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1) Go on your first date? 16
2) Have a real bf/gf? again, 16
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? 11
4) Wear makeup? 12
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? 17, after I broke up with my first boyfriend and he told my parents he'd slept with me just to get me in hot water. Oddly enough, the mother who grilled me over the open coals when I asked to go on the pill made me an appt with the doctor to get birth control.
2) Have a real bf/gf? again, 16
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? 11
4) Wear makeup? 12
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? 17, after I broke up with my first boyfriend and he told my parents he'd slept with me just to get me in hot water. Oddly enough, the mother who grilled me over the open coals when I asked to go on the pill made me an appt with the doctor to get birth control.
actually, my parents never gave me a set time on these things. not that they didn't care, i guess the subject just never came up. i still turned out pretty well though, still a virgin, never drunk alcohol, never smoked, never done drugs, never been in serious trouble. when i have children though, i WILL discuss these issues with them, maybe i just got lucky with my life, but i'd rather steer my children in the right direction.
Debbie
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Luscious Lioness said:
Be way more honest, open and approachable for my kids. Sex was a taboo subject, including info about my own body and periods etc.
My kids? My 13 year old knows where there are condoms in our house and that if he needs them? Take them and tell me if the jar is running low. Come to me and talk anytime, any topic. Or hint that you need some info.
My upbringing was a no talk zone. With my kids I joke about stuff so that they are more at ease and there are no taboo subjects.
My 9 yr old loves to streak, he is completely at ease with his body, no rudeness just wheeeee I am naked on my way to get dressed. The 13 yr old is very private and laugh laugh frown snort about sexuality and pubes. I think we are gonna be ok.
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In my family we had this sort of tradition where we were allowed to officially begin dating at 16, and our first date was always with our dad. (Sounds creepy on the surface I know but it was actually all very nice, sort of like a "coming out" date). He took me ut to dinner in a fancy restaurant in New York City and then to a Broadway show, then out for ice cream after. I will probably ask my husband to do something like this too if we have a daughter, it is a very sweet memory for me.
Shaving, I was probably about 13. If I knew than what I know now I never would have shaved and gone straight for the wax.
My mom was very paranoid abut me getting pregnant and nagged me and nagged me to get on the pill (even thought I wasn't having sex! but I don't think she believed me!) when I was 16 and a half.
Shaving, I was probably about 13. If I knew than what I know now I never would have shaved and gone straight for the wax.
My mom was very paranoid abut me getting pregnant and nagged me and nagged me to get on the pill (even thought I wasn't having sex! but I don't think she believed me!) when I was 16 and a half.
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1.) 15
2.) 13
3.) 12
4.) 14
5.) Never
2.) 13
3.) 12
4.) 14
5.) Never
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2) Have a real bf/gf? Never! I'm 33 years old now with two children and my father still thinks I'm too young for a boyfriend!
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? Oh god, I shaved my legs when I was about 15 years old and my father had a fit!
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick? Only once I left the house. I became quite adept at applying makeup in a car....the same goes for removing it before returning home.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? Your kidding right?
Parents have to think these things through for their own children... So what is your thoughts on these things for your children or future children.
My daughter is nearly 14 years, she has been on a couple of innocent dates already. She was allowed to shave her legs on her 12th birthday. I won't let her wear make up yet, but sometimes we have 'girls days' where we do makeup etc. I would not like her to be on the pill or have condoms yet...but I'm realistic to know that in a couple of years it might be best for her to be prepared.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? Oh god, I shaved my legs when I was about 15 years old and my father had a fit!
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick? Only once I left the house. I became quite adept at applying makeup in a car....the same goes for removing it before returning home.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? Your kidding right?
Parents have to think these things through for their own children... So what is your thoughts on these things for your children or future children.
My daughter is nearly 14 years, she has been on a couple of innocent dates already. She was allowed to shave her legs on her 12th birthday. I won't let her wear make up yet, but sometimes we have 'girls days' where we do makeup etc. I would not like her to be on the pill or have condoms yet...but I'm realistic to know that in a couple of years it might be best for her to be prepared.
bknight2602
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1. 14
2. 16
3. 18---Late bloomer
4. Never yet
5. Totally closed minds, frigid mother, how was I ever concieved?
Neither ever talked about sex. I learned what I knew at the time from books, and friends. Although much of the information was tilted toward guys beliefs.
2. 16
3. 18---Late bloomer
4. Never yet
5. Totally closed minds, frigid mother, how was I ever concieved?
Neither ever talked about sex. I learned what I knew at the time from books, and friends. Although much of the information was tilted toward guys beliefs.
calypso_21
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1) Go on your first date? 12, oh allowed to? 14...it was a triple date.
I am not sure. I think it would matter if I knew the other person or not.
2) Have a real bf/gf? allowed? I was 12 when I had my first but the first REAL one...16...it was the most grown up one though I'd dated many prior.
My mother couldn't ALLOW me this one...I had one without her consent. I think I would just like my children to be open with me. I was actually informed a week ago that my five year old had a boy friend...but she thought he was icky.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? Good gawd I can't even remember.
This depends fully on the situation. If it is needed then by all means.
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up.
I wore make up at 12...I know young but I was shown how to do it by a makeup artist so that I didn't look like an 12 year old hooker. I was self conscious of my glasses and my mother I guess thought that was a minor issue during a frustrating time period.
I think if makeup is done tastefully and in moderation that is what matters and just not too young.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? I was allowed to take the pill at 16...I didn't take it for protection...you know that regulating crap. I took myself off of it though. I hated being on it. I wasn't having sex anyway at that time.
This is an interesting one...I think I will have to wait and see how I would feel.
I have a friend who loves to torture me by saying when my children reach the age of 16 she is going to pull them aside and tell them the things I have done. I know she won't do it...until they are 18.
I am not sure. I think it would matter if I knew the other person or not.
2) Have a real bf/gf? allowed? I was 12 when I had my first but the first REAL one...16...it was the most grown up one though I'd dated many prior.
My mother couldn't ALLOW me this one...I had one without her consent. I think I would just like my children to be open with me. I was actually informed a week ago that my five year old had a boy friend...but she thought he was icky.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? Good gawd I can't even remember.
This depends fully on the situation. If it is needed then by all means.
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up.
I wore make up at 12...I know young but I was shown how to do it by a makeup artist so that I didn't look like an 12 year old hooker. I was self conscious of my glasses and my mother I guess thought that was a minor issue during a frustrating time period.
I think if makeup is done tastefully and in moderation that is what matters and just not too young.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? I was allowed to take the pill at 16...I didn't take it for protection...you know that regulating crap. I took myself off of it though. I hated being on it. I wasn't having sex anyway at that time.
This is an interesting one...I think I will have to wait and see how I would feel.
I have a friend who loves to torture me by saying when my children reach the age of 16 she is going to pull them aside and tell them the things I have done. I know she won't do it...until they are 18.
Luscious Lioness said:
For my children.....
The bottom line answer to most of these questions is "when they are emotionally and mentally mature enough to handle it".
For the make up, whenever she expresses interest, and with my guidance. I know that she may wish to do it differently, but I think I can convince her of her beauty in other ways.
Birth control/sexual health education is an absolute must, and I would insist that my children be prepared, however there would be alot of talking ahead of time. It is in place now with my son, and he is not quite 13.
You have to keep in mind that the more you repress a child, the more they are tempted and frustrated. There is nothing that can replace open communication, you have to give them permission to speak their minds, respect them for their thoughts, and go at it until you find common ground.
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Luscious Lioness said:
1. After I turned 18 and went away to college.
2. After I turned 18 and went away to college.
3. Don't remember.
4. 16.
5. Uhhh, what would have been the point...I didn't get to go out.
"We trust you...we just don't trust everyone else with you."
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Luscious Lioness said:
Very open with both daughters now have to be knowing someday it will be just them and me so wife and I have talked with both both I tease them alot about makeup.
They are a little un comfortable talking to dad but getting easier
for them to talk to me.
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1) Go on your first date? 16
2) Have a real bf/gf? 16
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face?12
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up. highschool so 14 or 15
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? My dr. put me on bcl for other reasons and since I was 13 at the time, my parents had to provide consent.
Parents have to think these things through for their own children... So what is your thoughts on these things for your children or future children. When my son was in gr. 6 consent forms were sent home regarding sex education. We consented to his participation but reinforced what was taught. We hope that he can and will come to us for answers. We hope to do the same with the girls.
2) Have a real bf/gf? 16
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face?12
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up. highschool so 14 or 15
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? My dr. put me on bcl for other reasons and since I was 13 at the time, my parents had to provide consent.
Parents have to think these things through for their own children... So what is your thoughts on these things for your children or future children. When my son was in gr. 6 consent forms were sent home regarding sex education. We consented to his participation but reinforced what was taught. We hope that he can and will come to us for answers. We hope to do the same with the girls.
1) Go on your first date? Never. My first date was towards the end of college. (No, I'm not making this up.)
2) Have a real bf/gf? I got married (and divorced). Does that count? Otherwise, no.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? Well... my face to be sure, but you are leaving a lot of my body out of the question.
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up. Not in public.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? Why carry them? They get all mushed up in your wallet or pocket. Just leave a box someplace handy.
2) Have a real bf/gf? I got married (and divorced). Does that count? Otherwise, no.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? Well... my face to be sure, but you are leaving a lot of my body out of the question.
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up. Not in public.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? Why carry them? They get all mushed up in your wallet or pocket. Just leave a box someplace handy.
Nomadic Lady
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1) Go on your first date? 14
2) Have a real bf/gf? 17 Actually, had a boyfriend at 15, but he does not count.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? 14
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up. 15 Was allowed to wear all of it but lightly applied, and still do. Never wore foundation, and still don't.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? Wow good question. Both my parents are Italian and old fashion. Needless to say, they never knew about my first date or my first boyfriend. We were NOT ALLOWED to talk about sex in our home. I left home just before turning sixteen, they did not have much of a say on how I lead my life.
I have a three year old son, and I WILL talk to him about sex and in how to protect himself as well as his partner. When he turns fourteen I will have give him condoms, but express that that is not an okay to run out and find himself a girl to use them, but to only be prepared. Make him aware that when she says NO to STOP, and to respect the person he is with. Will ask him to please wait till he's truly ready for such a life changing act. I want him to come to me if he ever needs me with whatever questions or problems that he faces, which I will try my damndest to help him with.
2) Have a real bf/gf? 17 Actually, had a boyfriend at 15, but he does not count.
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? 14
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick?I'm really interest just how many men wear make up. 15 Was allowed to wear all of it but lightly applied, and still do. Never wore foundation, and still don't.
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? Wow good question. Both my parents are Italian and old fashion. Needless to say, they never knew about my first date or my first boyfriend. We were NOT ALLOWED to talk about sex in our home. I left home just before turning sixteen, they did not have much of a say on how I lead my life.
I have a three year old son, and I WILL talk to him about sex and in how to protect himself as well as his partner. When he turns fourteen I will have give him condoms, but express that that is not an okay to run out and find himself a girl to use them, but to only be prepared. Make him aware that when she says NO to STOP, and to respect the person he is with. Will ask him to please wait till he's truly ready for such a life changing act. I want him to come to me if he ever needs me with whatever questions or problems that he faces, which I will try my damndest to help him with.
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With my parents we never really disuss what was "allow" or not about boyfriend/make-up/pesonnal hygiene... dont get me wrong, they were strict but in a liberal way. But I think that here in Quebec we are "more open" about those things...
1) Go on your first date? my first date I was around 12
2) Have a real bf/gf? Same thing as above
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? 11
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick? 11
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? I ask my mom to take me to the doc at 14 to get pills and she granted me my wishes. I think my dad never knows tho
Parents have to think these things through for their own children... So what is your thoughts on these things for your children or future children.
Sure I have 2 girls, 11 and 9, so they are going to have boyfriends/shaving legs/makeup/condom soon. I am actually very open about all those. We already talk a lot about all what being a young women is.
1) Go on your first date? my first date I was around 12
2) Have a real bf/gf? Same thing as above
3) Shave your legs/armpits/face? 11
4) Wear makeup? And were you allowed to wear all of it or just some lipstick? 11
5) And if you had really openminded parents, carry a condom or take the pill? I ask my mom to take me to the doc at 14 to get pills and she granted me my wishes. I think my dad never knows tho
Parents have to think these things through for their own children... So what is your thoughts on these things for your children or future children.
Sure I have 2 girls, 11 and 9, so they are going to have boyfriends/shaving legs/makeup/condom soon. I am actually very open about all those. We already talk a lot about all what being a young women is.
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My Responses
I went on my first date at 11 years old. My father had died the pervious February, the date was in October. The young lady was a girl from my Church and we went to the fair. I almost at once decided I did not care for her and "broke it off" at once. She was really hurt and cried. I have never done that again!!! I have never broken up with anyone since!!! If you are listening, sorry Pam. I really am.
These other questions are irrelevant!! Sexuality was never discussed in my rigidly Protestant (Episcopal) home. I had to figure it all out on my own. Thankfully, I am rather resourceful and have done just fine!!!
Hence, I am now the Porn Czar!!! And not doing too badly, I must say
I went on my first date at 11 years old. My father had died the pervious February, the date was in October. The young lady was a girl from my Church and we went to the fair. I almost at once decided I did not care for her and "broke it off" at once. She was really hurt and cried. I have never done that again!!! I have never broken up with anyone since!!! If you are listening, sorry Pam. I really am.
These other questions are irrelevant!! Sexuality was never discussed in my rigidly Protestant (Episcopal) home. I had to figure it all out on my own. Thankfully, I am rather resourceful and have done just fine!!!
Hence, I am now the Porn Czar!!! And not doing too badly, I must say
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