her mind well enough to really push her buttons and to use a trite phrase, "play her like an instrument". Now, if only I could find the Gibson ex Huberman to my Joshua Bell...
In many ways I see strong similarities between a loyal sub and a Dom of the description I just gave. Still, I'll be the one giving out the spanking thank you very much. What are your thoughts about Dom and sub similarities or differences?
Ah well, I guess I am feeling wistful (an odd mood for me) and it is time to go back to work.
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Edit: I am back from my meeting. Warning musings continue ahead.
It occurred to me while sitting in a very boring budgeting meeting that my previous post may in some ways be inaccurate. Specifically, my initial thought about satisfaction and its role in the exchange.
It occurs to me that I am perfectly capable of using her for my satisfaction and leaving her gasping, desperately wanting more. At the same time I am capable of toying with her until she explodes in ecstasy without experiencing the same release myself. (Of course in the latter scenario my mind adds the caveat that she wants very much to please me in a similar manner but is denied, having not earned that privilege yet)
So what, given my initial thoughts on the subject does this mean? I am reminded of a quote by Fitzgerald in which, to paraphrase, he stated that one test of the mind is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. My head hasn't exploded yet, but I may be giving myself a headache...
Anyway, I doubt this is the appropriate venue for this so I will continue my musing in private.
A similar thread has been done before but I wanted to get some feedback on my own personal reflections.
I will start with a question: How is a Dom like a sub?
I enjoy a session with a sub on many levels but a very important level to me has little to do with my own satisfaction. For example, I enjoy the marks of a sub vicariously mainly. I enjoy the fact that she is proud of them. I enjoy the fact that she gets a thrill seeing them and recalling the experience. I guess my whole attitude towards being a Dom is similar to what I have heard from some subs...
In many ways the exchange is very much reciprocal: I enjoy the fact that she enjoys pleasing me which in turn motivates me to help her to the place she needs to go, which makes her happy to be pushing herself for me and so on ad infinitum. The whole thing strikes me as having a certain symbiosis.
While I enjoy the discipline, exercising control, correcting her behavior when she is bad and more... the biggest turn on is knowing her needs, her body and her mind well enough to really push her buttons and to use a trite phrase, "play her like an instrument". Now, if only I could find the Gibson ex Huberman to my Joshua Bell...
In many ways I see strong similarities between a loyal sub and a Dom of the description I just gave. Still, I'll be the one giving out the spanking thank you very much. What are your thoughts about Dom and sub similarities or differences?
Ah well, I guess I am feeling wistful (an odd mood for me) and it is time to go back to work.
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Edit: I am back from my meeting. Warning musings continue ahead.
It occurred to me while sitting in a very boring budgeting meeting that my previous post may in some ways be inaccurate. Specifically, my initial thought about satisfaction and its role in the exchange.
It occurs to me that I am perfectly capable of using her for my satisfaction and leaving her gasping, desperately wanting more. At the same time I am capable of toying with her until she explodes in ecstasy without experiencing the same release myself. (Of course in the latter scenario my mind adds the caveat that she wants very much to please me in a similar manner but is denied, having not earned that privilege yet)
So what, given my initial thoughts on the subject does this mean? I am reminded of a quote by Fitzgerald in which, to paraphrase, he stated that one test of the mind is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. My head hasn't exploded yet, but I may be giving myself a headache...
Anyway, I doubt this is the appropriate venue for this so I will continue my musing in private.
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