What's hardcore?

[purring_faerie]

My SO told me that the women of his past have been "very hardcore". I'm not sure how to translate it...I asked him to clarify but can't get a clear answer...I figured people here might know? What's a hardcore person when it comes to sex?

 

[Bobmi357]

My SO told me that the women of his past have been "very hardcore". I'm not sure how to translate it...I asked him to clarify but can't get a clear answer...I figured people here might know? What's a hardcore person when it comes to sex?

Well the motion picture industry always classified films as being hardcore when they showed true insertion shots rather than simulated sex.

However thats in film, not in real life. I suspect your boyfriend may be implying a certain level of inhibitions on your part, perhaps even a lack of action on your part. But without any further information, its hard to say for sure. I would try asking him to be a little more detailed.

Its one thing to be told that when it comes to sex you're pretty passive, afterall, that you can change. But if it means slipping beyond the bounds of what you consider safe and comfortable sex, tell him to take a hike. I'm not saying you shouldn't push your limits, but to do so for someone else is wrong. Push your limits because you want to, not to please some guy.

 

[cryptictravler]

Does he belong to some sort of scene., BDSM or even punk rock? If so the answer is simple, if not he is being purposefully ambiguous.

Hardcore sex is not really a term one sees very often to refer to what actual people do.

 

[Vixandra]

Perhaps he means hardcore involving "rough, wild with teeth and nails" type of sex?

I could be wrong though (considering I spend more time on the BDSM Cafe then I do over here.)

 

[londonaberdeen]

My understanding is Hardcore means wild.

Like a surfer dude might describe a wicked wave or snowboarder might describe surfing an avalanche as hardcore.

I think he's saying his previous gf's were wild, out there types.

 

[Bridget69]

I take hardcore as meaning something that goes beyond the normal boundaries of sex.

 

[ChasingShadowsX]

anything which you'd consider fucking rather than making love.

 

[SexyChele]

As you can tell from the answers, each person has their own definitions of what "hardcore" means.

If your S/O is telling you that his past relationships were with "hardcore", I would ask him what he means by that. Is he trying to make you more like them? That may or may not happen. If he is just bragging, then that is just cruel. If he can't clarify with what he means, then I think he's blowing hot air.

I would ask him why he's telling you this information, and if it is so important to him for some strange reason, then he must clarify or don't bring it up.

 

[Sodality]

Hardcore?



Sweetie, I have come across the same answer, avoidancce and ambiguous answers and when I pushed for a specific answer? It turned out to be NOTHING that I considered hardcore at all it is a very misused word.

Hardcore can mean any variety of things I have seen the following:

Object insertion, Anal, Restraints, Breath Play, multiple partners, bestiality, same sex play.

Hon It is hard I know but pin him to a specific when you ask Ok SPECIFICALLY what activities do you(to your s/o ) consider "Hardcore"?

THat way dearling, he tells you exactly and you are more aware, or if he refuses, you need to move on because communication is crucial to have trust.

Good luck and I am very interested in knowing how it went.

 

[jradek75]

I'm a firm believer that you should not talk about past lovers any more than is absolutely necessary. It makes the other person, like you, feel uncomfortable or worse yet, inadequate. If he wants something, he shouldn't beat around a bush. He should tell you what he wants or likes in the bedroom rather than hint at it by comparing you to past lovers.

I could be wrong however. Feel free to disregard my opinion. In any event, good luck solving the mystery.

 

[ReadyOne]

Consider "haredcore" to mean "really into".

A hardcore baseball person knows every statistic and always brings a pennent to wave at every home town game, not to mention when they travel to see the team play on the road...