When You "Fuck UP"

[k¡tty]

Do you admit it outright or do you wait until you're called on it?


More clearly -

If you make a mistake do you go to that person and admit it freely and apologize?

or

Do you wait to see if they come to you and ask you about it, before saying anything?



btw I'm speaking generally, because I know that many times it depends on the situation at hand. ;-)

 

[Spaceboy]

Usually I'll freely admit to it.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Do you admit it outright or do you wait until you're called on it?


More clearly -

If you make a mistake do you go to that person and admit it freely and apologize?

or

Do you wait to see if they come to you and ask you about it, before saying anything?



btw I'm speaking generally, because I know that many times it depends on the situation at hand. ;-)

ARGGGH.

Assuming that I could possibly fuck up, I accuse them of mutiny and make em walk the plank.

Since I instituted that policy, I don't seem to fuck up anymore.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Just speaking for me, but sometimes, frankly, I don't know when I've screwed up...its a side effect of being so 'happy-go-lucky', that I am sometimes insensitive to the feelings of others. I try so hard not to take things seriously, sometimes, that I forget that other people can't help it.

Plus, sometimes admitting your mistakes can be scary.

 

[k¡tty]

Re: Re: When You "Fuck UP"

ARGGGH.

Assuming that I could possibly fuck up, I accuse them of mutiny and make em walk the plank.

Since I instituted that policy, I don't seem to fuck up anymore.

Ahh clever. ;-)


When cornered you switch it around and accuse back.

 

[Smiley777]

If I know that I fucked up, then I will almost always freely admit it.

Other times, I am totally clueless that I have...which can lead to problems, until I get confronted about it. After that happens, there is usually a good conversation followed by my apology, and things move on.

 

[Zilla]

I usually wait until someone calls me on it, then I fess up and apologize. I am way to shy and anxious to come right out and apologize for something unless someone brings it up first.

 

[k¡tty]

Admittedly I'm not always aware when I've offended or screwed up somewhere along the way, it happens.


But when I realize, on my own.. because lets face it there are times when we do things so blatantly.. I will apologize.

I think that it takes more hutpah to admit our mistakes than to hide from them.

 

[k¡tty]

Just speaking for me, but sometimes, frankly, I don't know when I've screwed up...its a side effect of being so 'happy-go-lucky', that I am sometimes insensitive to the feelings of others. I try so hard not to take things seriously, sometimes, that I forget that other people can't help it.

Plus, sometimes admitting your mistakes can be scary.

Maybe it isn't so much that other's always takes things so seriously as that you don't take them seriously enough.

I know that I have on occasion been guilty of this.. not taking a situation as seriously as it should have been.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Usually, when I fuck up I feel guilty and admit it and apologize for it. You can't miss it. It sucks, but I seem to make a habit of hurting someone.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Maybe it isn't so much that other's always takes things so seriously as that you don't take them seriously enough.

I know that I have on occasion been guilty of this.. not taking a situation as seriously as it should have been.

Oh, no, Kitty, I take all the blame, trust me...

 

[Killswitch]

I have always been one to admit my faults, and mistakes openly. This may be why I am so judgemental of others....because I am a lot more judgemental of my own actions than I am anyone elses. None of you would know this, but its pretty true.

But to really answer your question.....it depends.

Sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut.


Did I just say that?

 

[Rhys]

Sometimes I get so enthusiastic I don't know I've fucked up until somebody tells me. I am pretty oblivious sometimes and I misread a situation completely. If someone tells me about it and tells me why I screwed up I am pretty quick to apologise. Unfortunately, the lines of communication stay down and then there's nothing to be done

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Re: Re: Re: When You "Fuck UP"

Ahh clever. ;-)


When cornered you switch it around and accuse back.

I find that a sharp cutlass does wonders in keeping me from getting cornered to begin with.

And its not merely accusation. The bastards were all mutineers. They'd confess if they were still around to talk about it.

 

[k¡tty]

Usually, when I fuck up I feel guilty and admit it and apologize for it. You can't miss it. It sucks, but I seem to make a habit of hurting someone.

I've seen you apologize to people even here, for things that you've said. I have great respect and admiration for those who can admit they aren't perfect, that they do make mistakes.



JM only when you're at fault for something, should you take all of the blame.


I judge myself more harshly than anyone else ever could KS, maybe that's why it doesn't bother me as much when someone attempts to do so to me. But I *try* to not judge others so much.. knowing how imperfect I am, myself.

I can relate Rhys. Recently a friend of mine here stopped speaking to me, out of the blue.. or so I thought. It bothers me that I don't know the reasons why, I hate thinking that I've inadvertently caused another harm.

 

[k¡tty]

I find that a sharp cutlass does wonders in keeping me from getting cornered to begin with.

And its not merely accusation. The bastards were all mutineers. They'd confess if they were still around to talk about it.

Redirection of the original accusation. ;-)




Now that I think about it, haven't you attempted to make me walk that plank?

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

I judge myself more harshly than anyone else ever could ..............................

You make yourself walk the plank to your own ship?

That would be very difficult, especially when you get to jab yourself in the butt with your sword to make yourself jump off into the briney deep.

 

[k¡tty]

You make yourself walk the plank to your own ship?

That would be very difficult, especially when you get to jab yourself in the butt with your sword to make yourself jump off into the briney deep.

Smartass.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Redirection of the original accusation. ;-)




Now that I think about it, haven't you attempted to make me walk that plank?

I'm capitain for a reason. Always remember that age and treachery will usually overcome youth and skill.


I don't think I've ever made you walk the plank. I ALWAYS remember a bottom that I've sunk my sword into.

(Man the grammar in that last sentence was truely horrid)

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Smartass.

Arggghhh!!!

 

[k¡tty]

I'm captain for a reason. Always remember that age and treachery will usually overcome youth and skill.


I don't think I've ever made you walk the plank. I ALWAYS remember a bottom that I've sunk my sword into.

(Man the grammar in that last sentence was truely horrid)

Maybe it was an idle threat.. or was it a promise? ;-)

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Maybe it was an idle threat.. or was it a promise? ;-)

Hmmm. Depends. Do you like vanilla?

 

[k¡tty]

Hmmm. Depends. Do you like vanilla?

I *like* vanilla .. but I'm more of a neopolitan kinda girl.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

I *like* vanilla .. but I'm more of a neopolitan kinda girl.

Perhaps an arrangement might be made. How do you feel about Spumoni?

 

[Lost Cause]

I have no ego.....

And no desire to win petty, non lethal, conflicts.
If I screwed up, I'll own up to it, apologize or whatever.
My philosophy has always been of taking responsibility for my actions and beliefs. If my position is in error, it's on me.



*This thread title reminds me of a family joke;

Q: Why do the guys in my family always insist on the female being on top?

A: Because we only know how to fuck up!