When you've told someone at least 12 times

[PacificBlue]

that something they do makes you feel a certain way and you'd like them to stop. I'm assuming they really don't give a rip about your feelings on the subject.

The correct answer is not to say...

"Yes, I am having a laugh at your expense because if I don't someone else will".

Asshole!

What? Are we still back on the playground? Maybe if for one second you stopped worrying so much about what everybody else thinks, you'd find your life to be a little more pleasant. What is it going to get you anyway? Huh?

 

[alexandraaah]

I'm not sure about your assessment that "they don't really give a rip about your feelings..."

There's a lot of things I've told people that bother me, but the reality is that their intentions aren't to do that.

It's a matter of whether someone is intentionally being a jackass, or just used to being themselves and what comes out of their mouth isn't meant to hurt, rather it's how they're used to communicating.

If someone is just a jackass through and through, then decide if you even want them in your life.

 

[Monazwx]

The correct answer is not to say...

"Yes, I am having a laugh at your expense because if I don't someone else will".

Huh?

That's just fucked up.

 

[Guest]

Maybe you can turn the tables -

If this person is of the "playground/recess" mentality, perhaps they would understand better if THEY were subjected to the same situation they've been exposing you to.

Is there any way you can give back just a taste - say or do something that makes them uncomfortable - so they are aware of just how their actions make you feel?

Maybe they really don't understand how much they are bothering you (and maybe they're just an asshole) but this way they'll know a bit more?

Or is that too evil, even though it sounds fun!!!

 

[PacificBlue]

I think the issue is consideration of another's feelings. I think that when I've taken the time to explain why 'said issue' is important that a friend should listen and not continue to make light of it.

If I were high-strung about a lot of things than they might have a point in trying to make a joke. The reality is there are few things that are very important to me that I ask of my friends. I learned long ago that it would get you nowhere.

 

[PacificBlue]

Re: Maybe you can turn the tables -

If this person is of the "playground/recess" mentality, perhaps they would understand better if THEY were subjected to the same situation they've been exposing you to.

Is there any way you can give back just a taste - say or do something that makes them uncomfortable - so they are aware of just how their actions make you feel?

Maybe they really don't understand how much they are bothering you (and maybe they're just an asshole) but this way they'll know a bit more?

Or is that too evil, even though it sounds fun!!!

I have tried that and they didn't like it at all. I think this is a one-way friendship and I can either keep beating my head against a wall or walk away with a lesson in hand.

 

[Guest]

That's a shame. Sounds as if you have the right idea, then - walk away. Their loss!