Which is Worse? A Serious Game......

[elizabeth22673]

The game is simple....you answer and then offer up a difficult scenario.....



I'll go first..

Which is worse...

*you finally meet the man/woman of your dreams from Lit and you realize you really do love each other but nothing can become of it because you are both married and have separate lives. you end up with a broken heart, but get to spend a weekend, a week....a night.....whatever with him/her to remember forever...

or

*never meeting at all

 

[pookies]

 

[Damariscotta]

Never meet at all.
Why set yourself up. Can't miss what you never had.

You and your spouse are still very much in love, but the marriage has become sexless, do you stay for love, or leave for sex?

I'd stay for love. Love is much harder to find in this world than sex.


Along a similar line...You're about to get married to the person who is the first person to make you genuinely happy. Treats you better than you have ever been treated. Will do anything for you. Is wonderful. But then you have a chance reunion with a past lover who, while not as nice, was the best lover you ever had (including your fiance). Do you have second thoughts? Do you get married knowing that in all likelihood the best sex you've ever had is behind you?

 

[Sassyfrass]

I'd stay for love. Love is much harder to find in this world than sex.


Along a similar line...You're about to get married to the person who is the first person to make you genuinely happy. Treats you better than you have ever been treated. Will do anything for you. Is wonderful. But then you have a chance reunion with a past lover who, while not as nice, was the best lover you ever had (including your fiance). Do you have second thoughts? Do you get married knowing that in all likelihood the best sex you've ever had is behind you?

That actually happened to me....and I married.
I fondly remember the best sex, but after 25yr. of marriage am glad I didn't choose the sex guy over my husband.


You're married (happily) , you go out with your friends one night......you see good looking man/woman and you start flirting outrageously with them....
You have a chance for a one night stand....you're Significant other will never know.....do you take the one night stand ?

 

[Damariscotta]

You're married (happily) , you go out with your friends one night......you see good looking man/woman and you start flirting outrageously with them....
You have a chance for a one night stand....you're Significant other will never know.....do you take the one night stand ?

No. I've been in that situation and turned her down. Even if my S/O wouldn't know, I would know and that would be enough.

Which is worse? Knowing you have a dark sexual side that needs some kind of attention and doing nothing about it, or saying the hell with it and giving it free reign, despite the possible consquences?

 

[me_akron]

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[mitycirce]

"Giving in to "Darker" sexual appetites.

You're single and your best friend's spouse is attractive to you. Your friend's spouse flirts with you continuously and always has. It seems to you that the flirting has become more intense recently. Do you finally hit on the spouse and risk one of two possibilities... loss of a really good friend or most probably good sex?"

I'd have to say to keep your paws off your best friend's woman. It might cause a chain reaction: good sex, fist fight with your friend, possible pregnancy, divorce proceedings, end of a good friendship and the spouse might be bitter in the end anyway.

She's probably flirting to make herself feel good and for the attention. Afterall, after getting married their "sex life" may have toned down...

 

[mitycirce]

I've just posted some lovely pics on a picture thread that show me in all or most of my natural beauty. Some guys have responded... obviously hitting on me... or hoping to... is it generally better to skip those that are the most blatant... or those that are most conservative?

 

[elizabeth22673]

I've just posted some lovely pics on a picture thread that show me in all or most of my natural beauty. Some guys have responded... obviously hitting on me... or hoping to... is it generally better to skip those that are the most blatant... or those that are most conservative?

you don't owe anybody anything here. do what you would do in real life. for instance, my motto is to answer every single pm unless i have been attacked or made fun of...etc. most of all, have fun

* you make a mistake and treat someone poorly. you apologize and try to make it up. they wont hear of it and basically cast you aside. even make some shit up about you. then......you see that they have screwed up big time....they've made your life a living hell and this is the time to get back. what do you do....?

 

[Damariscotta]

* you make a mistake and treat someone poorly. you apologize and try to make it up. they wont hear of it and basically cast you aside. even make some shit up about you. then......you see that they have screwed up big time....they've made your life a living hell and this is the time to get back. what do you do....?

You appeal to the better angels of your nature and do nothing. Otherwise, you're in the gutter with them.

You have a friend who is sliding deeper into depression (not at a suicidal level) and is refusing help. Do you let them continue and keep your distance, while still keeping a timid eye on them and hope for the best, or do you take a more active role?

 

[elizabeth22673]

You appeal to the better angels of your nature and do nothing. Otherwise, you're in the gutter with them.

You have a friend who is sliding deeper into depression (not at a suicidal level) and is refusing help. Do you let them continue and keep your distance, while still keeping a timid eye on them and hope for the best, or do you take a more active role?

very interesting....one thing a person has to remember is that the depressed person will not get help until they want to (speaking from experience)....i would definitely talk to significant other and mention the changes you've seen. you want to do what you can to help a friend for sure

what if your best friend was cheating on someone who was also a good friend. the friend asks you if you know anything. what do you say?

 

[Damariscotta]

what if your best friend was cheating on someone who was also a good friend. the friend asks you if you know anything. what do you say?

I think I would resent being put in the middle, and would calmly tell my friend that they should ask my best friend directly. Then I would talk to my best friend and let them know of my resentment. But what do I know>?

Which is worse? Being someone who attacks a problem by taking a sledgehammer and swinging wildly, hoping to hit something, or being someone who does nothing and waits to see if the problem resolves itself a bit before taking action?

 

[elizabeth22673]

I think I would resent being put in the middle, and would calmly tell my friend that they should ask my best friend directly. Then I would talk to my best friend and let them know of my resentment. But what do I know>?

Which is worse? Being someone who attacks a problem by taking a sledgehammer and swinging wildly, hoping to hit something, or being someone who does nothing and waits to see if the problem resolves itself a bit before taking action?

i think worse is waiting too long....damage is done, etc....


which is worse...

a selfish lover or a cheapskate?

 

[Sassyfrass]

which is worse...
a selfish lover or a cheapskate?

OOOO..... that's a hard one !!! LOLOL
Selfish and cheap...kinda the same thing in some ways.....LOL !!

I think I'll let somebody else answer this one.....

 

[elizabeth22673]

OOOO..... that's a hard one !!! LOLOL
Selfish and cheap...kinda the same thing in some ways.....LOL !!

I think I'll let somebody else answer this one.....

lol......ok i'll answer my own question.

omg, i'm having a hard time with this one also.

someone else want to give it a shot?

 

[Damariscotta]

i think worse is waiting too long....damage is done, etc....


which is worse...

a selfish lover or a cheapskate?

A selfish lover....a cheapskate doesn't mean they're going to stiff you in bed too.

Which is worse....a hypocrite or a cynic?

 

[bluebell]

this or that

Hypocrite, because it would be so difficult to actually be friends or lovers with someone saying one thing and doing another.
Even though cynics can sometimes be too pessimistic, most of the time they're funny. And there's bound to be one or two miracles in the world that could help them lighten up.

*Would it be better to marry someone who utterly adored you in every way, despite the fact that most of your friends thought you could do better, or to gamble and stay single until you (possibly) find your true love?
(An added stipulation is that you have vowed not to abuse the power you have over the person who adores you. You have decided to make that marriage work no matter what, no condescension)

 

[Lorali82]

Hypocrite, because it would be so difficult to actually be friends or lovers with someone saying one thing and doing another.
Even though cynics can sometimes be too pessimistic, most of the time they're funny. And there's bound to be one or two miracles in the world that could help them lighten up.

*Would it be better to marry someone who utterly adored you in every way, despite the fact that most of your friends thought you could do better, or to gamble and stay single until you (possibly) find your true love?
(An added stipulation is that you have vowed not to abuse the power you have over the person who adores you. You have decided to make that marriage work no matter what, no condescension)

Stay single.

One day, your dad happens to find on your computer the store of explicit photos and videos you made of yourself for an amateur adult website, though none of them contain your face. Do you tell the truth or lie and say you're actually gay and the photos and videos are somebody else's?

 

[elizabeth22673]

Stay single.

One day, your dad happens to find on your computer the store of explicit photos and videos you made of yourself for an amateur adult website, though none of them contain your face. Do you tell the truth or lie and say you're actually gay and the photos and videos are somebody else's?

my father? i would neither lie nor tell him the truth. it'd be awkward and i would close out the window and not say a word.

your son is 17 and already has a criminal record...something is wrong with him...he's killed another person and has a life sentance....you are put in a position where you are able to save his life or another boy his age who you know is a good person..who do you save?

 

[Cyinamorata]

The game is simple....you answer and then offer up a difficult scenario.....



I'll go first..

Which is worse...

*you finally meet the man/woman of your dreams from Lit and you realize you really do love each other but nothing can become of it because you are both married and have separate lives. you end up with a broken heart, but get to spend a weekend, a week....a night.....whatever with him/her to remember forever...

or

*never meeting at all

This is my life right now and I don't know the answer.

 

[elizabeth22673]

A selfish lover....a cheapskate doesn't mean they're going to stiff you in bed too.

Which is worse....a hypocrite or a cynic?

hypocrite

which is worse...forgetting to buy someone a christmas present or purchasing a present they don't like.

 

[Hocky9377]

hypocrite

which is worse...forgetting to buy someone a christmas present or purchasing a present they don't like.

Forgetting, because even if they dont like it you still thought of them to buy it in the first place.


*you have a teenage son who got his girlfriend pregnant...during the paternaty proceedings, your son wins most of the hearings and gets what he wants. In order to stop this trend, the girlfriends side starts saying that your son raped her....do you continue to play it straight and do nothing about the accusations, or do you start to play dirty along with them?

 

[elizabeth22673]

Forgetting, because even if they dont like it you still thought of them to buy it in the first place.


*you have a teenage son who got his girlfriend pregnant...during the paternaty proceedings, your son wins most of the hearings and gets what he wants. In order to stop this trend, the girlfriends side starts saying that your son raped her....do you continue to play it straight and do nothing about the accusations, or do you start to play dirty along with them?

not play dirty at all. no way..


your boss keeps taking credit for your work. you've never been in this predicament before. what do you do??

 

[Ekserb]

your boss keeps taking credit for your work. you've never been in this predicament before. what do you do??

There's nothing you can do but keep quiet and hope it catches up with him. Maybe one day he'll have to perform and you won't be around to do the work. Maybe his boss will see through him.

Or you can quit and find another job, but I doubt you'd get a good recommendation from that guy.

Which would be worse: (For the women) Sleeping with Andy Rooney now or a twelve-year-old Brad Pitt? (For the men) Sleeping with Bea Arthur now or a twelve-year-old Angelina Jolie?

 

[elizabeth22673]

There's nothing you can do but keep quiet and hope it catches up with him. Maybe one day he'll have to perform and you won't be around to do the work. Maybe his boss will see through him.

Or you can quit and find another job, but I doubt you'd get a good recommendation from that guy.

Which would be worse: (For the women) Sleeping with Andy Rooney now or a twelve-year-old Brad Pitt? (For the men) Sleeping with Bea Arthur now or a twelve-year-old Angelina Jolie?

that's easy i love older men. andy rooney

same question...