Why are straight people offended at Homosexuality???

[GuitarRocker]

I'm a straight guy, and I find nothing wrong with homosexuality. It isn't that bad. I don't know why straight people think homosexuality is disgusting when it's not IMO.

I don't know if I will ever have sex with a man but I always thought about it. I find naked men very attractive and I do get a hard on when seeing naked men.

I don't think it makes a straight man gay 'cause he finds naked men attractive when he never had sex with a man before.

It makes a man gay if you have both sexual and "serious" relationships with a man.

It doesn't make a straight guy gay 'cause he fantasizes being gay or it doesn't make a guy gay 'cause he enjoys staring at pictures of nude men.

I like to look at nude men. I like the hardness of a man's body. Plus, the cock is cool to look at.

Any thoughts?

 

[Reshbod]

I believe it is simply the "ick" factor. Being straight myself, when I was younger I felt that being physical with a man was, frankly, gross. As far as I knew, I did not know any gay people, they were unknown and "alien" to me. In fact when I had my first gay dream, I woke up feeling sick to my stomach and couldn't go back to sleep for a while. The dream wasn't even that graphic, basically I just rubbed a guys crotch through his jeans, but that was enough.

As I got older, went to college and actually met gay people, I realized that they weren't "alien" at all. They were just average people, some were cool, others were jerks. Then when I became an atheist, the arguement that god created Adam and Eve... seemed silly and childish. I decided that since life is short, if you find someone who makes you happy, go for it. It's not like it is my business anyway.

Through my previous job, I got to know quite a few gay men and we even hung out together occasionally. We would go out for drinks, sometimes straight bars, other times gay bars. After a little while, the shock wears off and it is no big deal to see two men kissing, dancing etc.

While I do love women, I have of late actually been able to appreciate mens bodies as well. There are a couple of gay sites that I will often visit and appreciate the male body. I would even be willing, if the situation was right, to have a gay relationship. So far I have never been approached and most likely won't make the first move, but I do often hope that I will have such a relationship sometime.

Finally I just want to add that I prefer a nice ass, but the cock is not bad either.

Not sure if this answers your question, perhaps I shouldn't post here after having several beers.

 

[GuitarRocker]

Great post

Great post man.

I too happen to enjoy looking at gay porn very much. I find two guys giving each other a blowjob or banging each other in the ass is pretty fascination and different.

Just because I like men, does not mean I'll stop loving the women. I love women very much sexually and personally.

I'm 28 years old, I'm a virgin still, never had a relationship with either gender, so if I can't ever get a woman, I'll have relationship with a man if I have to. Having relationship with a man should be different than a woman.

 

[Wolk]

"I don't know why straight people think homosexuality is disgusting when it's not IMO."

Get the point from my bolding? It's an opinion (and usually a subconscious one at that), not a universal truth. Why do some people like boiled corn and others, like me, can't stand the sight of it?

People are different, that's why. The key is to not let yourself think that your way is the one and only way that everyone has to take. Nothing wrong with thinking homosexual acts are disgusting; one just shouldn't bash people who engage in those acts. It's their own business.

 

[pervert_harmless]

i am married and happy, i have lived with gays before, i have lesbian friends and several gays.
i have never found it an issue, i dont get offended.
i dont even mind men kissing. i may draw the line at full blown penatration, but they say they wouldnt want to see me and the wife at it either.
i feel i am open minded. i have defended my friends when some man who thinks it wrong. these type of blokes who despise it so much, always seem to come across just a bit to much like the missing link in evolution.

all i say is each to there own.

if your male and you fancy men then good on ya. most blokes seem to think that being gay is the old, dont drop the soap scene, it is not, my friends when were out have the same principles for dating as i would.

if a bloke grabs your ass and your male he deserves a slap, but he also deserves it if your female.

 

[DarKirby]

"I don't know why straight people think homosexuality is disgusting when it's not IMO."

Get the point from my bolding? It's an opinion (and usually a subconscious one at that), not a universal truth. Why do some people like boiled corn and others, like me, can't stand the sight of it?

People are different, that's why. The key is to not let yourself think that your way is the one and only way that everyone has to take. Nothing wrong with thinking homosexual acts are disgusting; one just shouldn't bash people who engage in those acts. It's their own business.

Well said. However, being as how "disgusting" is a subjective term anyway, nothing can be universally disgusting. A lot of people interpret it to be what the most people agree with, but if that were how it worked, this would be one messed up world. Fetishes would not exist.
You bring up an interesting point, though. There is no biological reason for people to think homosexual acts are disgusting regardless of orientation...it's a product of our society. But I guess we can't really hold one accountable for living in today's world, if they're just in a different part of it, especially if they're more exposed to people who find such acts disgusting. I wish people would "countercondition", though...if (straight) people would just look at pictures of men and realize you can be neither turned on by nor disgusted by it, I think people would be a lot more accepting of the GLBT community.

 

[zartol]

To most of the general public, gay is seen as 'just a bunch of hedonistic, sodomizing flamers'... over the top or whatever. This is sad. They don't see gays as real people who have lives and needs and love and humanity and who, for the most part, are very decent and good.

I also think that some people 'fear' gays in that they are afraid to see them for fear of seeing something of themselves.

 

[onceburned]

I also think that some people 'fear' gays in that they are afraid to see them for fear of seeing something of themselves.

Yes, and these same people may be a bit envious too. They feel an attraction to homosexuality but can't allow themselves to be homosexual (for whatever reason) so they feel an anger towards those who do allow themselves that freedom.

 

[chrk1]

ok. i give up. what does imo mean?

 

[Nabokov]

I think some straight people are offended by gay people only because they can be ignorant of what being gay means. The advantage of being part of the mainstream is that they can continue to remain clueless about those things that do not follow their norms. Without a reason to see the other point of view, people basically don't. Tolerance is only relevant when people have incentive to be tolerant.

 

[Wolfman1982]

ok. i give up. what does imo mean?

IMO = in my opinion

IMHO = in my honest opinion, or in my humble opinion or something similar.

 

[FLBob]

there was actually a study on this. 2 groups of men were compiled, 1 of straight men who were ok with gays and 1 group of straight men who had a real hatred for gays. They made these 2 groups watch gay porn and monitor they're responses. Results - the anti-gay men were far more responsive and turned on by gay porn than the other group.

 

[SensualMan]

What a load of shit...

"there was actually a study on this"

Who did the study? Where? When? You can't just post random shit like that and expect to not be challenged on it.

Anyway, who cares if some poeple have a problem with homosexuals? Everyone has certain prejudices and preferences and you will never force everyone to accept you. Why do certain members of the gay community feel it is some sort of noble calling to one day force all people to accept gays? It does not matter what socio-economic, cultural, religious, or sexual group you find yourself alligned with, there will be those in the world that will not like you.

 

[JustSkye]

^^^^ *Stalk* ^^^^

 

[yoshimitsu]

Like people have said it's all social programming. Ask someone who strongly dislikes homosexuality what is moraly or otherwise wrong with it and the best awnsers I have heard are you will go to hell, it's just not natural, or something about STDs. IMO those have nothing to do with the moral question of right and wrong. Usually they just won't know why, it's just icky.

Anyway, who cares if some poeple have a problem with homosexuals? Everyone has certain prejudices and preferences and you will never force everyone to accept you. Why do certain members of the gay community feel it is some sort of noble calling to one day force all people to accept gays? It does not matter what socio-economic, cultural, religious, or sexual group you find yourself alligned with, there will be those in the world that will not like you.

I don't have a particular problem with people who have a problem with homosexuals. I have a problem with people who are closed minded. I have a problem with people who have a problem with something or a view soley on somehting just because mommy and daddy did. You should sit down and approach everything from every possible angle and determine for yourself your own awnsers, especially things you have a strong mental or emotional reaction to. I dare any inteligent person to approach homosexualty from this angle and find a problem with it. It still may not turn them on but that's fine. As long as their open to it.

Now my only problem as a bi curious guy is I love the thought of playing with another man, laying him on his back and sitting down on his hard cock. The only problem is most of them are so hairy and sweaty and mannish. Some day I will find a cute little boi to fool around with.
(Just to clarify things I mean little boi not "little boi ")

 

[Raimondin]

I'm a straight guy, and I find nothing wrong with homosexuality. It isn't that bad. I don't know why straight people think homosexuality is disgusting when it's not IMO.

Any thoughts?

Well, it's almost like "Hey I'm a gay guy, and I find nothing wrong with heterosexuality." I think it goes both ways. People tend to reject what they don't understand.

Although in my case I actually have more heterosexual friends than gay friends. Certainly not intentionally or by choice, but more by coincidence. Or it can be a case of "Some of my best friends are..." It all depends on one's perspective.

I think the issue here is maybe straight people are only thinking or picturing in their minds the actual "sex act" ( gay or lesbian), rather than accepting or understanding homosexuality as an actual way of being.

 

[KharisLeaf82]

"there was actually a study on this"

Who did the study? Where? When? You can't just post random shit like that and expect to not be challenged on it.

Anyway, who cares if some poeple have a problem with homosexuals? Everyone has certain prejudices and preferences and you will never force everyone to accept you. Why do certain members of the gay community feel it is some sort of noble calling to one day force all people to accept gays? It does not matter what socio-economic, cultural, religious, or sexual group you find yourself alligned with, there will be those in the world that will not like you.

I will now genuflect at this post... <genuflects like a good girl. . .

*Kharis*

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

It's partly the fact that we as a society are so conditioned one way or the other about a lot of things. In this case, that sex is "supposed" to be between a man and a woman only. Some people can't get past that. Others feel threatened by the thought of a person of the same sex lusting after them.

I've gotten past all of that, but I admit, I used to feel the same way.

 

[none2_none2]

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Anyway, who cares if some poeple have a problem with homosexuals? Everyone has certain prejudices and preferences and you will never force everyone to accept you. Why do certain members of the gay community feel it is some sort of noble calling to one day force all people to accept gays? It does not matter what socio-economic, cultural, religious, or sexual group you find yourself alligned with, there will be those in the world that will not like you.

Everybody strives for acceptance. You'd like to think that IF someone finds out your are gay, that you won't loose your job, won't get kicked out of your church, won't alienate your family or friends. I was never part of the gay rights movement, but I'm sure glad that things have changed over the decades thanks to their efforts. It took a lot of courage for those individuals to come forward and say they would no longer live under the yoke of society's shame; they would no longer let society tell them that they were mentally ill or spiritually evil or defective.

Sure there will always be people who dislike gays, but I bet there is a fewer percentage of the population that feel that way verses in the past.

I think the issue here is maybe straight people are only thinking or picturing in their minds the actual "sex act" ( gay or lesbian), rather than accepting or understanding homosexuality as an actual way of being.

I'm sorry, I cannot relate to what you are saying. Yes I crave the love of certain others of my same gender, and I express it sexually by mounting them. However, my sexuality is not my entire "being"...

I have fair skin which means I have to adapt to ways to moderate the sunlights affect on my skin. My not-so-perfect hearing on one side means I have to adjust to how I determine the direction of sound. My height means I have to avoid blocking peoples view when in a crowd, or remember that I need to stoop when going in places that were designed for smaller people. My hormones mean I have to shave my face if I don't want a beard. (Unfortunately, my genetics don't have enough hair for my face and body to brag.) My gender and age mean that pretty soon, I'm going to have to watch out for prostate problems. My right handed-ness means my left hand doesn't do as complex a tasks. My age affects where I am in life vs those much younger or those much older. The part of the US I'm from, my generation, the religion of my upbringing, etc.., these have an affect on my world view. Of all these things and more I could mention, not any one of them alone are my total being, but they all come together to affect who I am.

So to say somehow that I should either elevate my sexuality and say this is is the overwhelming aspect of my life that makes me who I am isn't any more accurate than saying it has no affect at all. It's just one facet of my total being. If someone ELSE makes it a big part of who I am, its because THEY are putting that part of my life under a microscope where it doesn't belong.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

It's because of all the fake covers..
Who IS real in society?I always hear 'cool' words from idiots and see them brag for meaningless things.
It's just this:"In today's society you are what you SHOW."
A friend of mine told me that and it made me really sad in a way.
Why should anyone show something other than his true self?
-The answer is simple:to be part of a group.to be cool.
Most times people want to be one with the mass.
And it seems awfully weird to them that some people actually want to be themselves.They're kinda jealous.Maybe pissed off too..
So they just make fun of the different and original.
Being Bi/gay/les is no different than liking different types of food, or having different kinds of hobbies.It's as simple as that..

The world doesn't only make a fuss out off homo/bi-sexuals.
There are other people that have it hard too.The so-called geeks.
In the end it's only because people can't understand something that they don't like it or are afraid of it.It's because they are ignorant.
Well..Ignorance is bliss..

 

[DarkAurora]

I'm sorry, I cannot relate to what you are saying. Yes I crave the love of certain others of my same gender, and I express it sexually by mounting them. However, my sexuality is not my entire "being"...

What he means is that people always think of the sexual act and never the day-to-day life of a same-sex couple. People never think of gay couples as just regular couples doing normal things like going to the grocery store or Wal-Mart, or going out for a romantic dinner.

 

[none2_none2]

What he means is that people always think of the sexual act and never the day-to-day life of a same-sex couple. People never think of gay couples as just regular couples doing normal things like going to the grocery store or Wal-Mart, or going out for a romantic dinner.

I totally understand what you are saying, but that isn't what I got from what he wrote. It concerns me to hear the phrase "...rather than accepting or understanding homosexuality as an actual way of being."

My sexuality is not my way of being. Its just one SMALL part of what makes me "me". Quite frankly, as I get older I think that most of the impact that my sexuality had on my being were due to the social expectations of our culture. That aside, I think I would have made the same choices in life (except of course for sex/romantic partners) if some how I woke up one day and was straight.

 

[Raimondin]

I totally understand what you are saying, but that isn't what I got from what he wrote. It concerns me to hear the phrase "...rather than accepting or understanding homosexuality as an actual way of being."

My sexuality is not my way of being. Its just one SMALL part of what makes me "me". Quite frankly, as I get older I think that most of the impact that my sexuality had on my being were due to the social expectations of our culture. That aside, I think I would have made the same choices in life (except of course for sex/romantic partners) if some how I woke up one day and was straight.

Ok, I can understand you not understanding what I meant.

Look, homsexuality or "being" gay involves much more than just fucking some other guy. Only this is the part that offends heterosexuals, as the thread here states. Your sexuality is absolutely part of who your are. How can you state that it isn't?
Yes, it's only one small part of who you are, but it's that one small part that's offending them. You know, the sucking and fucking part of your "being," you, your person, yourself, the sexual part of you that contributes to the total of who and what you are, If gay is what you are.

Homosexuality isn't just a sexual act, which is what I was stating. It's only "one" part of what makes us the sexual and human "beings" that we are as gay people.

 

[SensualMan]

Missing the point...

Unless I am wrong, the original post that started this thread asked about straight people being offended by homosexuality....which is a question that addresses the acceptance issue. The issue of society at large ACCEPTING homosexuals is a very different issue than that of legal or social equality. A lot of the posts on here talk of the difficult struggle for equality and that is great, but that is not the same as acceptance. I am talking strictly from a personal perspective when I say you will never be able to make everyone in the straight community accept your lifestyle. I know it is splitting hairs, but I feel it is an important distinction that needs to be made. In this free society, straight people are just as free to not like you because you are gay as you are to be gay. Acceptance cannot be forced in a free society, only legal and social equality can. That principle can be applied to any characteristic that makes people different from one another, not just homosexuality.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

I don't think it's that much of a different issue.If people aren't offended by homosexuality, then they accept it's existence without treating gays/lesbians like trash.
Not liking you because you are gay means that someone feels offended by your sexuality, thus not accepting the sexuality itself.
If you ask somebody why being gay is wrong, they'll say stupid reasons like:
"men liking men is gross","They don't accept their nature".

I would feel more at ease if they actually had one or two VALID reasons, but they just say whatever comes to their mind.I don't care much what their personal opinion is, but I don't want them to go saying:"Gays SUCK!They're not normal!".Just say you don't like the idea of being gay..

In the end,If you find the reasons why people don't accept gay/bi/les people then you have probably found out why they are offended by homosexuality.
Or I am simply wrong??