Who taught you how to use a condom?

[NoJo]

Expressly how to use a condom?

Nobody. If you can read, it's certainly not rocket science.

IMHO:
Keep it out of the schools. Reinforce my having taught my children to read before kinder, and they too will be able to read the instructions for themselves.

I notice in your avatar, that the man is not wearing a condom. Is that a responsible message to send out to your kids?

 

[ravenmx]

My SO and I caught her 15 year old with a pile of porn mags.

We decided to have the talk, bought some condoms and took a banana and showed him how to use them. Then we had him show us using the banana so we knew he was listening.

 

[LadyJeanne]

My SO and I caught her 15 year old with a pile of porn mags.

We decided to have the talk, bought some condoms and took a banana and showed him how to use them. Then we had him show us using the banana so we knew he was listening.

Bravo!!!

 

[LadyJeanne]

Expressly how to use a condom?

Nobody. If you can read, it's certainly not rocket science.

IMHO:
Keep it out of the schools. Reinforce my having taught my children to read before kinder, and they too will be able to read the instructions for themselves.

I'm of the opinion that sex is rocket science for 15 year olds. And that they are only barely starting to understand how to handle their bodies and how they work.

Knowing how to read doesn't mean they will, or that they will understand, or that they will seek out correct and complete information. Your last sentence sounds like you are advocating no sex education - the schools shouldn't teach it and you'll leave the kids to look it up themselves.

 

[SweetVA]

So, we only have OhMissScarlett's 23 year old stepmother who actually pulled out a condom and did the nana demo ( ), and WOK's naked parents who bought her porn and would have done the nana demo ( ) with possible diorama and an expert lecture series.

Op Cit had an unidentifid male relative (possibly She's Uncle Frank for all we know) who talked about condoms, er, rubbers, and then a few who were given books by their parents.

Granted, this isn't a scientific poll, but parents aren't scoring well on the condom education and etiquette stuff. Now I'm thinking it's the parents who need to take classes on how to talk to their kids about sex.

And another question comes to mind...this one mostly for the ladies: Did a parent talk to you about masturbation? Did the words orgasm and clitoris ever cross their lips with an explanation of how one was related to the other? Did a parent even give you a book that said masturbation was a good way to get to know your body?

I.... don't remember how I learned about condoms! I know I really didn't learn early enough.. I knew they existed, but if you used one, it meant you had thought AHEAD of time (even planned to!) about having sex - which was a no-no. I went on the pill senior year (hs), but wasn't very dedicated (which is probably why I got pregnant at 19).

Masturbation?? I didn't even know women COULD until I was in my late teens (probably about the time I got pregnant.. ). That was something boys did. Clitoris? Orgasm!?? Bite your tongue, you dirty girl! (sigh)

You DO have me thinking about my kids, though.. I have 3 teenagers. I'm pretty open with them, they're not always with me. My son (17) is especially closed-mouthed.. I've had books available from the beginning of puberty, but they're not really a substitute, are they....?

VA
(oops, I almost pointed out that I posted LAST - wrong thread! )

 

[LadyJeanne]

I.... don't remember how I learned about condoms! I know I really didn't learn early enough.. I knew they existed, but if you used one, it meant you had thought AHEAD of time (even planned to!) about having sex - which was a no-no. I went on the pill senior year (hs), but wasn't very dedicated (which is probably why I got pregnant at 19).

Masturbation?? I didn't even know women COULD until I was in my late teens (probably about the time I got pregnant.. ). That was something boys did. Clitoris? Orgasm!?? Bite your tongue, you dirty girl! (sigh)

You DO have me thinking about my kids, though.. I have 3 teenagers. I'm pretty open with them, they're not always with me. My son (17) is especially closed-mouthed.. I've had books available from the beginning of puberty, but they're not really a substitute, are they....?

VA
(oops, I almost pointed out that I posted LAST - wrong thread! )

Thanks, SweetVA. I agree that books are not a good subsitute. I think they're an important, and even necessary, part of sex education. But to leave it at only books might teach kids that sex isn't something that should be discussed openly. And THAT creates all kinds of issues down the road.

 

[tolyk]

I never had any sort of conversation with any adult about sex. I did have a few sex ed classes in school, and learned all about human reproduction systems in biology.. Watching a person slide a condom onto a banana in classroom, from far away, surrounded by your peers, isn't exactly the most enjoyable or educating experience. However, they did say you have to hold onto the top while you rolled it down, which stuck with me.

Now, about LadyJeanne's last comment concerning issues being created by sex being portrayed as something that shouldn't be discussed.. I think that is different for each and every person. My parents never really played a very active role in my life so that they didn't discuss sex with me wasn't a big deal at all. I can still talk about it openly with a partner, or complete strangers (internet is great ain't it?)

 

[SweetVA]

Now, about LadyJeanne's last comment concerning issues being created by sex being portrayed as something that shouldn't be discussed.. I think that is different for each and every person. My parents never really played a very active role in my life so that they didn't discuss sex with me wasn't a big deal at all. I can still talk about it openly with a partner, or complete strangers (internet is great ain't it?)

There's nothing like that 'degree of separation', is there?

VA

 

[JRaven]

In another thread on the HT Cafe, there's the discussion of what is kinky. If kinky is something that wouldn't be considered as normal, then in this day and age, I learned how to use a condom in a very abnormal, kinky way.

My husband taught me how to put it on him on our wedding night.

Mom taught me abstinence. Taught me so well, that even after I was married, I still felt guilty about sex. Thankfully, I overcame those issues and now have a very fulfilling sex life. (just ask my husband or boyfriend)

Otherwise, I have written what I thought was a very good story about a mother teaching her son how to use a condom. Including, when to pull it out of her.

Jenny

(NO, this is not the same method that my sons will learn from!)