What would you do?

[DennisB]

I have always wondered about this. Lots of us here on Lit, all are strangers...or are they? Suppose you met someone on here and you PMed them and over some chats, you have taken a liking to them. Your chats have become sexual in nature and you have discovered how they crave sex and they are not getting it in real life. You can be male or female, it doesnt matter. They are the opposite sex OR i guess they can be the same sex as long as both of you desire the same sexuality. As the chats become deeper and the trust becomes closer, you discover that you know this person!! It could be a friend, a friend of your spouse, a coworker, a neighbor, a relative, whatever. They haven't figured out that they know you....yet.

What would you do? Would you continue? Would you end it? Would you tell them who you are? What would you do??? I hope i set up this scenario well so the responses wont be, "i would ask him/her if i can come over and fuck". You know that that will not be the first thing out of your mouth, lol!

 

[Tio_Narratore]

Twice (once here, once on another site). One was a student of mine; I knew she was seventeen, so I ended it. The other is a pharmacy technician at my local drugstore. I let her figure who I was, and we still do write occasionally, though we keep our "business" relationship professional.

 

[Will_Phuxwood]

I'd let them know and give them the opportunity to decide whether to take the relationship we'd built into the real world of not. I'm not saying I'd expect to launch in to a physical relationship with them, but having the same kind of conversations with them in person could be fun. Alternatively we could pretend our online exchanges never happen and enjoy the secrecy. I prefer the former though.

 

[Trailblzn]

what I would do

I would use my new found knowledge of their likes, dislikes, desires etc and seduce them in real life. If they confided in the "online" me I would encourage them to explore the real thing. I would ask her details about how she felt about the "real life" me and use the answers to benefit us both trying to get her excited about the possibility of getting together and hopefully getting together and enjoying every second of it. If that happened the "online me" would gradually disappear and encourage the "real life relationship" before leaving.

Wow I read that and it sounds really manipulative but the power of it is seductive.

 

[glBock]

I would use my new found knowledge of their likes, dislikes, desires etc and seduce them in real life. If they confided in the "online" me I would encourage them to explore the real thing. I would ask her details about how she felt about the "real life" me and use the answers to benefit us both trying to get her excited about the possibility of getting together and hopefully getting together and enjoying every second of it. If that happened the "online me" would gradually disappear and encourage the "real life relationship" before leaving.

Wow I read that and it sounds really manipulative but the power of it is seductive.

Trailblazen, Every word you wrote makes sense to me. If I were in the same situation as you, I am fairly sure I would proceed in the same manner.

 

[HoneyUndone]

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[Littletoo]

I would use my new found knowledge of their likes, dislikes, desires etc and seduce them in real life. If they confided in the "online" me I would encourage them to explore the real thing. I would ask her details about how she felt about the "real life" me and use the answers to benefit us both trying to get her excited about the possibility of getting together and hopefully getting together and enjoying every second of it. If that happened the "online me" would gradually disappear and encourage the "real life relationship" before leaving.

Wow I read that and it sounds really manipulative but the power of it is seductive.

Your seduction sure would have worked on me. There are two guys on here with whom I have had both a Literosexual and a Real Life relationship. My roommate is on here too, but she's not active. One of the guys is ghosted to me now. The other guy is still active on here, but not with me.

When we met in real life I was stunned at the level of instantaneous connection we had. It was both physical and emotionsl. I haven't had a lot of intimacy in my life, which was why I was on Lit. I know, I know, I was looking for love in all the wrong places.It was when I was young and stupid. Okay, Okay, youngER and stupidER.

Mom always said, "Be careful what you wish for, Jamie" I wasn't careful. But he wasn't careful either. If he had even approximated the seduction you describe, I'd be with him now. It would have involved a relocation for me. I can dance anywhere. At the time, everything I owned fit in the back of my jeep except one trunk of books. (Yeah I use Kindle but I engage differently holding a book than watching a screen.)

But in the event it went wrong. Looking back on it now I realize I was confused as to which person he was: The on line version, or the real life version. Looking back, I think HE was confused as to which person he was, or wanted to be. Had he had self-clarity, and been able, as you described, to fade out his on line persona as our real life relationship developed it might have worked.

That fading out would be seductive but it would not look like manipulation to me. It would look like compassion on a frightened girl who most needed what she was most afraid of.

Like all my breakups, there was damage. But the World Turns and the frightened girl grows less frightened, though no less lonely.

Love,,

Jamie



PS Okay. there were three guys on here with whom I have had a real life relationship. The third was such a disaster, even for me, that I left him out.

 

[Jada59]

Ha! I actually thought that might have happened with one person. Not that anything had progressed like that but...

I had to leave another site because a guy that I only know from online confessed that he had feelings for me and they were not mutual. I've been talking to this guy for 20some years and know how he is so I just had to leave. Otherwise he would have been badgering me daily and not letting up.

When I began chatting with the guy here, they live in the same city, have the same physical description and same first name. I don't think they're the same age and they don't talk in the same fashion. Guy I am avoiding has very distinctive and odd speech patterns, but still... I wanted to make sure that it wasn't him.

More recently and again this did not progress... Was just talking to a guy from the area I grew up in who is my age. We have lived in some of the same places. I suppose it is possible that we have run across each other at some point and didn't know it. And he works near my friend's house. But from our few brief conversations, it would appear that we don't know each other.

I suppose if some scenario like you described did happen to me, I would probably have a good laugh about it!

 

[BootieKittie]

I would end it and not tell them that I knew who they were, lit and my everyday can never meet.

 

[TheDubbs]

I would end it and not tell them that I knew who they were, lit and my everyday can never meet.

Yup, agreed. As the old saying goes, “Don’t shit where you eat.”

 

[Jada59]

Last night I was contacted by someone on here. We never chatted on here. But... He could tell from things that I had posted that he knew me. We are friends from waaay back. We lost contact with each other for reasons I won't get into. At any rate, we are both very happy now. Thank you Lit! You are a wonderful place!

 

[Beach63108]

I have always wondered about this. Lots of us here on Lit, all are strangers...or are they? Suppose you met someone on here and you PMed them and over some chats, you have taken a liking to them. Your chats have become sexual in nature and you have discovered how they crave sex and they are not getting it in real life. You can be male or female, it doesnt matter. They are the opposite sex OR i guess they can be the same sex as long as both of you desire the same sexuality. As the chats become deeper and the trust becomes closer, you discover that you know this person!! It could be a friend, a friend of your spouse, a coworker, a neighbor, a relative, whatever. They haven't figured out that they know you....yet.

What would you do? Would you continue? Would you end it? Would you tell them who you are? What would you do??? I hope i set up this scenario well so the responses wont be, "i would ask him/her if i can come over and fuck". You know that that will not be the first thing out of your mouth, lol!

Well depending on who they are it would be eye opening or maybe if I already knew they were like that I would be more like I should have figured as much. Depending on if they were sexually outward I'd probably approach them and say that I figured out it was them online. If it was someone I knew was on in secret or trying to be discrete I'd probably keep it hidden.

 

[screwher]

It would depend on who they are. All of my chatting here are with other men about them having sex with my wife. I want to keep our hotwife lifestyle away from anyone on "my side" which would include erotic chatting. If I've deduced it's someone from her side (and not a family member) then I would decide then my next step. Perhaps it would inspire that gentleman to pursue my wife into sex with him. That's a win for all of us.

 

[BongoGal]

It completely depends upon my real life relationship with that person. With some people, I would feel obliged to immediately cease contact or tactfully fade away. I can imagine some scenarios in which I'd be very tempted to play along with things and see where they lead. In no case, however, would I ever meet this person.

 

[SaraDarkened]

Yeah, it would depend a very great deal on the actual person, and my current RAT relationship to them.
I would bet it would bring us closer, having revealed so much to each other, but some relationships can't go further than that, y'know?

 

[FGB]

At least once mentioning I have caller ID caused a screeching halt to one relationship.

Why ...I don't know because I had already ran a background check on her and either she lied about living with her cousin or was her cousin.

Everything matched out. It's not like I didn't know who she was ,where she lived...worked and what she did for fun. (Older guys like me...)

But the caller ID freaked her out for some reason.

People!

 

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