SolarisDom
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- Sep 12, 2006
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First of all let me say I'm 20, a part time college student (taking a break to deal with some family stuff, but there's no reason I can forsee I wouldn't be going back next spring) I'm going to teach, Social sciences, more specifically history I'm thinking right now. I'm a full time desk jockie. I'm not rich but I can support myself easily enough.
I've been tying girls up and thinking about it since I was Minor age removed per site rules.) (my first kinky experience). So I have (Years number removed for those that can do math! lol) years of general experience in BDSM, but it's been on and off. I've been in completely vanilla relationships, and missed it too much. It's not something I can live without. I'd rather be single than not have what I need from a relationship, and I wouldn't ask for anything else from anyone else.
I'm not a big sadist, but I do see pain as something that can be exciting, and good to enforce discipline. I'm big into discipline and respect. Mutual respect and personal discipline are things both people should have in something like this I've realized. (I should of known that a long time ago, but I only came to really think about within the last several months and realized quite how important it is).
I rather like to micromanage, some people like that, some people don't. I don't need to control every minute of someones life, but always knowing who they're with and what they're doing does bring some kind of comfort to me, though it isn't necessary (it's not a lack of trust I've realized recently, it makes me feel respected to be told everything. about past present and future). I like it when a girl does things regularly, writing nightly for example, doing special projects. People should always be working on improving themselves, be it physically, emotionally, or intellectually.
Basically I'm first and formost into the Discipline part of BDSM, then the D/s. Then the Bondage, then the S/M. I think that everything else is enforcement of D/s and more so Discipline. That's my personally viewpoint, I know others are more into other parts of things, and I respect that.
I think some level of intelligence is necessary. Looks aren't so much to me, I'm on the bigger side and I don't mind if a girl is, but she shouldn't be an unhealthy weight. I'm fond of hips.
I consider myself cute, I have curly hair and I'm not handsome, but I'm far from ugly. I'm 6 foot tall and about 260. I'm built big, I'm kind of a teddy bear. I have pictures. not a lot, I'm no camera whore. (not that there is anything wrong with that.)
I'm not capable of an emotionally distant relationship, however I realize building trust right normally takes time, and you can't know everything right away. I like to hold a girl, and I like a girl who likes to be held, to talk about things going on in their minds and their lives, to watch a movie, I need a more normal couple side of things sometimes. I normally hate the phone, but with the right person, I can spend 3 hours on the phone talking about nothing and everything.
Short term, I'm not sure what I'm looking for exactly, I'd rather have someone local, but I'm not putting a limit on it. I'd like to have a relationship start off vanilla with a BDSM foundation. IE I know you're free on tuesday, I tell you I'll pick you up at 6, or meet me somewhere at 7, etc. I like to decide what a girl wears, pick the movie (though I'd talk about that). Pick where we go to eat. I like to be able to order for a girl, but only if I actually know what she wants.
Long term, I'm more of a marriage minded guy, getting married, having kids, have a traditional 1950's household, where the man is in charge. that's what I'm thinking about and in some ways looking forward to that, but not soon
Weird things about me:
My head is too big for hats. No Joke, I have to custom order them. Or else they're too small and give me headaches. It doesn't look that big though, because I'm not a small guy.
I have a bad leg, it's not really bad per say, but there was an incident when I was younger, and it hurts too much when I try running or even jogging really. I also don't like to put too much weight on that knee.
My eyes change colors randomly, But less frequently in the last few years (twice in the last 3 or 4).
I think that's all I have to say. I'm curious how people will respond, I've posted here before, but never in that much detail.
I've been tying girls up and thinking about it since I was Minor age removed per site rules.) (my first kinky experience). So I have (Years number removed for those that can do math! lol) years of general experience in BDSM, but it's been on and off. I've been in completely vanilla relationships, and missed it too much. It's not something I can live without. I'd rather be single than not have what I need from a relationship, and I wouldn't ask for anything else from anyone else.
I'm not a big sadist, but I do see pain as something that can be exciting, and good to enforce discipline. I'm big into discipline and respect. Mutual respect and personal discipline are things both people should have in something like this I've realized. (I should of known that a long time ago, but I only came to really think about within the last several months and realized quite how important it is).
I rather like to micromanage, some people like that, some people don't. I don't need to control every minute of someones life, but always knowing who they're with and what they're doing does bring some kind of comfort to me, though it isn't necessary (it's not a lack of trust I've realized recently, it makes me feel respected to be told everything. about past present and future). I like it when a girl does things regularly, writing nightly for example, doing special projects. People should always be working on improving themselves, be it physically, emotionally, or intellectually.
Basically I'm first and formost into the Discipline part of BDSM, then the D/s. Then the Bondage, then the S/M. I think that everything else is enforcement of D/s and more so Discipline. That's my personally viewpoint, I know others are more into other parts of things, and I respect that.
I think some level of intelligence is necessary. Looks aren't so much to me, I'm on the bigger side and I don't mind if a girl is, but she shouldn't be an unhealthy weight. I'm fond of hips.
I consider myself cute, I have curly hair and I'm not handsome, but I'm far from ugly. I'm 6 foot tall and about 260. I'm built big, I'm kind of a teddy bear. I have pictures. not a lot, I'm no camera whore. (not that there is anything wrong with that.)
I'm not capable of an emotionally distant relationship, however I realize building trust right normally takes time, and you can't know everything right away. I like to hold a girl, and I like a girl who likes to be held, to talk about things going on in their minds and their lives, to watch a movie, I need a more normal couple side of things sometimes. I normally hate the phone, but with the right person, I can spend 3 hours on the phone talking about nothing and everything.
Short term, I'm not sure what I'm looking for exactly, I'd rather have someone local, but I'm not putting a limit on it. I'd like to have a relationship start off vanilla with a BDSM foundation. IE I know you're free on tuesday, I tell you I'll pick you up at 6, or meet me somewhere at 7, etc. I like to decide what a girl wears, pick the movie (though I'd talk about that). Pick where we go to eat. I like to be able to order for a girl, but only if I actually know what she wants.
Long term, I'm more of a marriage minded guy, getting married, having kids, have a traditional 1950's household, where the man is in charge. that's what I'm thinking about and in some ways looking forward to that, but not soon
Weird things about me:
My head is too big for hats. No Joke, I have to custom order them. Or else they're too small and give me headaches. It doesn't look that big though, because I'm not a small guy.
I have a bad leg, it's not really bad per say, but there was an incident when I was younger, and it hurts too much when I try running or even jogging really. I also don't like to put too much weight on that knee.
My eyes change colors randomly, But less frequently in the last few years (twice in the last 3 or 4).
I think that's all I have to say. I'm curious how people will respond, I've posted here before, but never in that much detail.
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