When you piss someone else on the boards off...

[KillerMuffin]

Do you care?
Do you pretend not to?
Do you think about making amends?
Do you think they care?
Do you pick fights with them?
Do you avoid them?
Do you ignore them?

What do you think?

 

[TN_Vixen]

the only person I can

remember pissing off on the board is cymbidia when I called her bossy.

And I stand by that.
And I don't care if she's pissed.
And I don't pick fights
I generally ignore her

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

KM - you've been asking this kind of question a lot lately, about how we all react to people on the board we disagree with. Has someone pissed you off, or did you piss someone off? (I pity the fool who pissed you off. LOL)

 

[p_p_man]

Dunno...

This subject is totally alien to me...

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Do you care?
Do you pretend not to?
Do you think about making amends?
Do you think they care?
Do you pick fights with them?
Do you avoid them?
Do you ignore them?

What do you think?

I have yet to piss anyone off.... and frankly I could care if I did piss anyone off. I could care less and besides ... * tapping on my computer screen * ... Its not real ... its cyberspace.

 

[Angel]

Do you care?

Most of the time, no. I generally stand by what I say, regardless if someone gets pissed off.

Do you pretend not to?

No. If I care, I don't hide it.

Do you think about making amends?

It depends on the situation. Most of the time, no. There has been one exception.

Do you think they care?

Depends on the person.

Do you pick fights with them?

No.

Do you avoid them?

No.

Do you ignore them?

No. If I do, it's because I'm not in the mood.

 

[estevie]

Do you care?
Do you pretend not to?
Do you think about making amends?
Do you think they care?
Do you pick fights with them?
Do you avoid them?
Do you ignore them?

What do you think?

I'll just skip to the what do you think part....

I don't set out to piss anyone off. I don't apologize for my statements or my opinions. However, I will certainly apologize for my behavior. If I feel I need to make amends for something I have done or said, I don't hesitate to try and fix my wrong. I think that the people I make amends with care or what would be the point of making amends?

I can be civil with anyone. I can still read and reply to their posts in an adult way. I don't need to type the smartass comments that run thru my head. I don't go out of my way to avoid or ignore them. I don't let it stop me from posting where I want.

 

[xzchief]

Re: Re: When you piss someone else on the boards off...

I have yet to piss anyone off.... and frankly I could care if I did piss anyone off. I could care less and besides ... * tapping on my computer screen * ... Its not real ... its cyberspace.

Really? Well then, I'd better tell my hacker buddies to stop immediately. Maybe I should also cancel that call to 1-800-US-Search. Their investigators are supposed to get back to me in a few hours with addresses and phone numbers of my "long-lost relatives".

These comments are strictly fictional. Usual disclaimers apply. The ACLU is on my speed dial. Have a good day.

 

[Rambling Rose]

KM - you've been asking this kind of question a lot lately, about how we all react to people on the board we disagree with. Has someone pissed you off, or did you piss someone off? (I pity the fool who pissed you off. LOL)

Below you will find a link that gives recent example and answer to both your question and KillerMuffin's...and I am many things Dixon, but never a fool.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=57865

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Re: Re: Re: When you piss someone else on the boards off...

Really? Well then, I'd better tell my hacker buddies to stop immediately. Maybe I should also cancel that call to 1-800-US-Search. Their investigators are supposed to get back to me in a few hours with addresses and phone numbers of my "long-lost relatives".

These comments are strictly fictional. Usual disclaimers apply. The ACLU is on my speed dial. Have a good day.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Actually, BR, that doesn't answer any questions, just brings up the little spat.

I'm feeling introspective lately.

I don't actually care who I piss off, nor do I go to pains to avoid them. I say what I say and if I later think it's wrong, then I apologize. I'm not to going to temper or candy-coat my opinions to make anyone feel better about them.

I was thinking about that whole thing today when I read SummerRoses's thing on compassion. If PC had written that, I wouldn't have jumped to his defense, I would have cheered him on because I think he can take care of himself.

CB, though, I felt the need to come to her defense. She made a bad judgement call in phrasing her post and suddenly she's the wicked bitch of the board. And not yesterday everyone was lamenting about the sheer judgementalism regarding bratcat.

One thing I can't stand is blind hypocracy. Not even my own. Everyone who criticized CB on that thread was a blind hypocrite. Anyone who thinks they aren't hypocrites are self-deluded liars.

Anyway, BR, I quit quibbling on that thread a long time ago. I dropped it and didn't stalk you all over the board because that's just bad manners. So, go ahead and pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself and whomever you've been PMing, IMing, or emailing about your great victory over that self-aggrandizing bitch, KM. Whatever cranks your tractor, tootsiepop.

But, if you really want to get into all over again, I'm game. I was being nice last night, I was trying to make a point and not be vicious. But if you want to trade little sarcastic quips, by all means. Go ahead and start a thread, but do the whole board a favor and don't carry your personal vendetta against me all over all the threads. It's really rude, you know.

 

[YogiBare]

I'm usually pretty gentle with people and don't usually piss people off. I will piss people off intentionally if it seems necessary to get their attention or to have the impact that I seek. Normally, I prefer gentleness and subtlety.

If someone tries to pick a fight with me I'll decide whether or not it is a fight that I need to have and then act accordingly. Anyone who wants to bully me quickly learns that I am not a person to tangle with because I can out-maneuver most anyone. They learn that it is an error to mistake my kindness for weakness.

 

[Renegade]

Do you care? If it's someone that I like or respect in one way or another, yes. But not if it's someone that I've never really enjoyed seeing around the board in the first place, or someone who's just trying to pick a fight.
Do you pretend not to? Only if that person tries to make a bigger deal about it then it's worth.
Do you think about making amends? All the time. In fact, I've tried to make amends with many/all of those I've ticked off in the past. Some accept it, others don't. Their choice. But I'd rather not have any enemys on the board.
Do you think they care? Depends on the person. Know that when I pissed off Deb long ago that she didn't really care. But there are those I've pissed off who I think care.
Do you pick fights with them? Nope. Don't really see the point to it.
Do you avoid them? At times. But if they or someone else say something interesting or funny, I'll respond to that thread they posted to.
Do you ignore them? Again, at times. Mostly just brush 'em off with a quick responce unless it's something I care about.

What do you think? That, although a good debate is often fun, pity fights serve little to no point on the board. I've spent most of my time on this board not bothering with getting into fights with other members because of something like a differing point of view. The few fights I've been involved in were brought to me by other members, and I usualy only bother to give well thought out responces when I think some good can come from it. Otherwise, I'll brush it off and move on from there.

 

[Cherry]

I'm a wimp!

Rarely, I will get into a heated discussion on the board ... usually, when I find it impossible to bite my tongue.

Lately, that has been in defense of US military action in Afghanistan ... and, the European criticism of it and other anti-american bashing.

It does upset me though ... I'm not a confrontational person, as a rule. The night that I traded insults with PeePeeMan, I couldn't sleep ... tossed and turned and finally watched the sun come up.

I know, you won't change anyone's mind about something they firmly believe is true ... but, it bothers me to hear the twisted facts, assumptions, insults about our president and policies ... so, I had to open my big mouth and get into the fray!

It cost a pound of flesh, though.

 

[SimplySouthern]

Pissing people off

Barring any semblence of an answer that relates to the original question asked....I'll just go with this.

I'm sure in my time here I've pissed off a few people. Perhaps not intentionally, but I'm sure it's been done. If something I've said hurt someone ( and I knew about it) I have apologized personally and privately for having offended them and hurt them. Never have I apologized for the content of what I've said.

I have the integrity to stand behind each and every post I make. If you don't like it...tough. I will not take any part in sugar coating my opinions just to make sure that someone else doesn't have to face the harsh truth that is reality.

I would never intentionally say something to hurt another person for the sheer thrill of it. That's not my style. You also won't see me participate in many "flame" threads. One thing to rest assured of, though, is that if I am a participant in anything slightly derrogatory...I'll put my name with the post and you'll know who said it!

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Do you care?

Yes, if I did it unintentionally to someone I do not dislike. If it is someone I do dislike then I don't care if I pissed them off or not.

Do you pretend not to?

A little maybe - it depends.

Do you think about making amends?

If I can see what I did, and I said something uncaring, but if they are pissed off just because of my opinion on something then I am not going to try to make amends - I shouldn't have to; everybody is entitled to their opinion.

Do you think they care?

If they are pissed off then yes they care.

Do you pick fights with them?

Rarely, and not really for the intention of picking a fight; just maybe to point something out - like the night PPMan was putting up 3 word sentences and then saying "discuss".

Do you avoid them?

Maybe. I generally want them to cool don a little, and distance helps.

Do you ignore them?

No - unless I wanted to ignore them for other reasons.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I will respond to you here so that there are no misunderstandings. You have a tendency to make assumptions and I am not going to give you the ammunition.

Actually, BR, that doesn't answer any questions, just brings up the little spat.

I gave a pertinent example of how I respond when I am feeling angry with a poster here. In that thread you took a comment that I made and twisted it to suit your self-righteous hostility and protective instincts. My comment about CB's soapbox being slippery had more to do with her being attacked for her thread than my feelings about what she posted. You lumped me in with everyone else and asked me to defend myself or prove my hypocrisy. It also answered Dixon's question asking if someone had pissed you off lately. In fact you started this thread today on the very basis of last night's incident, so don't try to throw the blame on me for vomiting it back up again. It's not even cold in it's grave yet.

If PC had written that, I wouldn't have jumped to his defense, I would have cheered him on because I think he can take care of himself. CB, though, I felt the need to come to her defense. She made a bad judgement call in phrasing her post and suddenly she's the wicked bitch of the board. And not yesterday everyone was lamenting about the sheer judgementalism regarding bratcat. One thing I can't stand is blind hypocracy. Not even my own.

This is an excellent example of your own hypocrisy. You defended a strong-minded, capable adult female because you were itching for a fight, not because she was incapable of defending herself. Please note that I did not join in the general lynching or support of *bratcat*. I find the attacks and subsequent defenses of her behaviour tiresome and dull in the extreme.

Everyone who criticized CB on that thread was a blind hypocrite. Anyone who thinks they aren't hypocrites are self-deluded liars.

That's your opinion and you're sticking to it, by God! I disagree. I think the people that were irritated by CB's rant, felt that way because she sounded like a whiner over something trivial and she felt the need to strut a bit about her 'unnattainability' in doing so. It rubbed people the wrong way. That doesn't make them all hypocrites, KM. Do I think I am better than some people? Yes. Do I think I am better than CB? No, but I think I am wiser in some respects. I am older and more experienced in the ways of the world and human nature than she is. Does this make me a blind hypocrite or a self-deluded liar? Not in this fucking lifetime.

Anyway, BR, I quit quibbling on that thread a long time ago. I dropped it and didn't stalk you all over the board because that's just bad manners. So, go ahead and pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself and whomever you've been PMing, IMing, or emailing about your great victory over that self-aggrandizing bitch, KM. Whatever cranks your tractor, tootsiepop.

This was just last night, KM. It is a stretch even for you to consider that it was a 'long time ago', especially given that you posted this thread the next morning, after reflecting on your actions last night. I do not need to tout my victory over you behind the scenes. Our words are there in black and white for all to see. If you think by patronizing me, that I will cringe and retreat you are dead wrong, nor will I allow you to bait me.

I was being nice last night, I was trying to make a point and not be vicious.

You were not being nice last night. You were being particularly nasty and did not hesitate to cast aspersion on our respective characters. You know next to nothing about who I am, or what I am about. You chose the wrong person to go after with your usual tactics, that much is certain. Perhaps we should simply agree to disagree and move on.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[KillerMuffin]

Well, I did try that disagree and drop it thing. You're convinced that I started this thread because of you. How's that for self-indulgent and whiny?

If last night was nasty and mean on my part, I shudder to think of what I've been like in the past. I didn't think I was that much of a hell-hound.

Let's review, since you're so hot for it.

When I made the list of people who responded negatively to CB and said that "some" of you can't handle the hypocracy or whatever I said, I was only referring to two people. One wasn't you.

I think it's interesting that you assumed I was. Guilty conscience?

And yes, I'm a hypocrite. I try not to be. What of it? You claim you're not. Just a sweet lil' innocent victim in this entire KM-engineered explosion so I can do whatever it was you think I wanted to do. I am such a monster.

I love your erroneous example of my hypocracy. I thought the better one would be how I told everyone to quit fighting on NSW's thread and then proceeded to do it in CB's. Hate to break it to ya, but your example isn't hypocracy. PC doesn't need my defense because he would defend himself. CB is a strong-capable woman, but she wouldn't defend herself. She tried, but she didn't do it very well.

It upset her and she felt bad because everyone misunderstood her. Of course pride keeps her from saying so, I imagine. You've never had that problem, have you BR? You're more than happy to humble yourself when need be.

I jump to the defense of people I feel need it, not people that I logically decide need it. I'm all over people who mess with bratcat and I'm not terribly fond of her. I don't do it with finesse, subtlety, or even a thought towards other people. I just do it.

I'm just sorry I pissed Siren off. I could give a rats ass about you, you'd been picking on people all day yesterday. Apparently just for the kicks. Okay, two posts, but hey, I don't open the board just to slavishly follow your posts.

Anyway, I'm having a fun debate with Dixon. Feel free to get up on your high horse and say "Even though I'm right and you're completely wrong and a bitch to boot, let's just agree to disagree."

Ah-ah-ah, no ranting about putting words in your mouth. You just did it to me. You have a tone, too.

 

[Laurel]

Do you care?
Yes.

Do you pretend not to?
No.

Do you think about making amends?
Yes.

Do you think they care?
You'd have to ask them.

Do you pick fights with them?
No.

Do you avoid them?
Sometimes - depends.

Do you ignore them?
Sometimes - depends.

 

[Starfish]

I have yet to piss someone on the board off or on.
Either way, would that require some sort of catheter bag?
Nevermind, things are heated, and I am all hot.

 

[Purple Haze]

Do you care?
Sometimes, I've been too quick to snap on occasion. Other times I'll piss someone off unintentionally. It's hard to care about some people.

Do you pretend not to?
I only pretend to be in love with Problem Child.

Do you think about making amends?
I've apologized to people on the board before, when and where it's deserved. I hate it when people send apologies in private for something in public, so cowardly.

Do you think they care?
If they didn't care, they wouldn't be pissed off.

Do you pick fights with them?
I pick fights with newbies that come in and shit all over the board. Most of them don't even know how irritating they are to me. It's not worth it, there's too many of them. I pick on those that can take a little. I rarely carry a grudge, if I do it's because they suck really bad.

Do you avoid them?
Like the Black Plague.

Do you ignore them?
I've never used the ignore feature, I can do that myself. I have shut off signature lines though. I think everyone should try this, it's like someone finally picked up the dog turds.

What do you think?
I'm not nearly as bitchy as I used to be, there's a lot of posts per day here and I can't and won't keep up on everything anymore. It's impossible, so there are a lot of people on auto-scroll with me. There are a lot of others that I find interesting that don't probably know it, I type slow and can't respond to everything I read. Some people are just pissed off anyway, glad I could help.

 

[JazzManJim]

I"m pretty simple-minded on this. If I'm aiming to piss someone off, it'll happen. Occasionally, I'll make someone upset when I don't mean to. If that happens I will definitely try to make amends, because I don't like to insult people accidentally.

If I think someone's pissed off at me, I usually read back to try to find out why that is. If I can't find a good reason, I'll ask them. In fact, that happened with KM in one of the other threads. I didn't understand how she had written something to me and I asked. She answered, and it's all good. If they've misinterpreted something I said, I'll clear it up. If they're just pissed to be pissed, well, to hell with them.

 

[JazzManJim]

And a note on the "It's only cyberspace" thoughts (with apologizes to Aphrodisiac. Sorry...you were just the one to bring it up <grin>)

It's not "just" cyberspace. For a great many folks, what they post here are there real thoughts and real ideas and real feelings. I know this is true for me - I'm as genuine here as I am everywhere else, though a bit more outgoing. Don't discout this place because it's just letters on a screen. People do invest their time and selves here and that's some thing that shouldn't be discounted.

 

[Xander]

That depends entirely on who I have pissed off.

If I intentionally have pissed someone off. Well I take pride in shoving it in tyheir face.

Not intentionally, I am the first to apologise.

Do I care. On both ends yes.

Do I make ammends...well sometimes I do. But not always.

I dont hide it no.

Do I pick fights...well yes sometimes I do.

Do I avoid them...no I dont

igonrance is bliss sometimes btw.