Which is easier Vasectomy or Tubes?

[Cupitsoul]

I'll be 26 in 5 days and have been considering getting a Vasectomy done. I'd like to get it done first off because I'm done having children and I'm positive I don't want anymore. I have the two most beautiful daughters, and I'm happy. I've been married for 5 year and with my wife for 8 years we 'are' high school sweetharts.

I'd like to save my wife the surgery of getting her tubes 'tied', since I'm moreso the one that no longers wants anymore children.

So does the proceedure hurt? Time off of work? How ong does it take including follow up visits? Is it safe? Will it 'always' prevent pregnancy?

Thanks,
Cupit

 

[Halo_n_horns]

I'll be 26 in 5 days and have been considering getting a Vasectomy done. I'd like to get it done first off because I'm done having children and I'm positive I don't want anymore. I have the two most beautiful daughters, and I'm happy. I've been married for 5 year and with my wife for 8 years we 'are' high school sweetharts.

I'd like to save my wife the surgery of getting her tubes 'tied', since I'm moreso the one that no longers wants anymore children.

So does the proceedure hurt? Time off of work? How ong does it take including follow up visits? Is it safe? Will it 'always' prevent pregnancy?

Thanks,
Cupit

Its definitely easier and far less risky for a guy to get his nuts snipped than for a woman to undergo tube-tying.

My wife had her tubes removed, but it wasn't our first decision. I wanted to get snipped, but my wife needed a proceedure done for a whole different reason. The tubal ended up being an easy opportunity because she was going under the knife anyway.

I do believe that it should be the man to have this done under ordinary circumstances, however.

 

[Sominus]

By far the easiest is a vasectomy. It is an office procedure with local anesthetic, and recovery is fairly short (days). While not an 'immediate' fix, sterility can usually be assured within 75 days after the procedure, sometimes less depending on a number of factors (the little guys hang around 'after' the point of surgical incision for a surprising amount of time!).

Tubiligation is, while common, a major abdominal surgery fraught with much more risk than a simple vasectomy. Recovery period (compared to vasectomy) is longer, risk of infection and other complication significantly greater. If its being combined with something else (e.g. c-section), I can understand why someone would chose this option (all other considerations being equal). If the lady's gut isn't being cut open for something else, LEAVE IT ALONE. I'm in med school, and after seeing the insides of someone who's had abdominal (and other) surgeries, I can advise you to JUST SAY NO if you have the option. All the fascial planes are fused together, adhesions of organs are numerous, etc etc etc.. Yuk.

I'm 40 and I've had all the kids I'm gonna have... Wifey and I discussed it over time and I decided to have the vasectomy, as I simply cannot understand the necessity of her going through major surgery for something which I can have done in a fairly trivial and routine fashion. I know there are many men who would say (in one fashion or another) "ain't no one gonna cut on MY equipment!". I would think that women feel the same way. The fact of the matter is, from a medical stance, a vasectomy is the 'better' way to go due to the nature of the beast (external plumbing, etc..). My procedure is scheduled for later this month.. I'd be glad to let you know how it goes.

-S

 

[bisexplicit]

Maybe it's just me, but I'd be wary of getting a vasectomy at this age. Life can take some unexpected twists and turns - and you're literally cutting out an option from your life.

Although, of course, you know yourself best.

 

[Cupitsoul]

Maybe it's just me, but I'd be wary of getting a vasectomy at this age. Life can take some unexpected twists and turns - and you're literally cutting out an option from your life.

Although, of course, you know yourself best.

If your talking about having more kids should say (God Forbid) one pass, then I've already gone through that and I can not replace one child with another. My choise to not have any more kids would include with anyone else etc.....if this is what you meant....

 

[bisexplicit]

If your talking about having more kids should say (God Forbid) one pass, then I've already gone through that and I can not replace one child with another. My choise to not have any more kids would include with anyone else etc.....if this is what you meant....

I was thinking, more along the lines of, if you ever got divorced (not saying you would, and not wishing it upon you, of course), or, if you decided that, after a while, you actually did want more children (it's not all that uncommon for people to decide ten years after their last baby that they want another).

But, like I said before, you know whats best for you.

 

[Cupitsoul]

I was thinking, more along the lines of, if you ever got divorced (not saying you would, and not wishing it upon you, of course), or, if you decided that, after a while, you actually did want more children (it's not all that uncommon for people to decide ten years after their last baby that they want another).

But, like I said before, you know whats best for you.

Thank you for your help and your opinions they are very welcome.

 

[Eilan]

There was a thread about this fairly recently that contains some (mostly) helpful info:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=323480

I had a laparoscopic tubal two years ago. My husband and I knew that we didn't want more children, and since I still have many fertile years ahead of me, I didn't want to rely on hormonal methods or (gasp!) condoms for the next 20 or so years. We had other, more personal, reasons for this decision, but it had nothing to do with my hubby being a wuss.

The first week was a little uncomfortable, but I wasn't in enough pain to need medication, and the scars from my two incisions are barely visible.

You and your partner have to do what's best for the two of you, regardless of what anyone on this site has to say. Whatever option that you choose, make sure that you're making the decision as a couple.

 

[FastFastr]

Take some time to think about it first, reversal is expensive and not always effective. While the cut is covered by insurance, the repair is not.

Assume the worst... what if you lost your entire family in a horrible tragedy. Being in your mid 20s, it would not be unlikely that you'd meet someone else who would want kids... and you might too.

A new wife, a new life, etc might change your perspective. I don't mean to be morbid... and we all HOPE this would never happen, but it could.

Have you seen a doc about this yet? What is his opinion?

I was thinking, more along the lines of, if you ever got divorced (not saying you would, and not wishing it upon you, of course), or, if you decided that, after a while, you actually did want more children (it's not all that uncommon for people to decide ten years after their last baby that they want another).

But, like I said before, you know whats best for you.

 

[kiwichyck]

do your research

Hi there

I've done quite a bit of research into this and it certainly is not as simplistic as most people think.

On the face of it, vasectomy IS the better option, less surgery risks, less invasive etc etc.

However, my Dad had a problem free vasectomy over 20 years ago, and he suggested that I should read up on it a bit more. He put me onto a surgeon who is questioning the wisdom of vasectomy. I cannot remember his name, but he originally wrote articles for Mens Health Magazine, and then went on to write a book. A google search should turn him up for you.

Dad was fine for years after his vasectomy, then suddenly developed a swelling on one of his testes. It doesn't cause him a lot of pain, but prompted him to investigate vasectomy in much more detail. The most disturbing thing is the lack of LONG TERM studies in how mens bodies react to the procedure. It is quite common for no symptoms for YEARS and then sudden start of swelling, or hard to diagnose pain.

I believe the risk of reduction or complete loss of sexual function as a result of vasectomy (for whatever reason) is not the kind of risk I am willing to allow my husband to take. If they botch my tubal ligation, sure it would be awful and could lead to more surgery or even hysterectomy, but at least we could continue sexual activity, if not immediately then at some point.
I don't want to be one of the statistic couples that are forced to resort to castration. Don't mean to scare you, but honestly - make sure you are 100% informed before you go under the knife. I know you can't believe everything you read. But at least do the reading!

 

[Weird Harold]

If your talking about having more kids should say (God Forbid) one pass, then I've already gone through that and I can not replace one child with another. My choise to not have any more kids would include with anyone else etc.....if this is what you meant....

I had a vasectomy at about your age for similar reasons and don't regret it in the least.

The ONE factor that decided us on a vasectomy vs tubal was that I ws the one who felt most strongly about not having more children.

DO NOT have a vasectomy or tubal because your spouse talked you into it, get "fixed" because YOU want to do it.

At the time that I had my vasectomy, the difference in risk and amount of surgery involved was also a serious consideration, but advances in laproscopic surgery have brought the risks of a tubal ligation much closer to that of a vasectomy -- vasectomies are still much simpler and risk fewer immediate complications than a tubal ligation, but the differences are much less than they used to be and are getting smaller every year.

PS: some, still experimental, procedures promise to reduce a vasectomy to the level of an immunization and improve the chances of reversibility -- i.e. injecting a "plug" into the vas deferens instead of cutting it. The same principle is just being now explored for making tubal ligations an office visit for a shot.

 

[bobsgirl]

My husband had a vasectomy when he was about your age. It was an office procedure, that took very little time. He was in some discomfort the first day or two, and I was more than happy to baby him and wait on him hand and foot. An icebag helps with the pain and swelling.

It was so long ago that I don't remember too many of the details, except that he had to get tested after 6 weeks (or his doc said 12 ejaculations, so you figure the math) to make sure none of his little guys were slipping through.

 

[Cupitsoul]

Thanks for all the replies to my topic.

I've already told my wife If she were to pass I would never get remarried and I don't plan on having anymore children. I stood by my decision to not have kids till I was married and I did and I'm at the point where I know that even if my whole family were to pass (God Forbid) I'd still be set on not ever reproducing again. If by chance anything ever did happen to my wife, I would never remarry another women this may be coming from a 20 something but I'm set in my ways as I always have and I don't plan to change anything.

Thanks everyone.

 

[Snowman5933]

Try this site and it should more than inform you about the procedure.

My Vasectomy.Com

Good Luck!

Snowman

 

[3113]

Assume the worst... what if you lost your entire family in a horrible tragedy. Being in your mid 20s, it would not be unlikely that you'd meet someone else who would want kids... and you might too.

Problem easily solved in these days of modern science.

Might I suggest, Cupitsoul, that prior to the Vasectomy, you have some sperm frozen?

 

[david_42]

I had a vasectomy done over 20 years ago at 33. It took about an hour and two weeks of being a little careful when I sat down. After that no problems and no regrets. I don't have any children and never wanted any, but the doctor I went to specialized in re-connects and had a very good record. He did a good enough job that there is no visible scar and the only way to tell is to "feel for the clips". They also show up on x-rays.

Done by an experienced doctor, after the waiting period (about 6 weeks and two zero sperm counts) there is no chance of pregnancy.

If you have even the slightest doubts, you can freeze sperm samples for a very reasonable cost. This isn't a realistic option for women.

I agree with the other posters, the person that doesn't want to have any more kids should have the operation.

Short-term health problems can include minor immune system reactions, IF the vas deferens are not completely sealed. Mine were cut, clipped and cauterized.

As far as long-term health problems: "Long-term high-normal levels of testosterone are associated with an increased risk for prostate cancer. Because testosterone levels remain higher for a longer period in men who had vasectomy, experts have been concerned that such men have a greater chance for developing the cancer.

Most recent studies, however, are reporting no higher danger. A rigorous 2002 study from New Zealand, for example, which has the highest vasectomy rates in the world, found no increased risk of prostate cancer from the procedure, even 25 years after the operation. "

 

[efevece]

Vasectomy.

I had a vasectomy in 1998; 42 years old. I had it at the surgeon´s office instead of at a hospital, dinned a pizza and went to work in the following day.

If you´ve made your mind, go for it. If in doubt, wait a little.

 

[noveltyman]

Not that you need any more advice, I had a vasectomy almost 9.5 years ago (which I know with such accuracy since my son (third child) is almost 10) and have never regretted it.

We actually "played with fire" since I never went back for the "checks", but after almost ten years and no more kids I think it's safe to say that the "bridge is out."

Which is not to say that I recommend "playing with fire" sinc i have a friend with a pair of "unexpected" but thoroughly enjoyable twin boys after his own procedure...

 

[Cardinal]

Piece of cake and the procedure today is almost a guarantee that you will be shooting blanks.
Only an asshole would have his wife get her tubes tied rather than get a vasectomy. Getting her tubes tied is a big deal, vasectomy is nothing 45 minutes later and you are on your way home.

 

[Eilan]

Only an asshole would have his wife get her tubes tied rather than get a vasectomy.

I had a tubal and my husband isn't an asshole. We had our reasons for opting for the tubal, reasons that I won't go into here but which were perfectly valid to us and our situation. That's why the thread starter and his wife need to make the decision for themselves.

And, BTW, I was home in three hours.

 

[Cardinal]

Okay, you're right that was a little harsh, sorry.

 

[thrity]

There are lot of women who can't get used to Vasectomy, people are different.

 

[Layne]

My 2 cents

I skipped reading most of the replys. Here is my opinion; I had it done for exactly the same reason you are mentioning. My wife was supportive as well. One office visit to talk to doctor and set it up. One lab visit to "give a sample". One office visit to do the procedure. My doctor insisted that my wife be at this one. I was fine with that. One lab visit to leave a follow up sample later. Details, I was in and out in about an hour. I did the deed on a Friday afternoon, spent Saturday on the couch watching TV and was back to work like nothing ever happened on Monday.

 

[garbage can]

Maybe it's just me, but I'd be wary of getting a vasectomy at this age. Life can take some unexpected twists and turns - and you're literally cutting out an option from your life.

Although, of course, you know yourself best.

I've read that vasectomies can be reversed nowadays.

 

[Eilan]

I've read that vasectomies can be reversed nowadays.

Both vasectomies and tubals can be reversed, though the results aren't guaranteed and reversals generally aren't covered by insurance.

People who are thinking about surgical sterilization should be aware that it is considered permanent.