what?

[skitch]

THat's all i could say as my girlfriend, the love of my life, said to me, 'i'm sorry, i don't love you. never have, i've just been too scared i'd hurt you, so i didn't tell you' Do you have any idea how bad that hurts someone...someone who would have killed someone to keep the relationship together...someone who put everything they had into the faith that she loved me? it hurts.

skitch

 

[Stormystarr]

I have done this to one person, and after about 6 months, I realised that he was possibly the perfect one for me, but it was to late, I had already ruined it.

 

[Celestiale]

Oh honey...I'm so sorry *hugs you so tight* I wish I had the words...but nothing can be said to fix that kind of pain. I know ya don't know me, but if you need someone, my e-mail's right here.

 

[Cheyenne]

Ouch. I've never had someone I thought was the love of my life- but it hurts to lose someone who is less than that so I can't imagine how much more it hurts to lose "the one." Except, she isn't "the one" and she has been kind enough to tell you that before things would be messier- like after marriage. Sometimes blessings don't feel like blessings.

 

[skitch]

stormystarr...why did you say you didn't love him in the first place? it's probably none of my business...i'm just searching for explanations right now...i'm totally caught off guard by this. Yesterday...she loved me with all her heart *she said* today...she's never loved me *she said*

skitch

it hurts....just take the memories away, please

 

[Stormystarr]

skitch

I realised AFTER I said I didn't love him, that I DID love him. (I know, it doesn't make sense) But my reason was that after a while, he stopped being as 'exciting' as he was when we first started going out. I wanted to be with someone who would put me at the very center of thier universe. (selfishness)
I knew that he would have been the perfect one for me AFTER we split up, but there was nothing I could do about it then. It was my fault, and I dealt with it in my own way. I know I am babbeling here, and you probably won't understand a word I'm talking about, sorry for that.
But my advice is to just give it some time, and if she truely loves you then she will come back around. But then again, it could be to late when she does. And you will have found someone who is more in love with you than anyone else on this earth. I wish you well skitch, and I really am sorry for what you have gone through, but just hang in there.
If you need to know more, just ask me anything and I will be happy to anwser you.

and just in case you need it, here's a {{{{{hug}}}}} for you.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Sorry.

But...

I honeslty believe that Love doesn't matter nearly as much as compatability. Love only goes so far. If she wasn't into the relationship anymore then your compatability MUST not be what you think it is.

Still, the sting is real, and I'm sorry. Do what I did...grow a beard and eat in new restaurants and avoid friends. It helps to be someone "else" for a while.

 

[Darowyn]

I have done it too. It happened when I met the one who is the love of my life, and then I knew the difference.
It still hurt me to hurt someone who loved me though.
I wrote the best song I have ever written about it.
It's called "I tried my best to love you"
I'm really sorry Skitch, there's nothing anyone can say now that will help, but one day you will wake up and decide to move on. I hope there will be someone nice there to help you do it.
One last thing, you may find that your friends, on here and in the real world like you better if you admit how much you were fooled.
I know it sounds hollow but all the best wishes for a happy New Year!
Dave.

 

[fgarvb1]

i had that done to me after 3 yrs. 10 months of marriage.
she wanted to wait till my birthday in may;however she also
wanted to move in with her boyfriend..either way it sucked.

starting over is not easy..wish it had not happened to you.

 

[skitch]

life's lesson

I dunno what i'm feeling right now. I want so bad to NOT be mad at her...

I understand that she must not be the one...unless she comes back and makes amends...DCL, you probably have a point. I honestly thought we were perfect for each other..so i thought the compatibility was there. Cheyenne, i think you have a point also...as much as i hate that it happened...i'd rather her say it now, than wait till we were married. Stormystarr, thanks much for the hug...a digital hug gives me just as much relief as a real one. I'm not sure i'm ready to admit i was fooled by her. I think i'm holding onto false hope that her parents pressured her into it.

in the immortal words of that Boy Band *whichever one* Tell me why-E..

skitch

 

[WriterDom]

From one of my favorite poets, Kahlil Gibran, on love:


But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,

Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,

Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Kahlil Gibran
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a broken heart really sucks, but in time, like all wounds, it will heal. Spend some time in "the seasonless world" but don't linger too long. Someone will come along when you least expect it.

 

[Andra_Jenny]

Regrets

Yes, it hurts but,

The times I regret most are hanging around too long when one the other or both should have been more honest. That would be the only truly wasted time in my life. That grey area between Love and It is over.

Sorry for you, but happy for the potential of your new life.

 

[skitch]

48 hours later

DAMN, i'm lonely. I agree with you Andra...the time I was with her and she didn't want me to be is the only time i feel i've wasted...but i loved every minute that i was with her...and the memories are what's hurting me the most right now...what the hell am i going to do with the Christmas gifts she got me...dang...i do now believe she was the first person i've ever truly loved with all my heart.

skitch

 

[Andra_Jenny]

The memories get better too. I have had the luxury of time and the pleasure of many lovers. Best to you.

 

[Skitten]

I am so sorry for you. I know how much it can hurt. I truly understand how you can feel, after having invested so much into this relationship. I do feel for you, and know that you are hurting so much right now.

I wish there were some way we could help you, but unfortunately there isn't. Be strong and keep your chin up. This is a hard thing to go through. Never actually having what you thought you had, is probably making your heart ache. And I do feel for you.