Why Are Men Such Coldhearted Assholes???

[Avery_Chisholm]

was having a fab nite with luver up to the point where its after and all I want to do is to be tightly snuggled played with alittle just for him to show some god damn emotion(sry lord)he gives' me attitude about tryin to unbutton his t-shirt because I cannot stop feeling his body up but it wasn't cause I just had to fuck him again I just wanted to feel his body and feel a bit more closer to him and then just when I think it coudn't get any worse or ackward he drives' me back to my car leaves' the engine runnin but doesn't say anything got the silent vibe of get the fuck out of my car I never have let him go in the pass without inhaling his tonsils' 1 last time but was soo sick to my stomach at the way he treated me couldn't bring myself to even look at him so got my stuff opened the door SLAMMED his door(I wonder if he got the hint that i'm pissed off?? ya think??)got into my car still couldn't look at him at drove the fuck away WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh am DONE with men

 

[Black_Bird]

There are still a few good ones out there...

We're hiding under rocks.

 

[Sillyman]

Thousands of books have been devoted to this very subject. I don't think I could explain in totality all the reasons in a single post and keep them readable by the general public of Lit.

 

[Frimost]

Because we are all evil, mean, demonic bastards that are no good and out to get you and tear apart your tender little heart.

What? thats what you want to hear, isn't it?

HINT: Maybe it because you date assholes!

 

[Private Vasquez]

Too much ruffage in their diets.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Too much ruffage in their diets.

Nah... not enough roughage in the diet. I don't get any roughage and I'm a grade A certified asshole. (Got the certificate to prove it)

 

[Starfish]

Today is my fourth wedding anniversary. I've spent the first two hours of it in tears. I just wanted to say that you definitely aren't alone.

 

[Up Too Late]

don't give up hope
okay I'm being redundant, but there's a lot of good guys out there, ones that will long for you to snuggle up close.

I wish I had someone to snuggle with!

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Because we are all evil, mean, demonic bastards that are no good and out to get you and tear apart your tender little heart.

What? thats what you want to hear, isn't it?

HINT: Maybe it because you date assholes!

You are being unnecessarily mean, Frimost. Just what AC needs after an awful night.

AC - is he usually like this? Maybe he's upset about something else?

 

[SleepingWarrior]

You are being unnecessarily mean, Frimost. Just what AC needs after an awful night.

AC - is he usually like this? Maybe he's upset about something else?

What exactly was so mean about it? It's just calling a spade a spade.

 

[Samuari]

I hope that i don't generate that kind of responce from my lovers, but if you don't tell us what you want, you may not get it. Mind reading is a very rare comodity.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

What exactly was so mean about it? It's just calling a spade a spade.

ohhhh, come on!!! well, actually, I guess the title of the thread IS a little provoking, but.........

 

[koalabear]

He has to keep his bad boy image, after all that is what attracted you to him.

 

[dreamer]

The title is VERY prevoking...I assure you any story of men being an asshole I can match with two of women and how they have this knack of stomping on my heart...particularly after I have treated them great.

A lot of men are assholes...the problem is women put up with that, they accept it and think it is normal. Then when they do stumble upon a good guy they don't know how to behave and end up using all those lessons they've learned from the idiot guys that got to them first.

AC, I am terribly sorry you had such a rotton night. Please accept my assurances that we are NOT all like that. If this behaviour is at all regular with him then just get out. Don't accept men like that as representative of all of us. It isn't.

 

[Suzi]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....

Well, to start with, you cannot pigeonhole ALL men in one generalization. I agree, men DO have alot in common, but being "assholes" is not one of them.

Blackbird: under rocks can be an accurate assessment, cuz we DO have to dig to find a good man

Frimost: your description only fits a fraction of the population of men in the free world.

Starfish: I'm truly sorry your anniversary was so dismal!

 

[tswyk]

There are still a few good ones out there...

We're hiding under Cocks.

Sorry! Couldn't resist!!!


Don't give up hope, honey - as Suzi says, you do have to DIG a little! And, remember, YOU decide what is acceptable treatment by others.

Yes, pain and hurt are a part of life - and sometimes beyond our control - and not always to be viewed with regret, either.

But...you've been given a warning, some insight into this person's true self - what you do with that information is up to YOU.

Good luck -

 

[markb325]

Like BB said there is still a few of us around, but it is a very few.

 

[SXCRgirl]

AC, I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time. Not all men are assholes, so I'm told anyway. You don't need to take this from him if he's normally like this. If he isn't, talk to him about it. Some men have a problem expressing their feelings or emotions or some of them don't really know how.

Sit down together at a comfortable place and talk about your feelings. If he is willing to work with you on this, you'll find that things will get a lot better. But, there ARE other options and don't choose to stay in a situation that makes you miserable. Life is too short to spend it in tears.

It will get better and you will find that one person that will treat you with respect and kindness. You might want to look inside yourself and be happy and then the rest will follow.

Starfish - I hope that your anniversary got better.

 

[floridaguy64]

My heartfelt ............("words?")........

was having a fab nite with luver up to the point where its after and all I want to do is to be tightly snuggled played with alittle just for him to show some god damn emotion(sry lord)he gives' me attitude about tryin to unbutton his t-shirt because I cannot stop feeling his body up but it wasn't cause I just had to fuck him again I just wanted to feel his body and feel a bit more closer to him and then just when I think it coudn't get any worse or ackward he drives' me back to my car leaves' the engine runnin but doesn't say anything got the silent vibe of get the fuck out of my car I never have let him go in the pass without inhaling his tonsils' 1 last time but was soo sick to my stomach at the way he treated me couldn't bring myself to even look at him so got my stuff opened the door SLAMMED his door(I wonder if he got the hint that i'm pissed off?? ya think??)got into my car still couldn't look at him at drove the fuck away WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh am DONE with men

I feel deeply for your troubles with your man sweetie........ really I do. I have been on the reverse side of the same situation many a time.

To me it seems, there is a mind set involved. One of personal space........ do the deed, distance one's self from the situation...... live another day to repeat it all over again.

Please believe me when I tell you that all men are not like the scenario you presented............ nor from my standpoint are all women.......... some people just seem to need untethered, un-committed "sex"........ nothing more, nothing less.

As do you seem to want........... I too prefer intimacy that evolves into flesh against flesh cuddling, snuggling, and just all night long hugging/touching/squeezing.......................... to me, intimacy comes first................ whoever cums next is just a bonus of the situation!

 

[calypso_21]

There are still a few good ones out there...

We're hiding under rocks.

Where the hell are the rocks then?

 

[celiaKitten]

I think it's written in the Good Book somewhere .. I dunno, hon.

 

[Carl East]

Thank the lord I'm nothing like this, I am however your average horny devil, the difference though is I know how to treat a lady.

Carl

 

[Calamity Jane]

I'm sorry, but is this a serious question?

Seems a little like asking why women are such fucking idiots. You date an asshole and expect him to treat you nicely? Why? Because you're such a gem?

I'd recommend knocking the chip off your shoulder and finding a new guy.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

Hugs starfish sry hun
thanks for the wise advice all am sry to report that me and my hun broke up WAHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

 

[DevilBoy79]

was having a fab nite with luver up to the point where its after and all I want to do is to be tightly snuggled played with alittle just for him to show some god damn emotion(sry lord)he gives' me attitude about tryin to unbutton his t-shirt because I cannot stop feeling his body up but it wasn't cause I just had to fuck him again I just wanted to feel his body and feel a bit more closer to him and then just when I think it coudn't get any worse or ackward he drives' me back to my car leaves' the engine runnin but doesn't say anything got the silent vibe of get the fuck out of my car I never have let him go in the pass without inhaling his tonsils' 1 last time but was soo sick to my stomach at the way he treated me couldn't bring myself to even look at him so got my stuff opened the door SLAMMED his door(I wonder if he got the hint that i'm pissed off?? ya think??)got into my car still couldn't look at him at drove the fuck away WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh am DONE with men

some guys are slow on the uptake trust me, i went before with out realizing IA was mad at me,