when does it go too far?

[Silverluna]

Flirting. When do sly grins, winks , and soft whispers become something more than Flirting?

 

[Guest]

Hmmm..when you start making plans.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

its too far when either party involved starts to feel a bit uncomfortable with what's going on. then it's gone too far

 

[deliciously_naughty]

when you make it known that the attention is unwanted and it continues. Or when it's threatening (ie, a woman walking alone being harassed by 5 guys).

 

[marksgirl]

When you do it.

 

[nasty1]

Well, I was afraid I went too far a few weeks ago, when a guy at work was talking about big bottay, and, this friend I had a HUGE thing for was like, "No. This is all bottay," So, I said, "And a nice bottay, at that." At least she still talks to me.

 

[Silverluna]

*feels ill inside*


there should be a rule book like the MLA for this shit.....

 

[april-wine]

Flirting. When do sly grins, winks , and soft whispers become something more than Flirting?

Hmmmmm we could do a test...........For purely scientific reasons of course........

 

[Saint Peter]

Flirtings main flaw is interpretation. Was she being friendly or was she being REALLY friendly? The gone too part depends on which one of the flirters sets the upper limit. Cross that line and you have officially gone too far.

 

[Sillyman]

When her husband comes in with a loaded shotgun...

Really, anything short of that is fine.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

*feels ill inside*


there should be a rule book like the MLA for this shit.....

what's going on hun?

 

[70/30]

When my cock is hitting the back of the bitch's throat.

 

[HighSchoolJock]

usually when i show up you know its gone too far

 

[Guest]

 

[marksgirl]

To far is when you know that you have crossed the line and will never be the same again and it totally changes your life. That when. My 2 cents worth for all they are worth.

 

[hogjack]

I'm generally dissuaded by...

... restraining orders.

At that point something just isn't clicking, ya know?

 

[Silverluna]

what's going on hun?

many things....Short version: feeling worse than usual....VERY VERY VERY worse than usual....

 

[Willing and Unsure]

many things....Short version: feeling worse than usual....VERY VERY VERY worse than usual....

*hugs* if you wanna talk, my pm box is open

 

[HighSchoolJock]

nah restraining orders are just her way of getting attention

 

[Silverluna]

*hugs* if you wanna talk, my pm box is open

thanks but this isn't the issue...the issue is....well flirting...how you know when its too much...or not...

 

[Allexus_TN]

Speaking of Attention

Many people flirt. Its part of life. Human nature. Like its been said on this thread, and another, it makes the flirtee and the flirter feel good. It garners attention. When you feel low, you might flirt a little, whether it be on here, or with your SO. It IS a way of getting attention. Otherwise, why do it at all? Wasn't that the purpose?
As for too far, I think each person has to set their own limits, and let the flirter know, calmly, carefully, what that limit is. Something like..."LOL Hey now...that's too far" works for me.

 

[Sillyman]

I have no personal "too far", but I'm very cautious about other people's limits normally.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

thanks but this isn't the issue...the issue is....well flirting...how you know when its too much...or not...

well, there's a comfort zone between you and whomever you're flirting with. generally when it's too far, you'll start to feel uncomfortable (i.e. the guy that's talking to a girl he really likes decides to just whip it out for no reason. that could make her really uncomfortable and say that its gone too far then). each person has different boundaries and define what is too far differently than someone else.

I know if someone I were just talking to reached out and grabbed my boob, they would not have a hand very long since they have crossed the line, but someone else in the same position may not think that.

 

[hogjack]

"Whip it out"

well, there's a comfort zone between you and whomever you're flirting with. generally when it's too far, you'll start to feel uncomfortable (i.e. the guy that's talking to a girl he really likes decides to just whip it out for no reason. that could make her really uncomfortable and say that its gone too far then.......

Haven't used the "whipping" it out technique yet. That seems to be skipping the whole flirting thing.

I may have to move that into my bag of tricks if that's being used. Potential upgrade I guess...

 

[Silverluna]

well, there's a comfort zone between you and whomever you're flirting with. generally when it's too far, you'll start to feel uncomfortable (i.e. the guy that's talking to a girl he really likes decides to just whip it out for no reason. that could make her really uncomfortable and say that its gone too far then). each person has different boundaries and define what is too far differently than someone else.

I know if someone I were just talking to reached out and grabbed my boob, they would not have a hand very long since they have crossed the line, but someone else in the same position may not think that.

heh...some guy asked out right if i would show him my tits...of course i said no!