When I think about me I touch myself

[Never]

Mas..Mas.. Masturbation.

I've been masturbating since I was twelve - four days after I turned twelve at 9:38 if you want to get into specifics. Those make seven years of masturbating and still no hairy fingers, thank goodness.
My 'sessions' can last anywhere from three minutes to two hours but it usually takes 45 minutes. Now, I used to masturbate on a daily basis but I've gone one month w/o and am down to one or twice a week.
The problem with masturbating is it's not satisfying. At the moment I use it to relax myself or make a game out of it - I touch myself until I almost come and then pull out at the last second while doing multiplication tables in my head.

For me though, there's no release in it. I need another human being to get those sensations I'm really looking for. It might take the edge off of my physical desire but only inasmuch as I get sort of drowsy and relaxed afterwards.. Am I the only one who feels that way?

Sometimes after I finish I just feel more frustrated and now I'm slightly bitchy because I just wasted 45 minutes for an orgasm that was.. okay. To me it's more and more of a hollow act; for years I used to masturbate in excess, I was depressed and it was a solitary activity that gave me a bit of pleasure. The less I seem to do it the better it becomes but I still don't seem to enjoy it as much as the majority of people on this board - at least not from what I hear. Then again, I have quite a bit of scar tissue down there so maybe I'm missing out on the entire sensation, I don't believe I am though.

Am I alone in this?


Oh..
I forgot. I couldn't feel good about masturbating until I got my mother's permission. Is that odd?

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[wolfy]

Well i'm a guy not a woman and there are major differences there heh but I basically did the same thing for the majority of the last 7 years I materbated before going to sleep more often then not just to help me drift off. A few reasons why I would try and avoid it were A: I really just hurried it along for the quick release and didn't ever really enjoy it or take my time. And B: I often found that my dreams were alot more interesting and alive if I didn't masterbate. Since the dreams were far more pleasurable then me masterbating I usually would avoid it if possible. As for please now i'm finding I enjoy it alot more as i'm taking my time. Also i've never ever felt good about it never got permision as you said from anyone and have felt it was a dirty act that I was ashamed of till really recently which is probably why i'm changing now.

I also really need another person to really enjoy myself not only because of the interaction with another human being but also because I just don't have the control to not speed up as much as another person would. I've gone many weeks maybe many months before between It depended on how bored I got. Masterbation was always a fall back form of entertainment but I have gotten turned on by various authoers i've read over the years. I've never read any romance books I like sci-fi/fantasy mainly but some authors have very sexy books in that genre like Laurrel K hamilton that kickstarts my sex drive.

I did often feel that the whole thing was annoying and thats why I would try and get it over with as fast as possible since the actuall act used to be not much fun but the desire before hand was so great. Thats changing now and I'm sure if I ever meet someone I'll make them very happy.

 

[BeautyBabe]

Oh..
I forgot. I couldn't feel good about masturbating until I got my mother's permission. Is that odd?

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Read some of Nancy Friday's books. The text that goes with the fantasies, I mean, not just the fantasies!

She's got a lot to say about the mother's influence on (female) sexuality. (I'm not sure what she covers in Men in Love (?))

I know what you mean about needing someone else. Although I can cum through masturbation, I always feel something's missing.

 

[SpecialK]

Masturbation... a cure for Insomnia!

<laughs>

I'm glad I'm not the only one who masturbates simply so I can fall asleep. However even then it's somewhat of a nuisance.... getting yourself all riled up just so you can cum and then fall asleep.

I'm not that frequent of a masturbator either. Maybe every few weeks or so. And I think I masturbate simply because I require the sexual release. (I'm not releasing sexual tension in any other way either.) And yes, it is the consolation prize. I'd much rather even just snuggle with a man than masturbate with myself. However... I'd rather masturbate than have sex with a man who just takes his own pleasure and doesn't care if I get mine.

K

 

[Siren]

I can help you with that problem NEVER...

 

[Thumper]

Teach me!

If ya wanna show me, I'll watch Siren....course' you already knew that eh?

 

[wolfy]

Unatached

I would rather snuggle with a woman any day then masterbate. And sex with someone who dosn't care with you is really depressing.

Siren I don't know why your unatached any guy would be lucky to be attached to you

As for in the shower i've never enjoy masterbating or sex in the shower. I love the feeling of the warm water pouring over me and relaxing me tho. I only have a shower in this trailer unfortunatly. I really love baths especially with a good book. I miss them soooo much.

 

[Siren]

Well my sweet country voiced bunny boy Thumpie....

 

[Thumper]

With eyes wide open!

Oh my such nice words....you make me blush!

I love it when you do that...and that...so that's the way you like it...

A romp in Siren's garden is worth two in the bush...or is two in the bush...or her bush...unless she is bare..then it's even better...

I said BARE...not BEAR....damnit now that bear is gonna show up looking for beer...

 

[Siren]

WEll Wolfy.............

 

[Thumper]

In the shower....YEAH BABY!

How about you sneak into the shower behind me and lather up my body with your body...I love the way those arms feel as they wrap around me and slowly get me off....(I actually saw this on NYPD Blue...Sharon Lawrence and Dennis Franz...She has a fantastic ass...) I will do the same for you my sweet Siren...

one hand down your belly and between your legs and the other caressing your breasts...and my lips kissing your neck as the hot water runs down your body...

Hope I am not to graphic here babe

Know what good clean fun is?

Nope..I don't know what good it is either!

 

[wolfy]

wagging tail!

I'd enjoy anything with you Siren!
Nod it could have been who I was with for the sex. As for solo i've always just relaxed and thought about books i've read or sang songs in the shower. It's when I like to just think and do nothing.

 

[Siren]

THUMPIE IT IS NEVER TOO MUCH......

 

[Thumper]

Slip sliding away...

Oh sweet seductress...why wait

And I must say I am rather rabid for your wiles also...

A rabid rabbit...

a wabid wabbit..

say that five times fast...hehehehe

 

[Cheyenne]

Then again, I have quite a bit of scar tissue down there so maybe I'm missing out on the entire sensation, I don't believe I am though.

Oh..
I forgot. I couldn't feel good about masturbating until I got my mother's permission. Is that odd?

a) Have to ask, but you don't have to answer, what the scar tissue would be from?

b) You asked your mom for permission??? Yup, I think that is odd. But then, I've never heard the word "masturbate" come out of my mother's mouth. I think it is a generational difference to some extent. Your mom is probably closer to my age and more open about sex than my mom, who is much older.

 

[Cheri]

I understand how you feel, Never. I like masturbation too but miss the closeness of sex with another person.
Oh the other hand, I love the freedom masturbation provides to relieve that mega turned on feeling and it does help me sleep better. I guess it relates to how much I love to orgasm and how unique it can be depending on what your doing. Masturbation with just clitoral stimulation has one and masturbation with insertion yet another. I mean how cool it that that we have the ability to choose what kind of orgasm we want!

 

[Patryn]

I'm kinda wondering the same thing, and you don't have to answer me either. If you've been through some sort of bad sexual experience that caused the scarring, that could be why you don't enjoy masturbation as much as you think you should.

Which brings me to my next point. Not everyone loves it all that much. Like you, when I was a young teen, I used to do it every day...sometimes 5-6 times a day. Now I'm down to 2-3 times a week. I find if I do it too much, it looses it's appeal and becomes mechanical.

It seems to me that while both sexes masturbate, men tend to get more out of it, no pun intended. Anyone else think so?

As for asking your mother, did you actually ask,or did she just know you were doing it and told you it was natural, because that happened to a young friend of mine. If it's that, I don't think that's very weird. Our parents are usually important to us, and we want their approval, especially during the confusing teen years.

 

[Never]

Interesting. I assumed people would tell me I'm a bit unusual in this regards but a lot of people seem to have the same feelings about masturbation. It can range everywhere from a sort of mechanical act to a nice treat but most of you seem to agree that it lacks that something special.

Siren, oddly enough those words borrowed their way to the back of my brain and stayed there for quite sometime. That's amazing, you have a problem, I have a problem - if only there were someway to fix these problems. Oh well.

Cheyenne:
You asked your mom for permission??? Yup, I think that is odd. But then, I've never heard the word "masturbate" come out of my mother's mouth. I think it is a generational difference to some extent. Your mom is probably closer to my age and more open about sex than my mom, who is much older.
Mi madre will be turning 50 next year, it that young enough for you?
Yes, I asked her, I doubt very much she would have figured that out on her own Patryn. You see I had to ask her because my grandmother made me promise to never masturbate, of course I was nine at the time and had no idea what I was promising - long story there, veeeery boring. In the end, though I hate to break promises so I had to ask my mother for permission.
It wasn't a bad thing once I got it over with, she was even able to explain why my health teacher (male) was an idiot who didn't know what he was talking about; saving me hours of worry about bedwetting.
I think men get more out of it as well. Maybe because they get more visual results from it?