Why Always Hot Chat and Fuck Buddies?

[CicatrixESP]

Just a thought, but doesn't anyone just enjoy conversation--no expectations and leading nowhere--for the sake of it? Flirty emails and PM's nothing more nothing less. Or sharing a bottle of wine online? Ok, sex is on the brain, but let's be realistic. Who wants to meet a creep from the internet. Must be my own wine talking I guess.

A less untoward personal would be a refreshing breeze in this wind tunnel of groins and ass cracks.

 

[wolfie69]

Ummmmmmm

Cause it's Literotica? and not the Mormon dating service!

 

[sensualsweetie]

I happen to enjoy conversation like you described and wish more men would be open to it. This may not be a "mormon dating service", but it's not a porn site either! All he's asking for is a sensual conversation engaging the mind (where it all starts anyway), instead of a few minutes of dirty talk and a quick jerk. Sounds wonderful to me

 

[pete]

yeah for me, good normal conversation with someone who's funny, intelligent and cute, with some sexy innuendo and flirtyness thrown in, is always better than just jumping right into the hot & heavy.

a good build up always makes for better pleasure, yeah?

 

[rmapsgy]

ditto

I agree... this should be the basis for a sign-in sheet...

 

[hazeleyesG]

I agree. I want to find someone that I can talk to for hours.. havent found that person yet.

 

[rmapsgy]

why dont u and i get started hazel?

 

[kezes]

I would have to agree, someone to talk to would be a lot better.

 

[Eeyore007]

I love good convo too

Maybe I'm just naive but seems to me most hot chats start out with a little conversation. At least mine have. I need a little connection before I get going.

 

[Katze]

Love to talk

I agree, the best connections start with good conversation. I would also like to find more unattached guys versus married men that just seem to want to use my time for a sexual outlet or escape. Not all the attached guys here do that kind of thing, but it's been common in my experience.

 

[fun2kissamy]

I also agree.
I like to talk to someone and get to know them. I am attracted to someone's likes, dislikes....and the way they can describe how they spent their. It is nice to have someone who will just chat with you and share. I have found many of those people...and have lost a few as well. They are out there though.

I know my self worth. The question is, can you afford me?

 

[Needfull Thing]

I'll chime in with another agreement. It's hard to find someone who will actually talk to you. Don't get me wrong the other stuff is good too but its so much better with someone you really have begun to click with. I wish I could find a young lady willing to get to know me. That takes more than 5 minutes.

 

[rmapsgy]

well its good we're all in agreement. now we need to figure out how to work it. ideas?

 

[Needfull Thing]

well its good we're all in agreement. now we need to figure out how to work it. ideas?

Umm...gene splicing and cloning? A testtube mate program. I wonder if the gov would give anyone a grant for that?

 

[Thomps316]

Thought you'd like to know

I just put up a new thread today that might interest you. Its a thread where people can post what they like for cybersex and how others can contact them.

Not sure how to put a link here so just copy and past to browser.


http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=534914

 

[thewhereare]

i agree as well - i think it's important to chat with other people, learn common interests, and to connect with someone on a certain level before any kind of sexual activity. but a problem i've found both in the past and recently is that some people see their chatting experiences as a chance at lifelong friendship. there's nothing wrong with that, but it's harsh assumption to make that the person on the other end is going to commit themselves to you in any way (for longer than that conversation at least).

part of the fun and excitement of chatting (especially sexual) is the fact that you can turn it off at any time. my rule is that when i begin to deviate from my regular life or i commit fully to an online relationship through avoiding my regular activities (ie: what makes me happy), i just take a step back and turn it off. because it's online, we always have that option, and that's something i have forgotten in the past, which leads to problems. that isn't to say an online friendship shouldn't last. i have several online friendships that i keep up with regularly and it's a great feeling when that happens.

making a connection is a wonderful feeling, chatting with someone innocently about common interests can be a lot of fun, and flirting with someone you don't know is always exciting. and cybersex, sex talk, etc is definitely exciting (and always better after covering a good amount of time is spent on chatting, flirting, and ultimately making a connection) and it's safe to say that for a lot of people, it is the goal (at least on literotica).

basically it comes down to this: there should be some sort of understanding when going into any online conversation that there's a certain seperation between the two people and that they're both being used in some way, whether it be because they're lonley on a saturday night and want someone to talk to or they're just really horny. and either way, that's fine with me.

 

[fun2kissamy]

It is interesting that you bring up the point of "lifelong friends".
I agree with you on that, in that I come here to meet people with common interests and to have fun. If I find someone with whom I click with, then wonderful. If it grows into a friendship, that is great also. I have gotten to know three people from here, who I would not hesitate to meet in person if the time arose and I honestly believe they feel the same for me. I am very fortunate to come across people like that in my life. But I didn't go looking for it.

What I don't understand are the people who feel they need to draw you in with words of "love" to get you to continue talking with them. I don't need it personally and am tired of getting "dumped" after the thrill is gone. If you are here for one thing, then be honest about it. If a friendship develops between two people, then wonderful. Don't put on airs about the other person being the "only one"....we all know that is a crock anyway.

 

[sensualsweetie]

part of the fun and excitement of chatting (especially sexual) is the fact that you can turn it off at any time.

See, this is an attitude I don't quite understand. If you were talking to the person face to face, you wouldn't do that, right? I treat people the same regardless of if I'm online or offline. Just because we're hidden behind a computer screen doesn't mean we're not "real". I understand that there are people who are fake online, although I have to say I haven't met many. If I have, I pretty much know right away that they are fake. I don't know, I just don't appreciate being thought of as someone you can "turn off at any time". That's not to say people expect lifelong friendships, I don't, but I do expect to be treated with courtesy.

 

[Muirin]

I agree with you Sweetie. All the way. It's better to talk about other things then just sex. I myself would like to find someone that i can just talk to, no matter what it's about. Sure this maybe literotica but it doesn't mean we all want to talk about just sex right?

 

[Blase]

well its good we're all in agreement. now we need to figure out how to work it. ideas?

Actually, there's a pretty simple, though not perfect answer: Start a conversation!

Seriously, threads similar to this appear regularly on Internet forums. Probably the most common variation is "I wish people here would talk about _". And invariably, someone will respond with "Well, YOU'RE somebody, why not ask the question or start the discussion yourself?"

One of the great things about Lit is that it has a large, diverse membership and enough different areas on its boards so that one can find an appropriate place to post on virtually any topic. I personally enjoyed a gardening thread that someone started.

So, that is the long of the short answer. Look for people in here who are doing or discussing the things that you want to do or discuss, then join them. And if you don't see what you're looking for, well, you presumably have a working keyboard and a working brain. Use them both and see if you don't find someone with similar interests sooner rather than later.