Where in the world have all the romantic guys gone.

[papillon24]

It seems today that there is no romance in guys especially the one around my age. I'm getting really sick of the cat calls and pick up lines I hear all day and night. Sometime I feel that in guys between 18-25 there is not one with a romantic bone in their body.

 

[Georgia Girl]

I hate to break it to you darling but the ones around 35 aren't doing a whole bunch better.

 

[papillon24]

I really don't think they all grow up till about 45 either. It's like they jump from 15 to 45 in maturity. do you get that as well

 

[Neftoon_Zamora]

Awww.. Ladies...

There are a few romantic souls around, believe me.

Just keep plugging...

 

[Native Alien]

i have met some as old as 55 that didn't have a clue as to what the word "romantic" means.

then, on the other hand, one of the most romantic men that i know is barely into his 20s. and a cutie to boot.

i think that it does have so much to age as it does the women that were around them while they were growing up. romance is not something that many men come by naturally so the women in their lives need to teach it to them.

 

[goodhands_4u]

Romance

I know of at least one ;-)

But I did read an article not too long ago about how gender equality has undermined romance because as guys grow up hearing how women can do anything men can, they don't think about opening doors, etc.

Don't get me wrong, I view women as equals, but I still open doors, buy roses, walk on the street side, and all that. Just a good ol'southern boy I reckon.

 

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[Vapidness]

23 yo guy here, and I have to agree, most of my friends etc dont have a clue, and dont have much respect for women either.

I was brought up to respect woman and only had a mother for most of my teenage years so I guess that helped

I'm a pretty big romantic, took a rose from my own garden with me for my last date, I dont think it impressed her as much as I had planned :\

But yeah, I love the romantic dinner thing, opening doors for ladies, weekend trips away to some secluded cottage in the country, lying together all night hugging and kissing, it's all good

 

[bashfull]

Evenin' ya'll

Just wanted to point out that romance is alive but repressed. The first few pages of Romance v. Raunch thread discussed this issue. If you allow the romance, you might be surprised to find how much is merely awaiting an invitation.



Bash

 

[Neftoon_Zamora]

See? I'm melting just reading the replies!!!

 

[Georgia Girl]

I have no doubt that there are good guys out there but, for me at least, there are so many of the ones who aren't that by the time a nice one comes along I don't see him fully because the hurt from the others clouds my vision.

I think that until you are ready for a deeper relationship it will make a difference in the people that you attract just due to the attitude your project.

Just my thoughts on the subject.

 

[bashfull]

I have no doubt that there are good guys out there but, for me at least, there are so many of the ones who aren't that by the time a nice one comes along I don't see him fully because the hurt from the others clouds my vision.

I think that until you are ready for a deeper relationship it will make a difference in the people that you attract just due to the attitude your project.

Just my thoughts on the subject.

Darlin', I certainly agree. Also, the attitude that is projected guides the attitude received. If someone appears to resent, or merely fails to acknowledge, tentative gestures of romance, then a man is feels that it must remain repressed.

but then, what is romance? does it not carry different conotations to different individuals? And are not the gestures of romance viewed differently among those of different cultures? Perhaps the first step is to define romance.



Bash

 

[whspr]

I believe in romance! I always have. Now, that I have found
a romantic man to call mine, I'm glad I never gave up. Ladies,
keep looking. I bet he is just around the corner.

smiles,
whspr

 

[BlueDaisy]

23 yo guy here, and I have to agree, most of my friends etc dont have a clue, and dont have much respect for women either.

I was brought up to respect woman and only had a mother for most of my teenage years so I guess that helped

I'm a pretty big romantic, took a rose from my own garden with me for my last date, I dont think it impressed her as much as I had planned :\

But yeah, I love the romantic dinner thing, opening doors for ladies, weekend trips away to some secluded cottage in the country, lying together all night hugging and kissing, it's all good

Reminds me of my first date with my hubby. He brought me a rose (not from his own garden, however) and when the evening was over....he kissed my hand! Such a delightful change from the other guys.

 

[BlueDaisy]

Re: Evenin' ya'll

Just wanted to point out that romance is alive but repressed. The first few pages of Romance v. Raunch thread discussed this issue. If you allow the romance, you might be surprised to find how much is merely awaiting an invitation.



Bash

If any lady wants to know about romantic men, just go to Bash's profile page and click on the thing that takes you to all his past posts....and just read! This man is absolutely the most romantic man I've ever "known", methinks!

Neffie, you said you are melting reading the replies....I swoon everytime I read one of Bash's posts! Well, usually! LOL!

 

[Xerxes82]

I can hardly speak for all of the romantic guys, but I personally am going to go and hide in a hole somewhere.

Maybe it's just bad luck, but so few women give "nice guys" like me a chance... so the romantic side goes unnoticed...

 

[BlueDaisy]

I can hardly speak for all of the romantic guys, but I personally am going to go and hide in a hole somewhere.

Maybe it's just bad luck, but so few women give "nice guys" like me a chance... so the romantic side goes unnoticed...

Awww....xerxes...don't hide. There are those of us who really appreciate the "nice guys" with the romantic natures! Shoot....I'm a slut on Lit, but in real life, I'm totally opposite! If I wasn't married (or if I become unmarried! LOL!), I'd be on the lookout for a nice, romantic man.

 

[LdyBGemini]

They are out there...trust me My ex was the most unromantic man I knew...on the flip side the guy I'm dating may not open doors for me but he makes me feel like I'm the only person in the world when we are together. I like the little things...this may not sound romantic but I needed a chair repaired and without me asking him he brought over the stuff and fixed it for me...maybe I'm weird but that made my heart warm all over. But he does enjoy candles and soft music when the time is appropriate

 

[BlueDaisy]

They are out there...trust me My ex was the most unromantic man I knew...on the flip side the guy I'm dating may not open doors for me but he makes me feel like I'm the only person in the world when we are together. I like the little things...this may not sound romantic but I needed a chair repaired and without me asking him he brought over the stuff and fixed it for me...maybe I'm weird but that made my heart warm all over. But he does enjoy candles and soft music when the time is appropriate

Honey, in my book, that IS romantic, too! Doing things like that without having to be asked.

 

[Xerxes82]

Awww....xerxes...don't hide. There are those of us who really appreciate the "nice guys" with the romantic natures! Shoot....I'm a slut on Lit, but in real life, I'm totally opposite! If I wasn't married (or if I become unmarried! LOL!), I'd be on the lookout for a nice, romantic man.

I know there are women out there who might appreciate me. I guess I just wish I'd find one.

Oh well, I'll just have to keep looking... and in the meanwhile, ladies who think romance is dead, you keep looking as well. You're bound to find that guy eventually...

 

[BlueDaisy]

I know there are women out there who might appreciate me. I guess I just wish I'd find one.

Oh well, I'll just have to keep looking... and in the meanwhile, ladies who think romance is dead, you keep looking as well. You're bound to find that guy eventually...

for you, xerxes

 

[LdyBGemini]

Honey, in my book, that IS romantic, too! Doing things like that without having to be asked.

Uh huh...and I did let him know how much it meant to me

 

[Xerxes82]

for you, xerxes

Many thanks Blue...

@%-------- A rose for you... not much, but a small token of appreciation...

 

[LdyBGemini]

I know there are women out there who might appreciate me. I guess I just wish I'd find one.

Oh well, I'll just have to keep looking... and in the meanwhile, ladies who think romance is dead, you keep looking as well. You're bound to find that guy eventually...

Maybe a personal ad might be in order!

 

[BlueDaisy]

Uh huh...and I did let him know how much it meant to me

Yeah...you've got to let 'em know!