Black_Bird
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... to feel like an adult? What told you that you had finally gotten to that level?
When did you begin...
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Moridin187
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You come up with some Excellent questions Black Bird...
Hmmm... When did I first feel that I was an adult?
When I was about 12.. and I really had to start taking care of myself because my parents had been split a year, I was co-habiting with my mom.. That was the first time she came home at 1 AM with a guy who reeked of "scumbag"
That was the first time I ever had to drive a man out of my house with a weapon, it wasn't the last either.
Hmmm... When did I first feel that I was an adult?
When I was about 12.. and I really had to start taking care of myself because my parents had been split a year, I was co-habiting with my mom.. That was the first time she came home at 1 AM with a guy who reeked of "scumbag"
That was the first time I ever had to drive a man out of my house with a weapon, it wasn't the last either.
MissTaken
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It started when I was 27 or so. What a feeling! Meaningful work, an SO, money and free time.
Then, adulthood really set in at the birth of my first child.
Egads! Decisions had to be made carefully. Bills had to be paid. My own needs took a second seat to that little bundle of cholicy crying joy.
Responsiblity set it!
Then, adulthood really set in at the birth of my first child.
Egads! Decisions had to be made carefully. Bills had to be paid. My own needs took a second seat to that little bundle of cholicy crying joy.
Responsiblity set it!
Fly_On_Wall
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I still havne't felt like an adult.
I've over the years felt older with comeing events in my life.
but i'm 23 and I still don't feel like an adult.
but I'm guessing this year will be different i've takeing controle of things I"ve never had controlle of, i'm going to get a job soon. with that I think i'll finaly have the realisation i'm an adult.
I've over the years felt older with comeing events in my life.
but i'm 23 and I still don't feel like an adult.
but I'm guessing this year will be different i've takeing controle of things I"ve never had controlle of, i'm going to get a job soon. with that I think i'll finaly have the realisation i'm an adult.
Calamity Jane
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define adult.
When did I start taking on adult responsibilities? I started working two jobs when I was 14. Bought my own car at 16...
I pay my bills and take care of my family... but I still sometimes feel like hiding under the covers and wishing someone was there to take care of me...
When did I start taking on adult responsibilities? I started working two jobs when I was 14. Bought my own car at 16...
I pay my bills and take care of my family... but I still sometimes feel like hiding under the covers and wishing someone was there to take care of me...
daughter
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long after having my first child
I had adult responsibilities long before I felt comfortable in my role as one and certainly before I felt secure in how I was handling it adulthood.
When I was a young adult I was arrogant, opinionated, overly-sensitive, naive, angry, frighten and too damn proud to admit any of it.
Many of you were probably far more together than I was.
Peace,
daughter
I had adult responsibilities long before I felt comfortable in my role as one and certainly before I felt secure in how I was handling it adulthood.
When I was a young adult I was arrogant, opinionated, overly-sensitive, naive, angry, frighten and too damn proud to admit any of it.
Many of you were probably far more together than I was.
Peace,
daughter
Black_Bird
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I guess I really *don't* feel like an adult yet. I still feel like I'm a child living in someone elses world... but I'm trying to change that. 
Todd-'o'-Vision
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Black_Bird said:
I haven't and hope I never will
MidnightAngel
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When I got married. I was 20 at the time. Marriage is certainly an eye-opener. *ahem*.
SempreAngela
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RE: When did you begin to feel like an adult...
For numerous reasons, adulthood was forced on me at an early age. I did not like it then and I do not like it now. I am now at an age where I can reject the idea of being an adult anytime I please. So I am officially REJECTING the idea of being an adult. I would rather romp and play and let my imagination take me to places I will never get to go otherwise.
An adult looks at the clouds and thinks of weather. A child looks at clouds and sees a magical kingdom.
An adult looks at the snow and thinks about how difficult the drive to work will be. A child looks at the snow and thinks about how easy it is going to be to slide down that hill.
An adult looks at food and wonders if it will put food on or take it off. A child looks at food and then wonders how fat the dog is going to get by eating what the child does not like.
I would prefer to be a child. Anyone want to join me? Last one in is a rotten egg!!!!!!!!!
For numerous reasons, adulthood was forced on me at an early age. I did not like it then and I do not like it now. I am now at an age where I can reject the idea of being an adult anytime I please. So I am officially REJECTING the idea of being an adult. I would rather romp and play and let my imagination take me to places I will never get to go otherwise.
An adult looks at the clouds and thinks of weather. A child looks at clouds and sees a magical kingdom.
An adult looks at the snow and thinks about how difficult the drive to work will be. A child looks at the snow and thinks about how easy it is going to be to slide down that hill.
An adult looks at food and wonders if it will put food on or take it off. A child looks at food and then wonders how fat the dog is going to get by eating what the child does not like.
I would prefer to be a child. Anyone want to join me? Last one in is a rotten egg!!!!!!!!!
LukkyKnight
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I'll have to get back to you on that when and if it happens. Please do not hold your breath.Black_Bird said:
Basia
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I was 13.
It had always been mo mother and myself for as long as I can remember. She kicked my dad out of the house when I was 2 years old.
I had just gotten home from school, and I found my mother lieing on the floor in her room. She had tried to take her own life. After I called 911 I frantically called my godmother, grandparents, and any other local aunt or uncle. Everyone told me how "grown up" I was then, but honestly, I was terrorfied.
It had always been mo mother and myself for as long as I can remember. She kicked my dad out of the house when I was 2 years old.
I had just gotten home from school, and I found my mother lieing on the floor in her room. She had tried to take her own life. After I called 911 I frantically called my godmother, grandparents, and any other local aunt or uncle. Everyone told me how "grown up" I was then, but honestly, I was terrorfied.
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Black_Bird,
I'm not sure if I felt like an adult - but I had to grow up at a very young age because of some pretty bad problems at home. When my older sister couldn't take it anymore, she was able to leave. That left me to make sure my two younger siblings wouldn't be harmed in any way. That was when I was around 12 years old.
What angers me, though, is that I didn't have lots of time to be a child - I never invited friends to my house because I wasn't sure how the adults would be acting that particular day.
But, I don't know if that made me an adult or not?
Enchanted
I'm not sure if I felt like an adult - but I had to grow up at a very young age because of some pretty bad problems at home. When my older sister couldn't take it anymore, she was able to leave. That left me to make sure my two younger siblings wouldn't be harmed in any way. That was when I was around 12 years old.
What angers me, though, is that I didn't have lots of time to be a child - I never invited friends to my house because I wasn't sure how the adults would be acting that particular day.
But, I don't know if that made me an adult or not?
Enchanted
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Yes, Basia and Enchanted. Those are both tales of being forced to be an adult as your childhood is robbed from you. I have often pondered why that isn't a capital crime. *hugs* to you both. Now is the time to become childlike and share events you were unable to so long ago. Come and be a child with me?
Swing Kitten
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I have yet to feel like an adult. I love my job, my social life is pretty much the same as when I was in school. I have all the responsibilities that go along with adult hood but I've learned to either live with it or ignore it. I know one day something will come along and blow my good times but hey as long as I can live my life happy and make those around me happy nothing else really matters. I guess its all in the way we percieve things.
MorgaineLaFay
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Black_Bird said:
Same age as Moridin, 12, when I had to take care of myself as well as my mother that was more often then not, off in her "own little world", we traded palces, she became the lost child, and I was the parent.
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Black_Bird said:
When I was about 14.
That was when how little my mother cared about me and my younger sister dawned on me. Until that time my grandmother raised both of us, that was the year she died, my mother's second marriage ended which led to a nervous break down and her blaming it all on me. That was the year I became my sister's mother.
Caria Knight
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Hmmmm Adulthood
I "grew up" at an early age. My sister had her first kid when I was 10 and by the time the next came (a year and half later) I was already a full time sitter and student. Her Ex was abusive and I was more then willing to help when she got rid of him but she was still young (early 20's) and I guess felt like she was missing out. Needless to say, I watched the kids every day after school, at least 3 nights a week and just about every weekend with her sometimes not comming home until the next day.
My "childhood" was pretty much shot and when I had the chance to "be a kid again" (starting around my Jr. year of highschool) I really made a mess of my life. So part of me feels like I've ALWAYS been an adult, though now I cherish the time I had with my nephew & neice.
Now that I'm a mother, I feel a new level of adulthood upon me but at the same time I feel so much like a kid. I easily get lost in playing with my son and being so childish that people think I'm crazy!
All in all, I'm now learning to balance my "inner child" with my adult self. So as the saying goes "I'm a kid at heart".
I "grew up" at an early age. My sister had her first kid when I was 10 and by the time the next came (a year and half later) I was already a full time sitter and student. Her Ex was abusive and I was more then willing to help when she got rid of him but she was still young (early 20's) and I guess felt like she was missing out. Needless to say, I watched the kids every day after school, at least 3 nights a week and just about every weekend with her sometimes not comming home until the next day.
My "childhood" was pretty much shot and when I had the chance to "be a kid again" (starting around my Jr. year of highschool) I really made a mess of my life. So part of me feels like I've ALWAYS been an adult, though now I cherish the time I had with my nephew & neice.
Now that I'm a mother, I feel a new level of adulthood upon me but at the same time I feel so much like a kid. I easily get lost in playing with my son and being so childish that people think I'm crazy!
All in all, I'm now learning to balance my "inner child" with my adult self. So as the saying goes "I'm a kid at heart".
Black_Bird
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Swing Kitten said:
Welcome to Literotica...
Your first post was in... my thread - why how tasteful of you!
Black_Bird
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... it really is sad to see so many lost childhoods.
*Hugs* to all you guys.
*Hugs* to all you guys.
Caria Knight
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Black Bird
It's sad in some ways but for some of us it's been worth it. Personally I know I would not be so close to my sister and her kids had it not been for that "lost" time in my life. I was like a second mother for those kids who didn't have a father around. And because of my time with them I feel that I'm a better mother to my son.
Sometimes it is disheartening to think of what I've missed and I know many other missed so much without having any gain. For my gain I am forever greatful.
It's sad in some ways but for some of us it's been worth it. Personally I know I would not be so close to my sister and her kids had it not been for that "lost" time in my life. I was like a second mother for those kids who didn't have a father around. And because of my time with them I feel that I'm a better mother to my son.
Sometimes it is disheartening to think of what I've missed and I know many other missed so much without having any gain. For my gain I am forever greatful.
