what was your first time like?

[Nosferatuness]

I'm writing my first lit story and it's BDSM based.

Tell me about your first time. Not first time sex. First time(s) exploring BDSM. How did it make you feel? Weere you nervous? Excited? Can you describe the feelings?

Your partner? Was (s)he experienced or not? How did the right or wrong partner add or take away from the experience?

If this was your first time, how did you know what you liked and where your boundaries were? Were there boundaries? Did you push yourself into unknown territory?

Please share!

 

[Toa_lin]

I'm writing my first lit story and it's BDSM based.

Tell me about your first time. Not first time sex. First time(s) exploring BDSM. How did it make you feel? Weere you nervous? Excited? Can you describe the feelings?

Your partner? Was (s)he experienced or not? How did the right or wrong partner add or take away from the experience?

If this was your first time, how did you know what you liked and where your boundaries were? Were there boundaries? Did you push yourself into unknown territory?

Please share!

Well, I know, for me at least, the first time i did it, it was unknown territory fro me. As far as teh boundries go, she knew what hers were, adn we talked before hand, and so I adapted my control so as not to cross them. Besides for that, it was more of just gogin with the flow. Just liek everything, your not expected to be amazing your first time. I knew this, i knew that though she was expereinced, she knwe I wasn't and so wasn't expecting it to be amazing. So not too much nervousness, ((which is good, cus i got a lot of arm strength, adn if I don't hodl back enough when using a crop or cane, i can do some real damage, and nervousness messes with my arm control lol))

 

[Nosferatuness]

Well, I know, for me at least, the first time i did it, it was unknown territory fro me. As far as teh boundries go, she knew what hers were, adn we talked before hand, and so I adapted my control so as not to cross them. Besides for that, it was more of just gogin with the flow. Just liek everything, your not expected to be amazing your first time. I knew this, i knew that though she was expereinced, she knwe I wasn't and so wasn't expecting it to be amazing. So not too much nervousness, ((which is good, cus i got a lot of arm strength, adn if I don't hodl back enough when using a crop or cane, i can do some real damage, and nervousness messes with my arm control lol))

Thanks

 

[Netzach]

It was remarkably exciting, although very turned on I kept thinking to myself, though "they're being too nice to me"

I had fantasized about a very degrading, nasty tone, and they were very SM101 polite about it all.

 

[Xelebes]

It was ok. The element involved was particularily limited but it was there.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Awesome comes to mind. I was black and blue over about 60% of my body for days, very happy, and more than ready to go back for more.

Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

i dont remeber the first specific time since i was with the same person id been with for motnhs, it sor of just developed

 

[Nosferatuness]

i dont remeber the first specific time since i was with the same person id been with for motnhs, it sor of just developed

It was a natural flow from what you had before?

 

[Nosferatuness]

Awesome comes to mind. I was black and blue over about 60% of my body for days, very happy, and more than ready to go back for more.

Catalina

Emotionally?

 

[Nosferatuness]

It was ok. The element involved was particularily limited but it was there.

Element?

 

[Nosferatuness]

It was remarkably exciting, although very turned on I kept thinking to myself, though "they're being too nice to me"

I had fantasized about a very degrading, nasty tone, and they were very SM101 polite about it all.

SM 101 polite

They didn't push boundaries then? Has that happened to you?

 

[myinnerslut]

It was a natural flow from what you had before?

well, we had been dating for over six months before i let slip that i was into this, and it just happened slowly

first blindfolds, then restraints, then spankings, etc etc... it just grew

now he is my Sir and i am his submissive little slut puppy

 

[Nosferatuness]

well, we had been dating for over six months before i let slip that i was into this, and it just happened slowly

first blindfolds, then restraints, then spankings, etc etc... it just grew

now he is my Sir and i am his submissive little slut puppy

It sounds so natural. Good for you

 

[Netzach]

SM 101 polite

They didn't push boundaries then? Has that happened to you?

Yeah, eventually. But I'm more a boundary pusher type.

 

[FurryFury]

All of my actual scenes have been with my husband after many years together. The first things were simply integrated into what we already were doing. That was after a great deal of conversations, stories and fantasies shared. His including some of the things I was interested in surprised me very pleasantly.

Fury

 

[1birdiegirl]

I did my homework

As I begin to explore the bdsm lifestyle in a more formal manner, I realize that there have been elements of it in my relationships all my life. I enjoyed spanking, restraints, and dominance before I knew I was a submissive. I just never had it defined. It's hard to specifiy a "first time" since it has been a progression of becoming aware.

However, the first formal r/t experience I had with a self-proclaimed and experienced dom was incredible. I looked for someone who had experience and knew what he was talking about before I chose "the first." Fortunately, it made all the difference. He knew how to play me in a way that helped me explore various aspects of bdsm, and better understand what I liked and what my limits might be. I had done some research on bdsm, which gave me an understanding of what he was doing and why, and we also had in-depth conversation before and after about . I still call him my teacher-dom; he seemed to give me just what I needed when I needed it.

For me it's been important to ease into the lifestyle: educating myself about it, talking about it with people who know what they are talking about, and being sure to communicate about safe, sane, and consensual; limits and safe words with any potential partner. It's a fun, exciting, self-reflective journey, and I know there is still so much more to explore and enjoy.

 

[Quint]

..............

 

[Toa_lin]

Yeah, I failed to mention I've always exhibited signs of beign a Dom before I actually became one. Always rather controlling in the bed-room, I enjoyed securing my lovers hands in one fashion or antoehr etc. Just never any pain play or anything like that until my first actual Sub.

 

[Xelebes]

Element?

To say that I was bound up in the session would have been telling a fallacy. To say that there was no undercurrent of bdsm within the session would also be considered telling a fantasy. It is in the middle where it lies.

That is, the most serious we went in this matter was a little bit of CBT, however she was kind of eeked out about it.

 

[AvaAdore]

It was about a month after my bf and I got together. We went to a sex shop and bought our first flogger. It was a short leather cat-o-nine-tails. We then went to his place tried it out. Neither of us had much experience, so I guess it was more experimenting and less a proper scene.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Let's try this again...

It wasn't my "first time" but it was very close to it. It may be the first time I consciously set out to get real edgy though... Rather than re-invent the wheel I'll just post the link:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=13945704&highlight=Michigan#post13945704

 

[MasterPhoenix]

UN-FUKIN-BELIEVEABLE is the best description I have.

 

[BeachGurl2]

I was pretty nervous my first time. I knew it was going to happen because we had planned it and set everything up knowing it was my first time. I dressed as instructed for dinner out - mini-skirt, no panties, man-tailored shirt, heels. We didn't talk about it at all over dinner, but I think that was done on purpose to keep me anxious and on edge.

I don't remember exactly how long we were at it that night, but I do remember thinking about the time at one point. We had gone to dinner early - 6pm - so that we had a long night, and at some point I looked at the clock and it was after 1am. I remember thinking that this could go on all night and I'd be fine. I was in heaven.

Sure, I was nervous and scared at first, but I trusted him. Why would I do this with someone I didn't trust? Think about it. I'm going to let someone tie me up and beat on me. Voluntarily. How could I do that and stay nervous? This was something I wanted and I was with someone I trusted to do this. So the nervousness was there at first, but it was quickly gone.