What would you do?

[toolpro]

Here's the situation. Like a lot of guys, I guess Im interested in giving head to another guy. Its got to be safe, because if he cant actually cum in my mouth and me swallow its kinda pointless to me.

Im not attracted to men physically at all. Women are about all that ever grab my attention. I love sex with my wife, and we have very broad range of activities including, about all positions -lots of oral- I love to rim her and she loves it too-- great anal sex- toys,- shes just great and I love her dearly.

She knows im into eating my own cum, and will tease the hell out of me when she gives me head. She will suck me till I just start cumming and then stop untill I stop, and sexily come and kiss me, passing the little bit of cum into my mouth for me to swallow. I must say the taste of warm cum is a very big turn on to me, especially before I cum, then its kind of a downer. She may do that 3 or 4 times before finishing me off. Then she may give it to me or not, to swallow. I lick my cum off her tits ass (she has great tits and ass) and I get her off with my tongue after we fuck. Shes just great.

I have commented that I would like to try sucking a cock and that if she had one I would never leave her alone, and I would be quite the slut to her. She gets a kick out of the talk, and tells me I would make a good cocksucker. A compliment I guess?


Now the Problem. A very good friend of ours, who we have been friends with him and his wife for 20+ years, and I are going to a buisiness meeting for 4 days we will be staying in the same room.

See my problem? I like him a lot as a friend, I dont find him sexually attractive, or any man for that matter, but I "think" I would love to give me an incredibly sexy blow job, you know the kind that would make his ears spin?

But there is obviously a lot of issues. I have never cheated on my wife, I dont know how I would approach him with out the worry of our relationship suffering, I dont know how I would feel about myself later. A lot of issues.


May be this makes me gay?

I dont honestly know.

I have a very good life and I would hate to fuck it up, but there is that desire.

Maybe it should just stay a fantasy.


Thanks, sorry for the confusion.

 

[sensualromantic]

your not alone in your desire and curiosity to try this. i to have felt the same way. i think getting your friend involved is a bad idea. what you need to do is find someone else who feels the same way as you and build a trusting friendship with him so you both can feel that the other is a safe partner to try things with. then if you later feel that your curiosity has been met and you no longer want to play with him then you can part freinds without messing up a relationship with your platonic freinds. besides if you do not want your wife to find out like me then you will want someone who she does not know. find someone on lit who is in your area, thats what i would try to do.



UOTE=toolpro]Here's the situation. Like a lot of guys, I guess Im interested in giving head to another guy. Its got to be safe, because if he cant actually cum in my mouth and me swallow its kinda pointless to me.

Im not attracted to men physically at all. Women are about all that ever grab my attention. I love sex with my wife, and we have very broad range of activities including, about all positions -lots of oral- I love to rim her and she loves it too-- great anal sex- toys,- shes just great and I love her dearly.

She knows im into eating my own cum, and will tease the hell out of me when she gives me head. She will suck me till I just start cumming and then stop untill I stop, and sexily come and kiss me, passing the little bit of cum into my mouth for me to swallow. I must say the taste of warm cum is a very big turn on to me, especially before I cum, then its kind of a downer. She may do that 3 or 4 times before finishing me off. Then she may give it to me or not, to swallow. I lick my cum off her tits ass (she has great tits and ass) and I get her off with my tongue after we fuck. Shes just great.

I have commented that I would like to try sucking a cock and that if she had one I would never leave her alone, and I would be quite the slut to her. She gets a kick out of the talk, and tells me I would make a good cocksucker. A compliment I guess?


Now the Problem. A very good friend of ours, who we have been friends with him and his wife for 20+ years, and I are going to a buisiness meeting for 4 days we will be staying in the same room.

See my problem? I like him a lot as a friend, I dont find him sexually attractive, or any man for that matter, but I "think" I would love to give me an incredibly sexy blow job, you know the kind that would make his ears spin?

But there is obviously a lot of issues. I have never cheated on my wife, I dont know how I would approach him with out the worry of our relationship suffering, I dont know how I would feel about myself later. A lot of issues.


May be this makes me gay?

I dont honestly know.

I have a very good life and I would hate to fuck it up, but there is that desire.

Maybe it should just stay a fantasy.


Thanks, sorry for the confusion.[/QUOTE]

 

[MinnSasquatch]

I guess my first question would be why would you NOT talk to your wife about it. If you have both talked about it before, why not see if she would be okay with you actually going through with it. If she is okay with it, it would eliminate a LOT of guilty feelings.

As for using a friend, I would agree that this is not the best idea. It will ALWAYS be there between you, even if it works well initially, it won't go away.

 

[toolpro]

Hello,

I would talk with her before hand and I think she would basically give me the OK, but in my mind its still questionable. I guess I may be old fashioned but, I really try and stay attached to my wife at all levels. If there was a chance that she would say ok, but in reality If it would hurt our relationship any way, no matter how much I enjoyed myself it would not be worth it.

My honesty and sincerity to her mean a lot to me.


And I agree about the friend being a risk.

All this is probably best left as a fantasy, as I dont really think I would ever really feel safe (basically diseases) with a stranger.

I hope I conveyed my thoughts to you accurately, and I appreciate your replies.

 

[human_male]

This has probably already been covered but you are certainly not alone, and I don't think it makes you gay. But to me you sound incredibly lucky, and you'd have to be a moron to do anything at all to risk screwing it up.

If I were in your shoes, the only way I'd ever consider fooling around with another person was if my wife was in on it and gave her consent.

Even if you were single, I'd still suggest thinking seriously about it in case you ended up losing your friend. Plus, you never know how you're going to feel about it afterward.

I think you should definately not do anything at the moment, and perhaps talk to your wife at some point to see how she'd feel about a threesome or something, if that's something you feel comfortable bringing up with her.

If not, I suggest keeping it a fantasy. You've got it really good by the sound of it. I'd hate to see you lose that.

Edit: I just read your above post, that's good to hear. But you could still talk to her about it, maybe it's something she'd like and has fantasised about. Who knows. On the other hand, if you can't take a nice big load in your mouth what's the point?

 

[alaskabibear]

toolpro,

We can relate to and understand your situation. I am in a very similar relationship with my wife. She is very supportive of my bisexuality and is also extremely turned-on by the thought of two men together having sex.

So, I concur 100% with your decision to do nothing without her involvement. She already supports you and is having fun with this part of your sexuality. You have already said you're not about to mess up your relationship with her, so enough said about this part of your question.

In regards to perhaps "testing the waters" with your friend; I say who better to bring into your lives than someone you already know and trust? The only question is, how do you determine if he is interested? You must have a bit of an idea about him already I think, or you wouldn't have thought he might be "available" on this upcoming trip. Why don't you talk it over with your wife (and with her blessing) figure out how you could find out how he feels about this without blowing your cover and ruining a friendship. How you would do this depends on the circumstances and your friendship - But, since you are sharing a room perhaps you could casually let him see you nude.... watch his face and eyes and see if something tells you that he is interested in what he is seeing. If there seems to be an attraction, I would not push it at that time, but build up a relationship slowly over time where you two (and your wife) could talk it all out and come to terms with this new sexuality.

For us anyway, the only person we could ever allow into that part of our lives is just the kind of friend you already have. Just have to go slow so you don't make the wrong call about his sexuality and then have embarrassment ruin your friendship. Good luck

And by the way, suggest you read the Kinsey Reports and other info regarding your bisexuality. You will find that you are ok and that should really be your first step along this path of discovery.