what's the reason for it...

[dolf]

being nasty...

i'm not talking about defending yourself, others or your ideals...i'm talking about petty, unprovoked cruelty.

i'll be honest, it baffles me what motivation do people have, what pleasure do they gain? what is gained by taking a swing at someone you see as less worthy?
personally it doesn't get to me...but what does it feel like when the cruelty succeeds in wounding someone?

anyone read psychology? anyone have a theory? any nasty people care to share the secret?
what life experiences trigger this in a person? or is it genetic?

{my mother always said they are to be pitied...filling a hollow space within themselves with twisted pleasure...but i was 5 when she said it }

 

[Willing and Unsure]

here's the basic answers I've heard since I can remember as to why I used to get picked on/people being mean to me:

- they just do it to make themselves feel better
- they have nothing better to do
- their mind isnt complex enough to do something better with their time
- they just wish they could be you



granted, I think the first and last ones are complete crap. The other two at least have a little bit of merit to them.

 

[huskie]

some people have no other life her but that.... It's the only way they know to grab attention for them selfs.


Now bend over so I can have my Kinky way with your sexy ass, ok?

 

[plasticman33]

They are suffering from deep seated insecurity and inferiority complexes. The only way they can feel better about themselves is to attempt to ridicule others.

 

[dolf]

Now bend over so I can have my Kinky way with your sexy ass, ok?

thread hijacker











*bends over*

 

[marksgirl]

I've heard that misery loves company...perhaps that is the answer.

 

[Modern Mephisto]

Personal amusement.

 

[dolf]

They are suffering from deep seated insecurity and inferiority complexes. The only way they can feel better about themselves is to attempt to ridicule others.

i can see that, it's true...but i wonder where their compassion disappeared to. for normal people surely there would be guilt at causing another distress and compassion for their pain. why are these feelings missing?

 

[phoenix1224]

Personal amusement.

Yeah... Some people are just sadists.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

anyone read psychology? anyone have a theory? any nasty people care to share the secret?
what life experiences trigger this in a person? or is it genetic?

Tiny penis.

 

[Throckmorton]

my personal theory is that they are on an emotional scavenger hunt and can't find people damaged enough to meet their quotas, so they bang on them until they give up

 

[Moonlust]

They are suffering from deep seated insecurity and inferiority complexes. The only way they can feel better about themselves is to attempt to ridicule others.

I think this is it...You just have to roll your eyes and carry on...

 

[Modern Mephisto]

Yeah... Some people are just sadists.

And some people are just masochists.

 

[ruminator]

being nasty...

i'm not talking about defending yourself, others or your ideals...i'm talking about petty, unprovoked cruelty.

i'll be honest, it baffles me what motivation do people have, what pleasure do they gain? what is gained by taking a swing at someone you see as less worthy?
personally it doesn't get to me...but what does it feel like when the cruelty succeeds in wounding someone?

anyone read psychology? anyone have a theory? any nasty people care to share the secret?
what life experiences trigger this in a person? or is it genetic?

{my mother always said they are to be pitied...filling a hollow space within themselves with twisted pleasure...but i was 5 when she said it }

hey dolfie

In a place like this it can have as many reason as people posting. Some may be for attention. Others can happen as a natural progression of the conversation as new ideas are added.

The seemingly malicious ones might be an attempt to change the subject for any number of reasons.

Diverting attention or discouraging future views can be done while the intent isn't obvious.

Can I look for your soap?

 

[Oscuridad]

I don't give away nastiness for free.

I prefer people earn it.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

my personal theory is that they are on an emotional scavenger hunt and can't find people damaged enough to meet their quotas, so they bang on them until they give up

hmmm, very interesting. There are a few people I know of this applies to.

 

[glamorilla]

are you speaking in the lit sense or in a real world sense.

in simplest terms it has a lot to do with insecurity which in itself can be caused by several factors. for example i notice a lot of newbies here enjoy getting in peoples faces because they percieve some of the older members here as being "popular" or "cliqueish" and they set out to prove themselves better...in other cases it has to do with jealousy over someones looks or what they have and what they don't.

just a few examples off the top of my head.

some people are just jerks.

 

[Guest]

for example i notice a lot of newbies here enjoy getting in peoples faces because they percieve some of the older members here as being "popular" or "cliqueish" and they set out to prove themselves better...

you make it sould like it is not true Glam. I have been here a while now and even i know this is true. Its a part of life.

 

[luxey313]

I have found most people are mean because it makes themselves feel better.
That little bit of light inside them intensifies when they know that someone feels as bad as they do.

 

[glamorilla]

you make it sould like it is not true Glam. I have been here a while now and even i know this is true. Its a part of life.

alienating a lot of people by being rude and abbrasive doesn't make them a clique.

 

[Guest]

alienating a lot of people by being rude and abbrasive doesn't make them a clique.

true but Clique are around on this site.

 

[dolf]

are you speaking in the lit sense or in a real world sense.

in simplest terms it has a lot to do with insecurity which in itself can be caused by several factors. for example i notice a lot of newbies here enjoy getting in peoples faces because they percieve some of the older members here as being "popular" or "cliqueish" and they set out to prove themselves better...in other cases it has to do with jealousy over someones looks or what they have and what they don't.

just a few examples off the top of my head.

some people are just jerks.

i suspect the deeper reasons are the same for both and that people who are cruel here are cruel or would like to be cruel rl....i was talking in general

 

[Guest]

i suspect the deeper reasons are the same for both and that people who are cruel here are cruel or would like to be cruel rl....i was talking in general

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cruel in what sense?

 

[plasticman33]

i can see that, it's true...but i wonder where their compassion disappeared to. for normal people surely there would be guilt at causing another distress and compassion for their pain. why are these feelings missing?

You said normal people they aren't.

 

[dolf]

Re: Re: what's the reason for it...

hey dolfie

In a place like this it can have as many reason as people posting. Some may be for attention. Others can happen as a natural progression of the conversation as new ideas are added.

The seemingly malicious ones might be an attempt to change the subject for any number of reasons.

Diverting attention or discouraging future views can be done while the intent isn't obvious.

Can I look for your soap?

hi honey

the question was a more general one rather than being lit specific but i think many of these reasons might apply rl.

what confuses me is where does the "normal" human compassion go? what happens in their lives to remove it...or doesn't happen to install it?

it seems natural for many of the "higher" mammals to protect their weak...elephants, dolphins etc...why do some people lack this instinct.