When a relative dies....

[warrior queen]

...that you were close to, in a long-distance sorta way....
What would be apropriate to send, do you think?
She hated cut flowers, with a passion.
She abhored cheesy cards with insincere messages written by an anonymous person.
I want to do something.... because she was my very favourite Aunt.... but she passed away in Vienna, and I can't travel from Tassie (medication + blood-clotting disorder = no flying).... yet I adored her, and vice-versa, so I feel I must do something special....
I had the idea of having my cousin print out a pic of the two of us and placing that in the casket....
It doesn't seem anywhere near enough
I don't think my Aunt ever knew just how much she influenced my life...

Sad day....

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

...that you were close to, in a long-distance sorta way....
What would be apropriate to send, do you think?
She hated cut flowers, with a passion.
She abhored cheesy cards with insincere messages written by an anonymous person.
I want to do something.... because she was my very favourite Aunt.... but she passed away in Vienna, and I can't travel from Tassie (medication + blood-clotting disorder = no flying).... yet I adored her, and vice-versa, so I feel I must do something special....
I had the idea of having my cousin print out a pic of the two of us and placing that in the casket....
It doesn't seem anywhere near enough
I don't think my Aunt ever knew just how much she influenced my life...

Sad day....

She won't care.
Doing something a month age might have mattered.

 

[warrior queen]

She won't care.
Doing something a month age might have mattered.

I did.
But I feel like I need to do something meaningful now too....

 

[pollynova]

You wouldn't be send her the card or flowers, they go to her family. So maybe they would like them.

Or maybe just a note or something?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I did.
But I feel like I need to do something meaningful now too....

Did what?
You said she had no idea how much she influenced your life.
Maybe you could have, I don't know, told her?

 

[hashtag45]

Did that happen to you ? Sorry to hear about that.
I felt the same way when a high-school (sort of) friend died some time ago. I sent the parents -via DHL- a small meaninful gift and letter, but still felt I couldn't express myself enough.

 

[warrior queen]

Did what?
You said she had no idea how much she influenced your life.
Maybe you could have, I don't know, told her?

I did tell her....she just never believed me.
We spoke every fortnight during the last 20 years...

She gave me insightfull thoughts that have influenced most decisions I have made in my adult life.
I feel like I owe her.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I did tell her....she just never believed me.
We spoke every fortnight during the last 20 years...

Shengave me insightfull thoughts that have influenced most decisions I have made in my adult life.
I feel like I owe her.

 

[jezzilee]

I am sorry for your loss Warrior Queen. What about donating to a cause in her name?

 

[warrior queen]

I don't expect you to understand...

 

[Lancecastor]

Hire an actor to read this thread aloud at the funeral.

 

[jezzilee]

I don't expect you to understand...

Just ignore the ignorance. There is no reason you should be trolled over this topic.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Just ignore the ignorance. There is no reason you should be trolled over this topic.

Oh please. Just watch and learn.

 

[DesEsseintes]

Just do your best to be the mentor and inspiration she was to you, towards someone of the generation below yours. She could ask no better tribute than that.

 

[Aglaopheme]

Sorry for your loss, and that you're unable to be there.

You can always donate to a charity or organization you think she would have supported in here name.

 

[Disgustipated]

Did she die of lupass?

 

[Lancecastor]

Hire an actor to read this thread aloud at the funeral.

The Vienna Amateur Drama Society would be a good place to start.

http://www.mfpl.ac.at/vips/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/ADC_drama_6-600x398.jpg

 

[iamjustme4ever]

I'm so sorry for your loss warrior queen.

Create a web page to honor her, with all the thoughts, photos, words and images you like to celebrate her life. You can even dedicate some part of the site for your visitors, in which they could write some words about her. Just a thought.

I'm sending you a big hug to your soul right now.

 

[eyer]

...that you were close to, in a long-distance sorta way....
What would be apropriate to send, do you think?
She hated cut flowers, with a passion.
She abhored cheesy cards with insincere messages written by an anonymous person.
I want to do something.... because she was my very favourite Aunt.... but she passed away in Vienna, and I can't travel from Tassie (medication + blood-clotting disorder = no flying).... yet I adored her, and vice-versa, so I feel I must do something special....
I had the idea of having my cousin print out a pic of the two of us and placing that in the casket....
It doesn't seem anywhere near enough
I don't think my Aunt ever knew just how much she influenced my life...

Sad day....

Heartfelt condolences from the eyer household, wanker queen...

...have you considered self-immolation as the sincerest way to honor her?

 

[Debbie]

Do something for yourself that she would have enjoyed - live in that moment and remember how kind she was - what she meant to you and continue doing what she did for you for your loved ones.

Write down what she meant to you - tie it to a balloon and let it go.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Traditional Aboriginal society avoids naming the dead, avoiding referring to the dead person by name directly after their death as a mark of respect.

IIR, you're fond of all things Aboriginal.

Just an idea.

 

[yossi]

Donate to a charity that she supported in her name/memory/honor.

 

[Noor]

People live on as long as someone remembers them.

As a friend of Byron's said to me "Funerals are for the living."

I would write something to be read if there is a place to do it there.
Or record something to have played there if that is a possibility.
Send something that can be put in the casket if there is one.
Donate a tree on her behalf.

The next business, book or project you do, dedicate it to her memory.

 

[Noor]

I'm so sorry for your loss warrior queen.

Create a web page to honor her, with all the thoughts, photos, words and images you like to celebrate her life. You can even dedicate some part of the site for your visitors, in which they could write some words about her. Just a thought.

I'm sending you a big hug to your soul right now.

I like this idea a lot and have been trying to do it for Byron, but it's very hard to do.
You might want to do something more immediate.

 

[smoothg103rd]

People here really are dickheads. My condolences. I know how it feels to lose a relative. I lost many.