when you meet someone....

[buggawugga]

i met someone really amazing recently and after chatting with him for a bit, I realized that the connection I felt with this person was really unique. I loved the idea of getting to know him better. But when he found out that I wasn't single, he got all weird and our conversations haven't been quite the same ever since. This isn't the first time that's happened either. I hate that. Am I doomed to a lifetime of loneliness because I'm not single? I love my bf but he doesn't fulfill ALL the roles I need in my life. I would love to say to all these people: Yes! I am still capable of caring and flirting and loving and laughing with you! We just can't do it, is that so bad?!?! Am I not the same cool girlie I was yesterday?

 

[Zmey]

Marriage, responsibility, commitment you know all that bull shit that this society asks off you...
Some people have hard-on for strong morals ... some don't...
You will find lot's of people that are willing to flirt and have fun with ya
Welcome to Lit

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Zmey, LOVE tha AV

 

[Zmey]

Thank you ms.Mischief

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Thank you ms.Mischief

Whats the devil for?

 

[Zmey]

To scare little children I think ...

... Isn't it little late for religious conversation?

 

[Pixie Mischief]

To scare little children I think ...

... Isn't it little late for religious conversation?

LMAO I ment the one you made hehe

 

[Gusty Wind]

i met someone really amazing recently and after chatting with him for a bit, I realized that the connection I felt with this person was really unique. I loved the idea of getting to know him better. But when he found out that I wasn't single, he got all weird and our conversations haven't been quite the same ever since. This isn't the first time that's happened either. I hate that. Am I doomed to a lifetime of loneliness because I'm not single? I love my bf but he doesn't fulfill ALL the roles I need in my life. I would love to say to all these people: Yes! I am still capable of caring and flirting and loving and laughing with you! We just can't do it, is that so bad?!?! Am I not the same cool girlie I was yesterday?

well buggawugga.. some people just can't handle the truth..

and maybe they were looking for a long term relationship...

and found out your heart is NOT there for them.. so they became weird on you.

hmm.. and I agree with Zemy too...some Are strong at morals..

And I think they just feels uncomfortable themselve..

UNless your are still looking for the right MAN...

And in that case.. is Another story..

hmmm.. love to chat with you more.

good luck and welcome to the REAL World.. of LIT hee..

 

[RoughPlay]

Hi buggawugga

I wouldn't go all weird on you. It might be worth adding to your
profile that you're attached and have a boyfriend so people know
from the start.

In general I agree with the things in your post but I think there
need to be limits with other people when you are attached. Maybe a
unique connection with someone else is okay but not too intense.

 

[Astro]

I know myself that I love chatting online however when I find out the other person is attached it does change my perception of them same as in real life.

I just tend to reduce my flirting untill I find out if they are receptive to it. If I kept flirting with someone and they didnt want it because they were attached I would risk offending them.

just my 2-cents

 

[capricious_chic]

He probably felt as I would, the connection is not that unique if you failed to disclose information about yourself. Somethings shouldn't be disclosed because of safety, and that is understandable. It is a lie of omission when you fail to let another know that you are attached. If you are that callous about your relationship, he is probably wondering how you would treat him. (Going on the assumption that the "unique connection" was starting to involve "feelings"). There are many that will welcome a freindship and flirtation with an attached individual, and there are some that are seriously looking. By not telling him from the get go that you are attached, he may feel as if you were leading him on. If you lie about something that should be important to you, what other things may you be lying about. In this medium, your words and such are what others use to judge your character.

Early morning ramblings, ignore if it doesn't make sense.

 

[Gusty Wind]

see.. all this great with great advice... And you must re up date you profile..

tell them you have A boy friend .. so they don't feels cheated..

<take note to self ,, hee>*

 

[Cheyenne]

i met someone really amazing recently and after chatting with him for a bit, I realized that the connection I felt with this person was really unique. I loved the idea of getting to know him better. But when he found out that I wasn't single, he got all weird and our conversations haven't been quite the same ever since. This isn't the first time that's happened either. I hate that. Am I doomed to a lifetime of loneliness because I'm not single? I love my bf but he doesn't fulfill ALL the roles I need in my life. I would love to say to all these people: Yes! I am still capable of caring and flirting and loving and laughing with you! We just can't do it, is that so bad?!?! Am I not the same cool girlie I was yesterday?

It could be that you ARE the same cool girlie that you were yesterday that scares him. He may have good common sense in not letting himself fall in love with someone he can't have.

 

[sensational204]

Good point Cheyenne.

 

[plasticman33]

Some guys just don't want to get involved in a relationship if the woman has already developed ties with another man. They figure there's no future in it!

 

[Cheyenne]

Good point Cheyenne.

Thank you.

I should add that there isn't a thing wrong with being friends with guys when you are a married woman. But the words she used to describe this guy in the first post of the thread sound more like words for a potential lover than a potential friend.

 

[morninggirl5]

Re: Re: when you meet someone....

It could be that you ARE the same cool girlie that you were yesterday that scares him. He may have good common sense in not letting himself fall in love with someone he can't have.

I agree.

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: when you meet someone....

and maybe they were looking for a long term relationship...

and found out your heart is NOT there for them.. so they became weird on you.

that explains her actions