What would get you to?

[SeaCat]

Inspired by LadyJeanes thread and my answer to it.

What would get you to have sex outside of your relationship?

For me it would be a person with a great personality, a great sense of humor and the ability to trust. Not only would they have to trust me and my wife but my wife and I would have to trust them. I would have to trust there wouldn't be any games either during or after. (Maybe we would get it on more than once, but there would still be an after.)

Cat

 

[rgraham666]

Wouldn't do it.

As I've said so many times before, for me relationships are too rare and fragile to risk by fucking around.

 

[carsonshepherd]

*ahem* a really hot body from biking 5 miles a day, and a big cock...

 

[Dar~]

Sexual chemistry, trust, friendship.
I don't know that I could have random sex with someone I didn't know but that I just thought was hot. I think I have to know something about them and enjoy that part of them. I need a link of some sort. I'd also need to know there were no expectations on me aside from a really good roll in the hay.

 

[LadyJeanne]

*ahem* a really hot body from biking 5 miles a day, and a big cock...

Give Sheryl a call - maybe she'll send Lance over on his bike.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

1. A relationship.
2. No power in the 'verse could make me.

I'm willing to except that sexually I'm conservative and old-fashioned, but damnitt, so what? Fucking around is one of those things I don't do. I don't rain down the fiery condemnation on others who fuck around, but for me personally, I just wouldn't do it. Sure, it's easier for me than others to avoid such an opportunity, but the fundamental factor preventing me from going through with it is myself.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I'm a professional porn writer. I get paid $10,000 for every act of sex or I just don't show up.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I'm a professional porn writer. I get paid $10,000 for every act of sex or I just don't show up.

Leather cuffs and clothesline included?

 

[yui]

I'm a professional porn writer. I get paid $10,000 for every act of sex or I just don't show up.

I get paid in Necco Wafers and Pez without the nifty dispensers.


In answer to Cat's question: Part of the thrill is being faithful. In a consensual situation, I really don't know what would happen, but I do not cheat.

 

[velvetpie]

Divorce.

I've been married for 18 years and I heartily agree with rgraham. Relationships are too rare and fragile to fuck with, especially when you've got a good man!

 

[impressive]

What would get you to have sex outside of your relationship?

If I've promised not to ... then I won't. That being said, I don't make such promises lightly. Fidelity, to me, is unrelated to sex.

Even so, I don't fall into bed with just anyone who happens to be willing. I'm not the least bit interested in having sex with an empty-headed beauty of either gender ... or with someone who values things over people ... or with a mean-spirited bully.

Generosity of spirit is an absolute MUST.

 

[English Lady]

I wouldn't cheat...nope, I couldn't.

I would have sex with someone else with my husband's consent, and actually he'd probably give that fairly easily. I think there would have to be major chemistry and some emotion, but you know I don't think I could find that man. I just don't think I need anything other than the satisfaction I get from my husband.

 

[lil_elvis]

Couldn't, wouldn't. I've made my promise, taken my vow and life's just too damned good with her to chuck it for sex with someone else.

 

[Liar]

What would get you to have sex outside of your relationship?

A really bad relationship, which I just haven't worked up the energy to put a proper end to.

In a good relationship the thought of sex with someone else wouldn't have any appeal.

 

[woodnymph_O]

man are we all conservative lol

have to agree with the rest though , in a great relationship I only need that one person , and let fantasy be our playground. I guess I only push the envelope in my mind.
The odd are so slim in finding a person you mesh with that well that I think it would be hard to find a third person, who matches as well.

 

[carsonshepherd]

well, guess i'm the biggest slut so far

however, in my current relationship there's an understanding of monogamy and I've kept up with my end for nealy 5 years. That's about as long as I can go

 

[woodnymph_O]

well, guess i'm the biggest slut so far

however, in my current relationship there's an understanding of monogamy and I've kept up with my end for nealy 5 years. That's about as long as I can go

Carson no one would call ya that sweetie, "Shake Yo Thang, Do what u wanna do"
we'll just sit back and wish we had the nerve lol
nymphy

 

[Liar]

well, guess i'm the biggest slut so far

What's why we luv ya.

however, in my current relationship there's an understanding of monogamy and I've kept up with my end for nealy 5 years. That's about as long as I can go

I'd say a relationship by default is an understanding of monogamy, unless something else is clearly agreed upon.

 

[elsol]

What would get you to have sex outside of your relationship?

If it's an upgrade...

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's not a thing we're doing at the moment, and that's part of the answer...
We've been together 27 years now! And we've had an open relationship off and on all through that time.
And right after hotness, when we pick outside lovers, is respect- The few times someone's screwed up (mostly me, I admit) is when our (well, my) choice doesn't respect my partner. Maybe twice, that's happened. Other than that, we've brought people into our family life that have often remained good friends with us both. One woman, my husband's ex-mistress, brings her new boyfriends to us when she needs them to meet the family!
And the other thing is- when things are sketchy, we don't do it. we've been monogamous for about three years, because we are both working too hard to spare the energy for any outside needs...

 

[Quiet_Cool]

What would get you to have sex outside of your relationship?

Consent from my partner.

Without consent...

Hmmm... An undeniable and utterly defeating lack of self-respect. Apologies if I offended anyone, but if you're loyal or honest out of respect for another person, and not yourself, you've got some major issues.

Q_C

 

[carsonshepherd]

Consent from my partner.

Without consent...

Hmmm... An undeniable and utterly defeating lack of self-respect. Apologies if I offended anyone, but if you're loyal or honest out of respect for another person, and not yourself, you've got some major issues.

Q_C

monogamy is important to him... it's not a big deal to me. I wouldn't care if he was with someone else because sexual jealousy means possession to me. he's not my possession and he doesn't own me. But... he expects fidelity, and he gives it, so I do too. In general I suck at monogamy but I'm doing well this time.

at the time I cheated regularly in a relationship, i was young and horny(and I practiced safe sex religiously BTW.) it wasn't the best idea I ever had, but it was a great piece of ass *shrug* Can you say hands-free orgasm?

now, i'm much too lazy to do all the work it takes not to get caught.

 

[LadyJeanne]

monogamy is important to him... it's not a big deal to me. I wouldn't care if he was with someone else because sexual jealousy means possession to me. he's not my possession and he doesn't own me. But... he expects fidelity, and he gives it, so I do too. In general I suck at monogamy but I'm doing well this time.

at the time I cheated regularly in a relationship, i was young and horny(and I practiced safe sex religiously BTW.) it wasn't the best idea I ever had, but it was a great piece of ass *shrug* Can you say hands-free orgasm?

now, i'm much too lazy to do all the work it takes not to get caught.

Monogamy through laziness! See, lazy can be a virtue too! It's all about perspective.

 

[sweetnpetite]

Inspired by LadyJeanes thread and my answer to it.

What would get you to have sex outside of your relationship?

For me it would be a person with a great personality, a great sense of humor and the ability to trust. Not only would they have to trust me and my wife but my wife and I would have to trust them. I would have to trust there wouldn't be any games either during or after. (Maybe we would get it on more than once, but there would still be an after.)

Cat

From your post I don't think you mean *outside* of the relationship, but bringing another party into the mix.

In that case- for her to be willing. We have a fantasy playmate but she's Miss Monogomy and we respect that.

 

[sweetnpetite]

In that case- for her to be willing. We have a fantasy playmate but she's Miss Monogomy and we respect that.

Or for Sophia Jane to come by with some hot... cookies.