What would you do if...

[Safe_Bet]

Okay here's the outline of a scene from a story I'm working on:

My boyfriend's yahoo ID was signed on, so I asked if it was him. (He has his Yahoo set to automatically sign in, so whenever his cousin uses his computer, the yahoo ID shows as online.) It was his cousin. My BF and his cousin are real close and live together.

His cousin told me that my BF, Dave, was at the hospital visiting his dad who had a heart attack. He goes on to ask if I am dating Dave. I told him "yes." He goes on to ask if it is serious and if not, can he and I get to know each other...

His cousin becomes very pushy on the subject and I just can't believe a cousin would be that cold. Dave is at the hospital with his ill father and his cousin is at home hitting on his girlfriend.

Now, question..

Would you tell your BF if a family member of his hit on you?

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Okay here's the outline of a scene from a story I'm working on:

My boyfriend's yahoo ID was signed on, so I asked if it was him. (He has his Yahoo set to automatically sign in, so whenever his cousin uses his computer, the yahoo ID shows as online.) It was his cousin.

His cousin told me that my BF, Dave, was at the hospital visiting his dad who had a heart attack. He goes on to ask if I am dating Dave. I told him "yes." He goes on to ask if it is serious and if not, can he and I get to know each other...

His cousin becomes very pushy on the subject and I just can't believe a cousin would be that cold. Dave is at the hospital with his ill father and his cousin is at home hitting on his girlfriend.

Now, question..

Would you tell your BF if a family member of his hit on you?

That's going to depend on the relationship between the cousins. I've got cousins that I not only haven't seen in at least 40 years but that I'd avoid seeing for the next 40. In that kind of case, Hell yes!

But you've got the cuz using the BF's computer. Is that because they're close or because the cuz is short of dough? Tell the BF about the 'hit' and he'll likely clean his cousin's clock.

Yeah, I'd tell him.

 

[Corylea]

I wouldn't tell him while his father was in the hospital -- he's got enough on his plate. When things had calmed down a bit, though, yeah, I would tell him.

 

[TE999]

Okay here's the outline of a scene from a story I'm working on:


Now, question..

Would you tell your BF if a family member of his hit on you?

First off...I agree with Cory...drop the bomb when Dad's in the clear.

To answer the question, I most assuredly would. That is low-class and immature on the part of the BF's cousin. It raises the question what else is 'cuz' capable of?

Your 'heroine' would be best to steer clear of Mr. Smooth...and don't ever be in a room alone with him...unless that's part of the plot.

 

[oggbashan]

But how do you know if it was the BF pretending to be the cousin to test you; or the BF's mother or father pretending to be the cousin; or someone else who has access to his computer?

If your BF has automatic sign-in set to his Yahoo ID, anything you write to him can be seen by anyone who uses his computer.

I'd get him to set up another ID that he has to sign into to manually and ONLY use that one for communications between you.

Your BF's life, and his relationship with you, is wide-open to almost anyone.

Og

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

In my younger days, when women hit on me, I never told my girlfriends or wife. Some of the women were close friends or relatives of the wife.

A while back I spoke to my high school sweetheart, and she told me her mom really liked me back then. I know she did! But her daughter doesnt need to know.

 

[jomar]

If your story makes it clear it's the cousin hitting on gf, I'd tell bf because that's where her loyalty lies (if their relationship is strong and all that). Because, like TE said, cuz can't be trusted and what else is he up to. Having said that, I'd probably only have the gf tell because cuz is living with bf and has access to things that could potentially harm bf (checks for example). If cuz wasn't' living with bf and had only occasional contact then gf could fend him off without stirring things up.

 

[Weird Harold]

Would you tell your BF if a family member of his hit on you?

I agree with V_M -- it depends onthe relationship between BF and Cuz. It also dpends on what kind of prior relationship the Protag has with Cuz; have they they generally gotten along or is Cuz just a natural sleezeball that give her the creeps?


I would suggest that a copy of the Yahoo-IM log be saved for the BF when he's not so stressed about his dad.

It's also possible that I'd simply suggest he check he check his IM log to see what his Cuz has been up to rather than tell him explicitly.

It all depends on where the Plot is going with Cuz, 'cause the situation would never arise for me in the real-world.