Where are the "Older" Women????

[bigd_2k]

I'm fairly new to the Literotica personals, and have done my share of reading the past ads (check out the bags under my baby blues). Seems to be a lot of men seeking the "older" or "mature" women. Yet I never see any women responding to those ads.

As a man of 44 years, who has his share of fantasies about young as well as women in their prime, I'm just not sure why there are no, say over 50 y/o ladies, interested in young men. I thought many women were more accepting of the May/Dec relationship these days.

I realize the ads are usually for sex only, so I'm not sure they qualify under the heading "relationship".

So, ladies, I'm really not writing this for myself (yeah, right), BUT, for the enlightenment of all those young guys out there, what do they need to do to get your interest and attention?

Really Curious in Dallas

 

[Czarina]

As a man of 44 years, who has his share of fantasies about young as well as women in their prime, I'm just not sure why there are no, say over 50 y/o ladies, interested in young men. I thought many women were more accepting of the May/Dec relationship these days.

Really Curious in Dallas

It has been my personal experience that the younger men have not cultivated the finesse of a more mature man. Not that I haven't enjoyed the charms of a younger man. But sexual stimulation is about patience and understanding. Most young guys want to show you how hard it is and how quickly they can cum. As the Pointer Sisters said "I want a man with a slow hand". Most young guys have not mastered the art. It takes time and effort to become a masterful lover.

 

[Guest]

as a 47 year old total female horndog..LOL...I would like to add my 2 cents worth about younger men vs older men as lovers. I have had plenty of both and some really great sex from both younger and older men. My take on this is that older men have the finesse but younger men have the stamina. They may cum fast but they can keep on cummin'. And me, being multiorgasmic, I like it to last as long as I can...

 

[Paradox]

Then, once in a while, you find that older guy with finese who can last a long, long time

 

[Amber41]

I too have had my share of lovers of all ages. Sex is about give and take. Unfortunately in my experience the less experienced and less mature guys were mostly interested in their own end result of cumming. More mature and experienced men were happy to take their time to make sure that I was satisfied as well. Their techniques were finer tuned and they were happy to prolong the experience.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with getting down and dirty sometimes too. I've had days when all I wanted was to cum. However, for the guys, when you're trying to impress someone or make a lasting first sexual impression, it should be about paying more attention to the needs of your partner rather than just getting off. If you work it just right and she's anything worth having, she'll probably reward you for your efforts.


Luckily I've found a man who can let me have multiple orgasms before he even has his first. As a matter of fact, the first time we had sex, we were in bed for 3 1/2 hours before he came. He wanted to make sure he made a lasting impression on me and needless to say, I married him!! Our second encounter with sex was even more impressive than our first!

Experience and maturity is a good thing in sex. And you know what they say....."Practice makes perfect"

 

[wildrose69]

Well hon..I dont know where you have been looking...but believe me we are out here...I'm an older still attractive and very sensual lover and have had my share of younger men...and i agree with what has been said...younger men have the stamina...but older men take the time to make sure a woman is very pleased before he ever thinks of himself...take it from me boys...the best one so far was 71...sure he might have a time getting there..but he sure made sure i got there..over and over and believe me boys...thats what counts..no longer does a woman have to settle for the old wham bam thank you mam...those days are gone forever...THANK GOD!!! We older women know what we want and need!! and if you can give it to us...your my kind of man!!

 

[wildrose69]

Well hon..I dont know where you have been looking...but believe me we are out here...I'm an older still attractive and very sensual lover and have had my share of younger men...and i agree with what has been said...younger men have the stamina...but older men take the time to make sure a woman is very pleased before he ever thinks of himself...take it from me boys...the best one so far was 71...sure he might have a time getting there..but he sure made sure i got there..over and over and believe me boys...thats what counts..no longer does a woman have to settle for the old wham bam thank you mam...those days are gone forever...THANK GOD!!! We older women know what we want and need!! and if you can give it to us...your my kind of man!!

 

[Ladybird]

Hi, I have to support most of what the other ladies have written. Younger guys seem to think that because they have more 'staying' power than older men, thats all they need. But good sex involves more than just intercourse, and younger men seem on the whole to be unaware of that. There are many ways that I can orgasm, and an experienced lover will know that, and satisfy my needs, as I will his.

Youth will never make up for experience.

 

[aphrodite-1]

Hi. Thought I would add my insight as to a younger lover. I met my young lover in a chatroom. He was 33 to my 48. In our chats he told me he felt older women were more open about what they wanted, obviously more experienced and more comfortable with their sexuality than younger women. His greatest desire was to pleasure his lady, which he was very astute at in our writings to each other.

After several months of chatting, we met in person. He was as gentle and loving as he had expressed himself to be. He brought me to orgasm again and again with oral and foreplay, teaching me things I'd never known about my body. Before him, I never believed there really was a G-spot. But he taught me where that special spot was and took great delight in the pleasures he gave me stroking that especially sensitive area. Having me gush on his face, tongue and hands seemed to make him want to play with me all the more. When we finally rode each other it was exquisite. There were so many times I wondered how he could hold out for so long. Giving me pleasure, feeling and watching me cum seemed to keep him hard and wanting more.

I realize our situation may be unusual, but I feel it only fair to share my experience and let you know, there are young guys out there who do care about more than a quick hump.

I've been working on the story of our first time together and hope to share it with the readers soon. It's a bit bittersweet for me to work on right now, as my lover and I are no longer together.

 

[MsMars]

In reply to this one, I'm 49 and have had friends and lovers younger and older than myself. One notable one was 35 when I met him last year and tho I was at first hesitant, he reassured me that my age was not a concern. I have learned that so many younger men make the comment that older women 'know what they want and are more relaxed with sex' or that 'we don't play games'. None of the younger men I have been with was only concerned with his own pleasure, each was a wonderful lover and I learned that stamina is not the only attribute of younger men. And another thing, not all older men have finesse, not all younger ones have stamina...you must take each one as a unique individual and disregard the age, learn to comminucate with each other, acknowledge your differences and celebrate them together. Remember this, it would be unbearably boring if we were all the same age. So, from one who is TooSlutty...here's to men..all of youall, young and old!!

 

[mauimichael69]

go there

i love a real women who can enjoy a good fucking and not care about the trivial shit...it's not how long you make it,it's how long you make it long...mauimichael

 

[Bartender~]

I am what most ladies would call a young gun. Young at 19 dumb and full of cum. Its the truth but i have a fetish for oral sex i love to eat out my lovers until they beg me to stop. I think more men should get used to this its a lovely thing that many women enjoy and love to have that done t them. i also will literally fuck them all night long if they wish but i make sure they are always pleased

Bartender