What would you do?

[christcat69]

Ok so my sister and her new boyfriend (whom I've just started to warm up to) came over today. When I first met him I told her I thought he was a thug and I didn't like him but just recently started seeing things differently... until now, that is.

He said that a homeboy of his was locked down for killing four guys. If anyone of you know me, you know that my friends were killed in 98. Well his homeboy killed my friends. When I said they were my friends, he said he just bought weed off of this guy. I took this as him glorifying this guy as his friend until he realized he'd said the wrong thing in the wrong house. I told him to never bring my sis around people like that. My sis took this as cue to leave. She knew I was upset. I don't even want this kid around my sister. After she dropped him off the other night, she got hit and ran (running her off the road). Tonight made me wonder if it was someone he crossed. I don't want anything to happen to my sister. What do I do? She's 26 and can make her own decisions but doesn't always make good ones. Help.

 

[littlekateyes]

I don't really have any solid advice, but wanted to bump this up.

 

[BgMma]

Tell her how you feel and what is going on.

Don't let her make a bad decision and for God's sake, try to get this asshole busted for real!!

 

[christcat69]

Hey thanks.
I just recently really realized that everything in the world is connected. I guess it's all in how you're connected that determines whether you stay on this Earth for a while or not.

 

[christcat69]

Well the killer is in jail but there are sick people everywhere and my sister tends to attract them. She is so naive sometimes.

 

[BgMma]

Hey thanks.
I just recently really realized that everything in the world is connected. I guess it's all in how you're connected that determines whether you stay on this Earth for a while or not.

I am behind you honey, all the way.

Make it good Karma.

 

[patient1]

I suspect it might work better if you make it about how you love her & don't want to see her harmed, how you're afraid of losing her too, rather than about him being bad. Criticizing him will force her to defend him, sort of like in an abusive relationship. Criticising him is criticising her.

Don't make it his fault that somebody hates him, just that it's dangerous to associate with him.

 

[christcat69]

That sounds like good, solid advice. I agree that criticizing him will do just that. that is why I simply told him not to bring her around people like that and decided to talk to her later. Her car was totalled the other night and she had not a scratch on her. She has a guardian angel on her shoulder but I don't want her to jump into a volcano, if you know what I mean.