where's the confidence come from?

[cute_matt]

How long did it take after you joined this site for you to become open about your fetishes/fantasies and post pictures on the amateur feedback.

I'd like to post just for the hell of it but i always stop myself as i have never been so openly exposed to this much "expressive" types of speaking/reading.

^^^ didnt know how to word that sentence.

Matt 23 uk

 

[redbabe]

Didn´t take me long, maybe a week to 10 days, although I had a really good lurk and chatted to a few members here who gave me the courage to actually press the submit button with my photos

 

[umchick5]

Yes, it didn't take me long either. I noticed a thread about breasts, so I decided to post some pictures on it. With the great response, I created my own thread

Lit is like a bug, you usually catch it fast if you are going to catch it at all hehe

 

[x_happyending_x]

I'm feeling the same way, I would love to post some pics, but just don't have the confidence yet. I figure that with more lurking and by speaking up when i have something to say or add, it'll come.

 

[cute_matt]

mayb we could start a thread in the feedback where a few of us "less confident" people could post maybe one or two pictures as a group... i know it would get the nerves off me a bit easier if it wasn't just me in a thread lol

matt

 

[DirtyLilMind]

Thats a grand idea..

 

[rosebud_6]

photos

i haven't posted any photos on here yet. i'm really enjoying reading all the forums though.. and having a little sticky at some of the pics..

mabye one day?

 

[iciclely]

il let you know when i decide to post

 

[BlackDahlia69]

How long did it take after you joined this site for you to become open about your fetishes/fantasies and post pictures on the amateur feedback.

I'd like to post just for the hell of it but i always stop myself as i have never been so openly exposed to this much "expressive" types of speaking/reading.

^^^ didnt know how to word that sentence.

Matt 23 uk

Great thread you have here! It took me only a month to post my pics -- and I'm not a confident person in the physical world. My only explanation for not waitin' was that I was lonely for a man's touch but was (and still am) wary of goin' through the rejection that often happens with sexually-based relationships. By posting my pics, I began receivin' lots of private messages. Then I realized that most of the men weren't bein' raunchy. Instead, they were givin' me sincere compliments about my body, my creativity (i.e. my tongue-in-cheek replies on my thread), and my outlook on life insofar as they figure what that was (and is).

Now, mind you, I did remove my pics about a week or two after posting them the first time. The only reason I did that was one guy -- a real jerk -- began threatening me in the PMs. He sent a string of back-to-back PMs telling me about how violently he would have sex with me and, eventually, he started using the language of rape. I've been around the block more than a few times, so when I sensed his anger -- and finally perceived his misogynistic tone -- I became afraid but then angry. He was only 21; I'm in my 40s. So I began usin' language to put him in his place. Of course, bein' new to Lit, I hadn't realized all I had to do was put his Lit username on my "Ignore" list. Now I know.

I found the courage to post new photos after goin' through a difficult time on my job. I found myself spendin' lots of money shoppin' and dinin' out. I'd sit in front of the boob tube and vegetate. I started havin' cryin' spells and realized that I wasn't happy. Somethin' inside wasn't right. I reassessed my friendships and avoided people with bad vibes. They knew where I was comin' from and stayed the hell away from me. Then I got to work on myself. I engaged myself in a few social activities. Fine, but when I came home at night and when I was alone on some weekends, I still wasn't happy.

Finally I took a long, hard look in the mirror and thought to myself: Girl, you're gettin' older. I believe youth is in the heart, but let's face it. When you see those fine lines multiplyin,' and for us women the tits saggin' a bit, the skin losin' that glow -- well, you start askin' yourself if there's anything in life you wanted to do but didn't and that you'd regret in your 70s, 80s, 90s and beyond for not havin' done. For me, a person who used to be extremely shy in my teens, 20s and 30s, photographin' myself nude was a no-no. I'll never do it, I used to say (and tell people). Now I've reached a threshold in my life where I would let a professional photographer create boudoir photographs of me. And, finally, I'm okay with creatin' images of myself in the nude and in semi-nudity. I guess it's like I desire to capture my physical beauty -- and the inner beauty that shines from within -- while I'm in my 40s. I think sometimes: Too bad I don't have photos of the way my body looked in my 20s and 30s ... and I mean it looked hottttt during those years!

So, for those of you who lack the confidence, have patience with yourself. You'll find your erotic comfort zone, or decide to step outside it. You'll just know when that happens. BTW I'm strongly influenced by non-U.S. arthouse movies to appreciate my body for its Rubenesque allure. When I go to museums and come across a nude from, say, the 19th century, my eyes go straight to the subject's hips and I think to myself: That's me reflected up there -- albeit in a shade of brown.

I wish you all a leap of faith ... in yourselves.

~BlackDahlia69

 

[kstone]

Not long at all, especially with no face.

 

[tandoor]

How long did it take after you joined this site for you to become open about your fetishes/fantasies and post pictures on the amateur feedback.

Not long, but again my posts have been faceless, and have barely been noticed so it's all good. Doesn't take much courage to slip in a pic in a thread that racks up dozens of new pics a day. Try that, it's no sweat.

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

What an interesting thread

Well I had been reading the stories on lit for over a year but hadn't actually joined or even really noticed there was a forum to be honest.
I joined one Friday night I believe after realising I had yet another weekend with my b/f travelling overseas for business and thought I would just have a look see what people were talking about.

When I came across the photos board I was mesmerised. I loved looking at the pics and thought...'hey I can do that!' I've never done anything like this in my life and was nervous but excited when I took my first pics. It was roughly 24 hours after I first looked!! Fast worker? Maybe...but so out of character for me. The reaction gave me such a buzz as does thinking up the new shots and basically photographing myself having a good time!!!

I love the comments...I love the attention.....I love knowing that my body is still worth getting hot and bothered over...and I love chatting to new and interesting people....and I love gettting hot and horny by their reactions. Vain? Possibly Attention Seeking? Possibly Sexy Fun? DEFINITELY!!

Fox xx

 

[scorpio4uok]

Didnt really take long a couple days and Im thoroughley enjoying myself be it discreetly.

 

[NotForSale]

It didn't take me long to start posting pics after I joined. I had shared them in the past with one person but not on a large scale. It was really nerve wracking wondering what response I would get but its lovely to read all the compliments! I don't really post much about my fantasies etc in here cos I'd rather just share those things with the people who matter