what's your relationship with your adult siblings?

[rae121452]

i keep seeing movies and reading books where everyone in the family gets along and are supportive of each other.

in my family i'm the youngest. i have four surviving sisters and a brother. my brother was born an asshole, i haven't even had contact with him since the 60's. suffice to say that his youngest child is a serial killer and the other children are just as fucked up. one of my sisters is an arizona trumper, the last time i talked to her she was talking about joining a militia-in her 70's. 2 other sisters are evangelical christians who i have nothing to say to because they are such hypocrites. my youngest sister and i get along although we're vastly different, she was a rabid republican all of her life until 2 years into the trump regime. i have no contact with extended family, nephews, neices or cousins because they're all as insane as the rest of the family.

is it just me who can't stand having anything to do with relatives?

 

[thør]

You can chose your friends but you can't chose your relatives.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

i keep seeing movies and reading books where everyone in the family gets along and are supportive of each other.

in my family i'm the youngest. i have four surviving sisters and a brother. my brother was born an asshole, i haven't even had contact with him since the 60's. suffice to say that his youngest child is a serial killer and the other children are just as fucked up. one of my sisters is an arizona trumper, the last time i talked to her she was talking about joining a militia-in her 70's. 2 other sisters are evangelical christians who i have nothing to say to because they are such hypocrites. my youngest sister and i get along although we're vastly different, she was a rabid republican all of her life until 2 years into the trump regime. i have no contact with extended family, nephews, neices or cousins because they're all as insane as the rest of the family.

is it just me who can't stand having anything to do with relatives?

NOPE!!!!
it ain't just you and just hang a minute you will be seeing that ever more evident as the calendar keeps rolling... (inter familial violence etc,)

 

[oggbashan]

Both are dead. My sister at 12 from Polio; my brother at 80 from cancer.

When my brother as alive we got on very well as long as we were 100 miles apart and only met three of four times a year.

 

[Philthy_Phil]

My sister is a selfish cunt, I don't speak to her.

 

[LukSkyFokker]

Very good always has been a good relationship.

 

[HarleyFarmer]

I have 1 younger brother and our relationship is cordial at best. He lives 3 hours away and claims he’s too busy to come home and see our mother who’s battling cancer. Last time we saw him was March and before that it was 3 years ago. He won’t answer phone calls because he’s busy and too important to reply to an email. He might reply to a text in a couple of days if he deems it important. I figure we won’t see him again until there’s a funeral. He at least will send his mom a text from time to time but usually it’s just a reply to her initial text.

 

[Funit]

I thought this was going to be another incest thread.

 

[NoUseForAnyName]

First, I wanted to say, I have a bad relationship with my brother...but that is not true. I have no relationship with him. He really is like a stranger. Our lives barely intertwine.

 

[Lorilei]

My sister is my best friend.

 

[LLCox]

One younger brother. The relationship is good.

 

[Peaches1988]

i keep seeing movies and reading books where everyone in the family gets along and are supportive of each other.

in my family i'm the youngest. i have four surviving sisters and a brother. my brother was born an asshole, i haven't even had contact with him since the 60's. suffice to say that his youngest child is a serial killer and the other children are just as fucked up. one of my sisters is an arizona trumper, the last time i talked to her she was talking about joining a militia-in her 70's. 2 other sisters are evangelical christians who i have nothing to say to because they are such hypocrites. my youngest sister and i get along although we're vastly different, she was a rabid republican all of her life until 2 years into the trump regime. i have no contact with extended family, nephews, neices or cousins because they're all as insane as the rest of the family.

is it just me who can't stand having anything to do with relatives?

My family is in a constant state of battle as well. My mom and my sister are awesome and they are my immediate family. Dad was never in the picture and so I know nothing about that side of things. My grandmother used my mom for money and stuff so many times my mom will no longer even speak to her. My grandmother thinks I am a slut and going to Hell and has since I was in high school. She has also determined my husband to have huge medical issues and he doesn't. My cousin became a doctor and is the golden child of the family. I honestly am proud for him but the rest of the family holds him so high and tells the rest of us how we should have tried to be like him so many times it makes me not want to have anything to do with him. My grandma again has used a few of my uncles so many times they have moved across country and do not stay in contact trying to hide from her. I have another uncle who's wife decided he could not stay in contact with us and he went willingly. That is kind of okay though as a few years ago he found out I hunted and proceeded to write me a letter telling me meat was murder and I was what's wrong with the world for even owning a gun. He has two kids that are my cousins that I have never even met and probably never will.

 

[CornusKousa]

My little sister and I have been and hopefully always will be close friends.

 

[Wings]

My younger sister is amazing and I love her and enjoy her company. 5 years ago this would not be the same story. We were estranged for a few years.

 

[Wonderer67]

Get along great with my two sisters. Before covid we had periodic sibling days where we’d do something fun together (museums, exhibits or just go out drinking or for a meal).

My wife doesn’t talk to her two sisters at all- completely estranged. I don’t get it myself, but everyone’s different.

 

[Comshaw]

I have two sisters and one brother. One sister lives about 3 miles from me. We get along great and always have. My other sister lives here 6 months out of the year and in Oklahoma the other 6 months. Again we get along great and always have. My brother and I have butted heads as long as I can remember. But when push comes to shove I got his back and he mine. We can get pissed at each other, but a short while later we're over it.
We have family dinner together, do stuff for each other and talk frequently. I can't imagine it being any other way.


Comshaw

 

[Rockymtnman]

Older sister - not a lot in common but I love her very much and she me.
Younger brother. - my best friend on the planet and one of the most influential people in my life.
Step brother - like my sister, not a lot in common but I consider him to be no less a brother than my “ real” brother.

My wife hasn’t spoken to her sisters in 10 years. They fuckin suuuuuuuuuuck! Money grubbing rejects.

 

[Chernosoth]

We may have a consensus that we won't reproduce. A cousin has some kids, and seeing how that turned out confirms my decision.

 

[stickygirl]

One sister a couple of years older. My soul mate and advocate and I wouldn't be here without her support

 

[Liar]

My three siblings are alright. Wouldn't say we're incredibly close, since we've grown apart a bit over the years and have our own lives. Not to mention that my sisters live impractically far away, so we couldn't hang out on a regular basis even if we wanted to. But yeah. No drama and we all get along.

 

[KimGordon67]

I couldn't tell you the last time I saw any member of my extended family on my mother's side. I never knew any of the extended family on my father's side.

My brother and I used to be OKish, until our father died, and everything just went to shit during that process (long unpleasant story). That was about four years ago. I just recently decided that I was going to put as much effort into him as he put into me (i.e. about 0.001%) - that's made life a lot easier.

My relationship with my parents has always been a bit strained as well. In fact the last words I said to my father were 'fuck off'. (True story.) Things have improved with my mother in the last few years as I've slowly worked out why she is the way she is, so I'm a little more forgiving.

I'm constantly bemused by families who are close to each other. Although when I got married, I sort of adopted my husband's brother and cousins, who are all lovely, and I still get on with them all even though we're not married any more. (The ex only really gets on with one of his two brothers - we decided that it was good that between the two of us, we did manage to produce one decent uncle for our kid, i.e. my ex's oldest brother, and he is an excellent uncle.)

I have an incredibly strong group of friends, with friendships that are very close and go back decades. They're my family ... them and the family I made with my ex, with whom I'm also still very close.

 

[CarlyAnn]

My Sister is my best friend and confidant. We'll always stay close as she owes me money.

 

[Dribble]

Never met them. Shared a couple letters 20 or so years ago w my "sister" when I was finally told about them. There was no connection...and that ended that.

 

[ScottishLass74]

I have a good relationship with all bar one of my brothers. I’m 2nd youngest of 8, four older sisters and older and younger brother & 1 brother sadly deceased. My sister are my rocks especially 2 of them. I had a very bad accident and one put her career on hold to move back home and help my mum basically rehab me. And they really stepped up the supportive roles after our mum died, without their emotional support I’d have taken a long walk ages ago. My little brother is my boy, I still tweak his cheeks and give his head a knuckle rub like he’s 10 years old. He’s a father now, married to a lovely lady and I’m super proud of him. Our family black sheep is my older brother and I really don’t think we’re related or brought up in the same house he’s a nasty homophobic, racist, just a nasty bitter person. Even as a kid he was a bully who enjoyed torturing me and little brother. He broke my wrist and fractured my cheekbone and eyesocket and pushed my younger brother off the top of a chute onto concrete fracturing his skull and I am positive he was disappointed that the boy survived!

 

[MsK8tie]

My husband and I have families that are total opposites. My family has moved all over the U.S. and most of us that keep in contact do it via social media or phones. My husband's family all have stayed in the same state and city for a few generations now and usually give a hard time to those that move away.