Why do I at times feel left out at Lit?

[Lovepotion69]

Some people say it's so much easier to meet new people online. Am I the only one who doesn't feel that way?

Online is like real life, you at times have easy to meet new people, other times it takes a while.

And as in real life you sometimes feel as if you don't know anyone, and that nobody seems interested in knowing you.

That's how I've felt today at Lit.

When you were a newbie at Lit, did you find it easy to get to know people? How did you go about doing it? Kept PMing everyone? Got heaps of PMs yourself?

What do I need to do to get friends on this site??!! Take my top off and post a pic of my tits?? Flirt with every man on the board?

 

[Laurel]

Don't feel bad or weird or anything. Making friends online is no easier than offline. People are the same online & off. And even those of us who've been here for years feel left out some days.

*hugs*

Just get involved in threads, respond to people you think are interesting, and the rest is cake.

 

[Wiggles]

I just stuck around and posted everywhere. Eventually people figured out that they just had to deal with me.

I have those days too. I think they're our moods effecting us, more than the whole board becoming unfriendly.

Sometimes I just need to find something else to do. Reading is a great alternative.

Hope you feel better soon Lp.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

I feel the same way. If you are able to figure out a way to make friends easily here I want to know.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Maybe because you're not psychotic like the rest of us.

 

[penguindance]

 

[AusTess]

What do I need to do to get friends on this site??!! Take my top off and post a pic of my tits?? Flirt with every man on the board?

That worked for me.

 

[cybergirly]

It's not any easier than real life, you still have to be yourself. Go with Laurels advice, respond to people you find interesting. Don't be afraid to talk to anyone, and have fun.

It is much easier to ignore people online though..lol

 

[nasty]

I felt that at times. It's pretty shitty, but, ya just gotta keep trying. What I've done, is, post a thread that blatantly asks if you're being ignored. If they respond, or, even look at the thread, then, chances are pretty damn good you're not being ignored.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Thanks Laurel,
It just hit me today when speaking to Juicylips that I don't really know anyone but her, Starblayde, and now slowly getting to know Wizbit.

I'd love to get to know more people, and I know as in real life it takes time. He he I guess I'm similar online to offline too. I normally observe, participate, but somehow manages to stay in the corner without many noticing me.

But really, I'm a nice gal when you get to know me!

Hm...people, do feel free to send PMs to me!

 

[MissTaken]

WE all feel left out at times, regardless of time on the boards or number of posts.

Even on a day where I get many pm's, I can feel left out with one seemingly ignored post.

However, we all read other's posts. Our stuff gets read. It is just that people don't always have anything to say or add .

I think you are cool and have read many of your posts.

Hang around a bit.

Friends will come along soon enough.

Good Friends.

Great Friends.

Wonderful Friends.

 

[naudiz]

I think that feeling happens to lots of people.

It comes and goes with me. Some nights I feel like I'm really clicking here. Some nights I just don't have a damned thing to say, and nothing is interesting me. No PMs, no lovin'. It's frustrating, but it always turns around.

Stick around. Tough it out. I think you'll find that more people read (and are interested in) what you have to say than you'd think. I've tossed out stuff that never got a response only to see it mentioned days, weeks, or months down the road. I also read a lot of threads that interest me, but I don't respond, because either someone said it better than I could, or I just don't have anything constructive to add. However, I do pay attention, and I do remember what was posted.

I just assume these days for every person who replies, there are five others saying, "Me, too!" Even if that's not true, my fragile ego will take all the stroking it can get, and there's no service like self-service.

I'm still a threadkiller. I don't think I've ever created a thread that made it past two pages. Man, that used to piss me off! Doesn't anymore. Just keep replying to what interests you, say something if you've got something to say, and know that things will pick up.

But, hey. If you want to show us boobies, far be it from me to say no. *leer*

 

[LukkyKnight]

When you were a newbie at Lit, did you find it easy to get to know people? How did you go about doing it? Kept PMing everyone? Got heaps of PMs yourself?

What do I need to do to get friends on this site??!! Take my top off and post a pic of my tits?? Flirt with every man on the board?

I've heard that worked for AusTess, but I have lousy tits. I think in most cases it creates something akin to a feeding frenzy, but if you can deal with that eventually the meat separates from the chum - probably.

I went for individuals, not quantity. I read things that I found interesting and replied to them, then sort of kept my eyes open for other things that same person read, and in particular for threads they started. Every so often I'd send a PM, nothing much, just along the lines of "I enjoy reading what you're adding to the thread on Lesbian Jugglers from Vermont" or whatever it happened to be. I recall nearly falling over when I got a few unsolicited PMs saying sort of the same thing to me...

Personally, I don't think the tits are such a big deal even though I like 'em a lot. After all, part of the beauty of the net is that it masks physical differences, so why lead with them?

 

[red_rose]

You could post teaser pics.

Those work, too.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Good advice has already been given. I guess I feel a bit like you, too, Lovepotion. I've been here a little over two months and the first month was not so great. But then I decided, what the heck, I enjoy reading lots of the posts here, I respond to those that interest me that I think I can add something to. Often, what I say seems to go overlooked. But, I don't think of it as being left out so much as I just haven't stormed my way in.
But today was my last day of work, summer vacation began today, so I'll have lots more free time..a storm could be in the air. At least, I know I'll be around more and that will possibly lead me to feeling more a part of the group here.

 

[xMorganx]

Sure i feel left out, but thats b/c i don't always have the most cleverist idea or the wittyist thing to say. but i am still a newbie. I guess it will take some time. plus i have a pretty boring name. (how dare i listen to my roomate for ideas)...hehehe oh well i will go back to the comfy couch now

 

[Wiggles]

enjoyingitall

You have a beautiful smile. I was thinking that earlier today, just thought I'd share.

 

[enjoyingitall]

enjoyingitall

You have a beautiful smile. I was thinking that earlier today, just thought I'd share.

Aww. thanks, Wiggles. Very sweet of you.

 

[celiaKitten]

heh, LP69, there are days (hell, even weeks) when it seems the whole board is just pissing and moaning at each other, butting heads and what not.

But, it took me quite awhile to make friends here, but it does happen. Maybe start some threads about things your interested in ... or, like I did, start stupid threads that let people be silly.

OR .. like this..

Hi! My name is Cat, it is faboo to meet you!

 

[LukkyKnight]

Nice to meet you, faboo - have you had the pleasure of meeting our hostess, Lovepotion69?

 

[patient1]

Just get involved in threads, respond to people you think are interesting, and the rest is cake.

That's what I did. share compliments. notice new avs. Let people know when they make you laugh. Some people are trying hard to be funny on every post, & need to know they're appreciated. People will get used to you & start talking to you. Flirting won't be far behind.

I think it's important that you take an interest in other people's interests before you try your own threads.

If you do start a thread, respond to each & every person that posts to it. That's the tigerjen method, and it makes friends.

If Juicylips is your friend, ask her to let you tag along & would she please introduce you. She's quite extroverted.
She's pretty extroverted.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I don't know. It seems like you've already been given some good advice or at least food for thought.

Participate. That's key. If you want to make friends then observe the people on the board and find a few that seem to jive with you (whether they know it or not!) and then approach them either on the board, or through the private message feature. I lurked a long time before registering here. I pretty much knew who I liked before they knew who I was! When someone new came to the board that struck my fancy I stepped up to the plate and sent a pm saying hello. Lukkyknight was one of them!

It takes time. It takes patience and sometimes it takes a pretty thick skin. It requires letting down your guard a little when it seems like that's the last thing you might want to do. Reach out to us and share yourself. Be yourself. You're gonna be just fine.

 

[Cheyenne]

And even those of us who've been here for years feel left out some days.

Yup! I even started a thread once called "I feel invisible." That was after I'd been here for about 1 1/2 years, too.

 

[joolushko]

Some people say it's so much easier to meet new people online. Am I the only one who doesn't feel that way?

Online is like real life, you at times have easy to meet new people, other times it takes a while.

And as in real life you sometimes feel as if you don't know anyone, and that nobody seems interested in knowing you.

That's how I've felt today at Lit.

When you were a newbie at Lit, did you find it easy to get to know people? How did you go about doing it? Kept PMing everyone? Got heaps of PMs yourself?

What do I need to do to get friends on this site??!! Take my top off and post a pic of my tits?? Flirt with every man on the board?

I feel like that everyday of my life. On here, over there, everywhere. I really don't know anyone at this site. I have had very few PMs to speak of. Sometimes I feel like I am on the outside of an inside joke.

Why do I keep coming? I find some of the post rather amusing. After lurking at the main site for so long, I just decided to come on over and look at the boards. I enjoy the silly games but nothing really stand out as making me feel like I belong.

 

[Guest]

Some people say it's so much easier to meet new people online. Am I the only one who doesn't feel that way?

Online is like real life, you at times have easy to meet new people, other times it takes a while.

And as in real life you sometimes feel as if you don't know anyone, and that nobody seems interested in knowing you.

That's how I've felt today at Lit.

When you were a newbie at Lit, did you find it easy to get to know people? How did you go about doing it? Kept PMing everyone? Got heaps of PMs yourself?

What do I need to do to get friends on this site??!! Take my top off and post a pic of my tits?? Flirt with every man on the board?

I have found it more like real life also. Sometimes I strike up conversation or banter with someone and feel I've met a new friend, or at least a friendly acquaintance.

At first, some times when I didn't get any answer I thought....hmmmm, am I being ignored. Am I butting in. Maybe I was but maybe also there was nothing to say in response.

The longer I keep coming here the more I run into friendly faces. I feel lucky that I found one special friendship that has clicked into place here.

And Joo, if you need a friend, you can talk to me.