When your other half turns evil.

Samuelx

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Lately, things haven't been going well....



My girlfriend Wendy has changed from a loving and supportive girlfriend into something I hardly recognize. She's bitter now and she swears a lot. She's been doing it for a long time (1 month now). She's become aggressive and not in a good way. I've seen her hit a small boy HARD for picking up his fallen candy and after she did I grabbed her and told her that it's not cool with me.



She looked at me with venom in her eyes. I don't know what to do. I always thought our relationship was meant to be. I am a bisexual black man and I know that not many women can accept me just the way I am. Wendy is the first girl I've dated who's accepted my bisexuality. I was in love with her and even thought about moving in with her. I even thought of us living together and having kids. That's up in the air right now.



I walked away from her three days ago. I haven't answered her phone calls. On the phone, sometimes she sounds sweet and other times she sounds like the
devil. I dont know why she's changed. It seems the person whom I loved is gone. I love Wendy but hate what she's becoming. She used to love kids, now she hurts them. She used to care about people, now she laughs
about homeless people and the pain they go through. I am not sure if I want to be with her. She's apologized but I'm not sure if I can trust her again.



Lately, I've been hanging out with a guy named John. I used to know him in high school. He played football back then. It's been a long time since I've seen him. Months ago, I ran into him. He's told me that he's gay. He works as a security consultant. He has a son with a lady and he doesn't live with them even though he has joint custody. We've been hanging out. I've introduced him to my friends and family and they like him. All of them like him. They think he's great. John tells me that he is OUT to his family and looking for a good man to be with. The other day, I was feeling down because of my girlfriend's transformation into her evil self and John took me to Boston. We spent the day together and later slept in the same bed WITHOUT DOING IT ! It was one of the best nights of my life.


I dont know what to do anymore. I still love Wendy but she's turned bad. When she was angry a few days ago, I hung up the phone because I felt like swearing at her but didnt want to hurt her feelings. She called back and told me that unless I talked to her, she'd tell everyone my secret. She'd tell the world that I am bisexual. That really worried me. I wish she wouldn't be like that. I also have some feelings for John but I refuse to cheat on my
girlfriend. I don't know what I want.


What should I do ?
 
Samuelx said:
Lately, things haven't been going well....



My girlfriend Wendy has changed from a loving and supportive girlfriend into something I hardly recognize. She's bitter now and she swears a lot. She's been doing it for a long time (1 month now). She's become aggressive and not in a good way. I've seen her hit a small boy HARD for picking up his fallen candy and after she did I grabbed her and told her that it's not cool with me.



She looked at me with venom in her eyes. I don't know what to do. I always thought our relationship was meant to be. I am a bisexual black man and I know that not many women can accept me just the way I am. Wendy is the first girl I've dated who's accepted my bisexuality. I was in love with her and even thought about moving in with her. I even thought of us living together and having kids. That's up in the air right now.



I walked away from her three days ago. I haven't answered her phone calls. On the phone, sometimes she sounds sweet and other times she sounds like the
devil. I dont know why she's changed. It seems the person whom I loved is gone. I love Wendy but hate what she's becoming. She used to love kids, now she hurts them. She used to care about people, now she laughs
about homeless people and the pain they go through. I am not sure if I want to be with her. She's apologized but I'm not sure if I can trust her again.



Lately, I've been hanging out with a guy named John. I used to know him in high school. He played football back then. It's been a long time since I've seen him. Months ago, I ran into him. He's told me that he's gay. He works as a security consultant. He has a son with a lady and he doesn't live with them even though he has joint custody. We've been hanging out. I've introduced him to my friends and family and they like him. All of them like him. They think he's great. John tells me that he is OUT to his family and looking for a good man to be with. The other day, I was feeling down because of my girlfriend's transformation into her evil self and John took me to Boston. We spent the day together and later slept in the same bed WITHOUT DOING IT ! It was one of the best nights of my life.


I dont know what to do anymore. I still love Wendy but she's turned bad. When she was angry a few days ago, I hung up the phone because I felt like swearing at her but didnt want to hurt her feelings. She called back and told me that unless I talked to her, she'd tell everyone my secret. She'd tell the world that I am bisexual. That really worried me. I wish she wouldn't be like that. I also have some feelings for John but I refuse to cheat on my
girlfriend. I don't know what I want.


What should I do ?


First and foremost, if you want to save your relationship with your girlfriend, get some couples counseling. If she refuses to go, go by yourself. It also might not hurt for her to get checked out by her doctor. There are different diseases out there that can cause mood swings and the like.

If she refuses to change (and it's not a medical problem that can be fixed) I would suggest getting far away from her. She's only going to end up hurting you in the end. It sounds like she's on some kind of self-destructive path and is trying to take you with her.

You are responsible for your own happiness and well-being. If she isn't a part of both, you need to make a break from her for your own sake.
 
Volz said:
First and foremost, if you want to save your relationship with your girlfriend, get some couples counseling. If she refuses to go, go by yourself. It also might not hurt for her to get checked out by her doctor. There are different diseases out there that can cause mood swings and the like.

If she refuses to change (and it's not a medical problem that can be fixed) I would suggest getting far away from her. She's only going to end up hurting you in the end. It sounds like she's on some kind of self-destructive path and is trying to take you with her.

You are responsible for your own happiness and well-being. If she isn't a part of both, you need to make a break from her for your own sake.

I agree with Volz...you can try to get her some help, but at some point you may just have to let go. Do you have any idea why she's changed...drugs, alcohol, life problems, mental illness, etc.? Was she abused? And who is the boy she hit? Does she work with or have access to children? If so, it's your responsibility to take action now.

There will be other women who will love and accept you for who you are...does a fear of that or being outted really strike you as good reasons to stay with a destructive, abusive person? You owe it to yourself to not let her drag you down like that...you deserve better.
 
SweetErika said:
I agree with Volz...you can try to get her some help, but at some point you may just have to let go. Do you have any idea why she's changed...drugs, alcohol, life problems, mental illness, etc.? Was she abused? And who is the boy she hit? Does she work with or have access to children? If so, it's your responsibility to take action now.

There will be other women who will love and accept you for who you are...does a fear of that or being outted really strike you as good reasons to stay with a destructive, abusive person? You owe it to yourself to not let her drag you down like that...you deserve better.

Listen to SweetErika's advice.
 
Indeed, it sounds like she could be experiencing serious illness. Such a drastic change without explanation is a possible sign of something seriously wrong. Has she seen a medical doctor? A psychiatrist? Even if you don't feel the romantic relationship can be salvaged at this point, if you are able to it would be a good gesture to try to help her.
 
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