Who are you thinking about when you fuck your partner?

[Paddydrack]

i had a gf who just switched off when we fucked for about a year before we broke up. So i know she was thinking of someone else. I just got into the habit of thinking of high school crushes, work colleagues i wanted to fuck etc. Now im with a hot woman and we have a great sex life. We fuck every day. But i still find myself drifting off to her friends, my female colleagues / crushes. Dont get me wrong i love this woman. Does anyone else experience this? Has i been a problem in their relationship or is it just a kinky behavior?

 

[PFWilly]

I sometimes, okay nearly always, think about it must have looked when she was getting fucked by one of the three other guys she’d had sex with in the past. One in particular, since I’m also familiar with his big cock…lol.

 

[ZfrkS62]

I do my best to focus on her, but the other night she woke me up for some midnight playtime. I was sucking on her nipples when I came out of my fugue state and realized it was her, not my muse who I had been thinking about when she initiated... Thank the sex gods I didn't say anything.

 

[gtnlynn]

I focus on pleasing her, but sometimes she might tell me to do something that one of her other lovers did, and that makes me think about her fucking him. it is a turn on for both of us.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

It depends. In the daytime, I think only of her. But if it's at night and the lights are off, my mind wanders to a co-worker, a woman I saw in the store, an old flame... whoever is on my mind at the moment.

 

[Jcam1980s]

I think at somepoint everyone has done this. Though more often than not I'm focused on her and i just think of what she'd look like getting screwed by someone else, which I'd genuinely love to watch

 

[screwher]

When my wife and I are enjoying our foreplay I’m focused on her. When we’re having oral sex my focus is on her. Especially when I’m making her cum by licking her pussy. But that moment when I slide my cock into her, my mind shifts. I’m thinking I’m another man. My bare cock pounding her cunt! Until I explode!

 

[canopy]

If he initiates it then he's all I'm thinking about. But if I initiate it, which is usually the case, then I'm thinking about my imaginary son

 

[Paddydrack]

If he initiates it then he's all I'm thinking about. But if I initiate it, which is usually the case, then I'm thinking about my imaginary son

Yes i have an imaginary sister too lol. Which is funny because we are in an interracial relationship. But the mind can work wonders when you are horny

 

[Islander55]

I have never thought about anyone but the man I was with when we are actually having sex. At other times I may think about a past lover or a potential new lover. And if I am doing myself, I will often conjure a well hung hunk to assist in my search for bliss.

 

[FantasySharer1]

When having sex with my wife I think about:

1. Her (70% of the time)...the rest
2. Her younger sister
3. Her older sister
4. Imagine her brother JUST fucked her before me, filled her up with a thick load of cum which is the wetness I am feeling inside her, and is watching us as we fuck.

 

[Not Normal]

Her...mostly

 

[GuitarGawd41]

I generally stay in he moment. If I am so into her that I am fucking her, she deserves every bit of my focus.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I’m basically focused on her but have at one time or another thought of someone else if I was having trouble or on round #2.

She will frequently conjure up a scene we’ve watched in porn, sometimes going back several years to a scene we watched that I’d long forgotten about. If she’s going back that far for porn, I’m sure she’s going back further to a past love!

 

[MissPennyLane]

Do you think it's a problem in your relationship?
I kinda sense you feel a bit like this is a bad thing but, I think it's perfectly normal.
I mean, we all have fantasies and things we want outside of our partners, don't we?
Do I think about other people when my husband is fucking me, yea! Sometimes I'll think about a particular person, sometimes maybe even a hot picture or content I've seen recently... I think it is quite normal. Especially when my brain is so linked to my arousal.
How often do I just enjoy the moment and my mind doesn't wander with him? Maybe once in every 3 times but as long as we are both "satisfied" does it matter?

 

[Paddydrack]

Do you think it's a problem in your relationship?
I kinda sense you feel a bit like this is a bad thing but, I think it's perfectly normal.
I mean, we all have fantasies and things we want outside of our partners, don't we?
Do I think about other people when my husband is fucking me, yea! Sometimes I'll think about a particular person, sometimes maybe even a hot picture or content I've seen recently... I think it is quite normal. Especially when my brain is so linked to my arousal.
How often do I just enjoy the moment and my mind doesn't wander with him? Maybe once in every 3 times but as long as we are both "satisfied" does it matter?

Well yes thats my question really. As long as we are both satisfied. I dont really want to know who shes thinking about.

 

[NightL]

There are fantasies that probably should remain private and some that can be shared. Open honest communication, however, can lead to all sorts of adventures.

In your situation I'd bring it up as a fantasy subject that she is engaging with another before you start listing her girlfriends for yourself - yeah that could go badly.

"Can we try talking through a fantasy while having sex? If it does not work we can have a laugh and try something else." It does not have to be of a known person - make it clear it is fantasy talk. See where it leads.

One thing you can be certain of is that she will be having fantasies of others, real or imaginary, just like you are.

If you do wish to open up that level of communication don't try to pry into her private ones, discover new ones that you can share together. Perhaps start with "imagine this situation..." rather than "tell me about your fantasies" which is more likely to shut a conversation down fast.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Often think about a friend watching of participating with us.

 

[One_ping_only]

Most of the time my attention and focus is on her pleasure and her sexy moans and groans to be sure she's enjoying what I'm doing.

Sometimes I've " spiced " it up a bit more in my head and imagine someone like a coworker or a few buddies of ours watching me fuck her silly. Whenever I do that ........ I'd often have a strong orgasm shortly thereafter.

 

[Swuchmann]

Both my wife have had affairs. She knows of at least one of mine because I admitted to it. She is currently having one that she denies although I have confronted her.

When we have sex I go back and forth. Sometimes I think of her fucking her bf and other times I think of fucking a woman I worked with.

When I think of her fucking her bf I am in reclaim mode. When I think of my coworker I just remember what a slut she was for me. Both drive me to pounding my wife’s pussy and ends with us both having a satisfying experience.

 

[sandybrooke]

Sometimes a young male ass when fucking doggy style. I tell her your my boyfriend tonight

 

[Crownvic]

I think about my friends hot wife...that always gets me going...

 

[ZfrkS62]

Both my wife have had affairs. She knows of at least one of mine because I admitted to it. She is currently having one that she denies although I have confronted her.

When we have sex I go back and forth. Sometimes I think of her fucking her bf and other times I think of fucking a woman I worked with.

When I think of her fucking her bf I am in reclaim mode. When I think of my coworker I just remember what a slut she was for me. Both drive me to pounding my wife’s pussy and ends with us both having a satisfying experience.

So why not just open the marriage? If neither of you have ended it because of the affairs then why not just make it ok?

 

[Escierto]

Am I the only that thinks of his partner as she pushes her cock into my hole? My entire consciousness is focused on my little hole and her big cock and how much I want to receive her seed deep inside me.

 

[Katch123]

Usually just her but if my mind starts to wander..

1. I'll think of her and my sister getting it on.
2. 1 with me joining in.
3. My neighbor.
4. Back to number 1 or 2.