What's it all about?

[rikaaim]

I'm a 23 year old white male, most small build, but I'm working out.

I'm very much a sexually open guy and want to know, what's BDSM mean to you?

What's it all about?

I think I have some very common misconceptions that have been pounded into me from inaccurate sources.

Is it the leather? Is it the bondage? Is it the pain? Is it the embarassment or humiliation?

I guess my question is: What excatly is BDSM? I know it's really a style of life, much like anything else.

Let me describe a little bit of myself first...

I'm bi-curious. I have never been with a man, but would like to possibly try an experience or two.

I'm also very submissive, at times. What I like is for the woman to be highly pleased. Watching a woman get excited by humiliating me is very exciting to me. I get very turned on and just enjoy the woman's pleasure. The physical pain of a good whipping also gets me going. I can't really explain why, I just know that it does. I've never really been tied down or anything, so I'm not sure how I would react to that. My experience has, for the most part, been rather tame. I do however like the idea of being put on a leash and being walked around public, again part of the humiliation factor.

On the other hand I like to very much be in control. I love to humiliate as much as I like to be humiliated, if not more. Tying a woman down and seeing her blindfolded gets me even more excited than...well...almost anything. Knowing that I can do whatever I want to her is a rush of complete power. Knowing that she enjoys whatever I do to her just gets me going even more. Forcing a woman to take my cock in her mouth, and she wants to, is one of the most enjoyable things I can think of. Of course the thrill is knowing that it's degrading. Again I'm not sure why that gets me so excited, but it does.

Does any of this seem to ring true for anyone else? I think for me it's mostly humiliation. The leather and the whips and the chains are only a means to further enhance the humiliation aspect and the control aspect.

What about some others? What does it for you?

 

[rikaaim]

I find it hard to believe that not one person would want to discuss this with me.

 

[KawGuy]

I have never gotten into BD. Although just now thinking about it, I do remember a couple of times. We being so horny and hot for each other started fucking before we had all of our clothes off. I remember pulling her shirt off over her head, but stopping when both of her arms and hand where still in her shirt over her head. Holding her that way while if fucked her, I think some what excited the both of us.

 

[Erotic-Kiss]

I'm a 23 year old white male, most small build, but I'm working out.

I'm very much a sexually open guy and want to know, what's BDSM mean to you?

What's it all about?

I think I have some very common misconceptions that have been pounded into me from inaccurate sources.

Is it the leather? Is it the bondage? Is it the pain? Is it the embarassment or humiliation?

I guess my question is: What excatly is BDSM? I know it's really a style of life, much like anything else.

Let me describe a little bit of myself first...

I'm bi-curious. I have never been with a man, but would like to possibly try an experience or two.

I'm also very submissive, at times. What I like is for the woman to be highly pleased. Watching a woman get excited by humiliating me is very exciting to me. I get very turned on and just enjoy the woman's pleasure. The physical pain of a good whipping also gets me going. I can't really explain why, I just know that it does. I've never really been tied down or anything, so I'm not sure how I would react to that. My experience has, for the most part, been rather tame. I do however like the idea of being put on a leash and being walked around public, again part of the humiliation factor.

On the other hand I like to very much be in control. I love to humiliate as much as I like to be humiliated, if not more. Tying a woman down and seeing her blindfolded gets me even more excited than...well...almost anything. Knowing that I can do whatever I want to her is a rush of complete power. Knowing that she enjoys whatever I do to her just gets me going even more. Forcing a woman to take my cock in her mouth, and she wants to, is one of the most enjoyable things I can think of. Of course the thrill is knowing that it's degrading. Again I'm not sure why that gets me so excited, but it does.

Does any of this seem to ring true for anyone else? I think for me it's mostly humiliation. The leather and the whips and the chains are only a means to further enhance the humiliation aspect and the control aspect.

What about some others? What does it for you?

Sounds to me like you're a "SWITCH."
It's different things for everyone..... that's why you need to find a partner that is "into" the same things as you are. There's no one solid definition.