what turns you on
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peachykeen
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a brief list of things that turn me on:
*my husband playing guitar in his underwear (he's just so darn cute!)
*kisses on the back of my neck
*a really excellent thunderstorm
*snuggling on the couch and sharing a pint of New York Super Fudge Chunk (hey what can I say) mmmm cold chocolate smooches!
*a man (okay nowadays limited to my cute ice cream eating guitar playing husband) taking charge in the bedroom and being forceul and aggressive without being abusive or mean
*a good spankin'
*swimming in the ocean (gotta be the ocean, need the salt)
There are lots of other things but that's of the top of my head
*my husband playing guitar in his underwear (he's just so darn cute!)
*kisses on the back of my neck
*a really excellent thunderstorm
*snuggling on the couch and sharing a pint of New York Super Fudge Chunk (hey what can I say) mmmm cold chocolate smooches!
*a man (okay nowadays limited to my cute ice cream eating guitar playing husband) taking charge in the bedroom and being forceul and aggressive without being abusive or mean
*a good spankin'
*swimming in the ocean (gotta be the ocean, need the salt)
There are lots of other things but that's of the top of my head
Nomadic Lady
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There is nothing sexier than having:
long hungry kisses.
a guy take full control as well as liking to be controlled....before you panic, yes only in bed
body licks....with the periodic air blown onto the wet spots.
nipple biting
watching him moan
spontinaity
not affriad to be adventurous...especially out doors...voyeurism could be a good thing
playing cribbage in the bathtub
hot wax
vulgar language is sometimes nice, when in that fuck me hard mood
when he laughs
watching him undress
and soooooo much more
long hungry kisses.
a guy take full control as well as liking to be controlled....before you panic, yes only in bed
body licks....with the periodic air blown onto the wet spots.
nipple biting
watching him moan
spontinaity
not affriad to be adventurous...especially out doors...voyeurism could be a good thing
playing cribbage in the bathtub
hot wax
vulgar language is sometimes nice, when in that fuck me hard mood
when he laughs
watching him undress
and soooooo much more
Nomadic Lady
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You are a rare breed dreamer0919 Not many men enjoy playing games while relaxing in a tub with their partner.
Not many men enjoy playing games while relaxing in a tub with their partner.Migmitch, I'm confused... are you wanting anal sex tips or are you wanting to know what turns eveyone on?
Or is this a multifaceted thread... multipurpose for the sake of privacy?
Anyway what turns me on is...
touch
taste
smells
honesty
intensity
passion
and a good bit of imagination...
Asd for anal sex tips... hmmm I'm not the expert on this, "butt" if you do a search, you are sure to find all you want to know about it.
Or is this a multifaceted thread... multipurpose for the sake of privacy?
Anyway what turns me on is...
touch
taste
smells
honesty
intensity
passion
and a good bit of imagination...
Asd for anal sex tips... hmmm I'm not the expert on this, "butt" if you do a search, you are sure to find all you want to know about it.
millieteases
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All of the above, lots of arousal, lots of patience and an enormous amount of lubricant.
If it hurts too much, stop.
If it hurts a little stop, but don't pull out - let everything get used to what's happening.
Add more lubricant.
Be gentle.
Ask her to do you with a strap-on roughly the same size as you. Turn about is fair play - and lots of fun!
If it hurts too much, stop.
If it hurts a little stop, but don't pull out - let everything get used to what's happening.
Add more lubricant.
Be gentle.
Ask her to do you with a strap-on roughly the same size as you. Turn about is fair play - and lots of fun!
Rod Hardwick
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millieteases said:
I recommend a few other things, too. I'm pretty thick myself, and it takes awhile for me to get in my wife's ass, nothing gives her an orgasm quite like anal, though, so it's well worth it. First, she has to be really in the mood, anyway, so do whatever you guys do to get yourselves really hot and bothered. A couple glasses of wine doesn't hurt, either.
Next, start with your fingers back there...they're nice and thin compared to the real deal. MAKE SURE YOU TRIM YOUR NAILS. Sharp corners are a no-no. Use lots of lube. Work in one finger for a while, and then when she's relaxed, a second...and a third...and so on. I can generally get about four up there, sometimes five.
You can also try a plug or dildo to help it along. They come in all shapes and sizes...find one you think would make it easy. Again, lots of lube. The great thing about plugs is they generally stay in pretty well, so you can leave the plug in her ass while you fuck her pussy, which can be a great turn on for the both of you.
Once she's had time to get accustomed to your fingers or the dildo/plug, then you can try it with your cock. Again, LOTS OF LUBE. Also, GO SLOW. If she says "ouch," stop. Hold it there, calm her, get to her to relax, and when she's ready, then try putting more in. Once you do get it all the way in, hold it there for awhile and let her relax again Then slowly start bringing it in and out, always mindfull of whether or not it's hurting her. After a few strokes you can generally start to pick up some speed, and maybe, eventually, you can pound her like they do in the pornos, but certainly not right away. In the videos they just stick it up there and start wailing...doesn't work that way in real life. What they're not showing you on the video is the 15 mintues of prep time to get her loosened up enough. Or, it could just be that porn stars have really loose assholes. Neither option surprises me. Happy trails!
Oh, and in case this thread was really about "what turns you on" and not asking for advice, I really like girls in very short tight skirts and high heels...unf.
Use Lube (Of Course)
Make sure she is horny and worked up. Give her a sensual back massage to start, lots of foreplay, get her so worked up she'd let you fuck her anywhere so long as you finish her off.
Go down on her while your easing a couple of fingers in her ass. I've found most women really enjoy it if you can lick her clitoris while moving a thumb in and out of her pussy and ass at the same time. This is easiest if you sit down on the couch and have her squat over you while she's facing you, well at least it worked for the girl I was with.
When you first start attempting to snake yourself into her ass go very slow with slight in and out movement so as to not stay in one spot too long. Only get your head in a little bit to let her feel herself expand and then when you sense she is feeling pain remove yourself for a few minutes. The anal sphincter always needs a chance to regroup at least once. You may have to try this several times until she loosens up.
No matter what the most important thing is that she trusts you. Never break this or you'll never get another shot at it. If she says stop, then stop. Many women can rightfully be scared by anal sex and they need to feel they can trust you if they need to.
She will enjoy it more when she learns to relax and actually open herself up. The ass muscles are strong and hence can be very loose or tight enough to squeeze you right out. The more she does it the better it will get and eventually it will be like second nature. In the end it will be up to her as to whether or not she wants to like it, because trust me there is no way for any human to not like it, it's all a matter of whether or not you can handle the thought of it.
On a more personal note most people are very self conscious about fecal matter being distributed during such an intimate and personal exchange. An enema issued before lovemaking will alleviate this concern and subsequent insecurity. Also an enema cleans out the area making the lube act better with the insides for better results overall. I realize an enema is probably even harder for most people to think of versus anal sex, personally I think most people's hangup's are very trivial, so this area may not help you in the beginning.
As you progress you will hopefully learn how to hit the right areas. Try fucking her in the ass with two fingers in her pussy and feel yourself moving back and forth through her thin wall separating the two. Rub her clitoris while you barely give her any of your length, only slightly vibrating in and out, then when she can barely take it fuck her hard and deep for a quick and powerful orgasm. Also keep in mind you should remove yourself from her ass promptly after she comes as her ability to take pain in the place of pleasure will have vanished. One last note: ask her how she feels about you coming inside her before you have sex, this way its decided before hand. My ex claimed it burned if I came in her, so some women are either sensitive to it or don't like the feeling of it coming out later on the toilet.
Well I think I wrote plenty, but I can ask any more if ya want.
Make sure she is horny and worked up. Give her a sensual back massage to start, lots of foreplay, get her so worked up she'd let you fuck her anywhere so long as you finish her off.
Go down on her while your easing a couple of fingers in her ass. I've found most women really enjoy it if you can lick her clitoris while moving a thumb in and out of her pussy and ass at the same time. This is easiest if you sit down on the couch and have her squat over you while she's facing you, well at least it worked for the girl I was with.
When you first start attempting to snake yourself into her ass go very slow with slight in and out movement so as to not stay in one spot too long. Only get your head in a little bit to let her feel herself expand and then when you sense she is feeling pain remove yourself for a few minutes. The anal sphincter always needs a chance to regroup at least once. You may have to try this several times until she loosens up.
No matter what the most important thing is that she trusts you. Never break this or you'll never get another shot at it. If she says stop, then stop. Many women can rightfully be scared by anal sex and they need to feel they can trust you if they need to.
She will enjoy it more when she learns to relax and actually open herself up. The ass muscles are strong and hence can be very loose or tight enough to squeeze you right out. The more she does it the better it will get and eventually it will be like second nature. In the end it will be up to her as to whether or not she wants to like it, because trust me there is no way for any human to not like it, it's all a matter of whether or not you can handle the thought of it.
On a more personal note most people are very self conscious about fecal matter being distributed during such an intimate and personal exchange. An enema issued before lovemaking will alleviate this concern and subsequent insecurity. Also an enema cleans out the area making the lube act better with the insides for better results overall. I realize an enema is probably even harder for most people to think of versus anal sex, personally I think most people's hangup's are very trivial, so this area may not help you in the beginning.
As you progress you will hopefully learn how to hit the right areas. Try fucking her in the ass with two fingers in her pussy and feel yourself moving back and forth through her thin wall separating the two. Rub her clitoris while you barely give her any of your length, only slightly vibrating in and out, then when she can barely take it fuck her hard and deep for a quick and powerful orgasm. Also keep in mind you should remove yourself from her ass promptly after she comes as her ability to take pain in the place of pleasure will have vanished. One last note: ask her how she feels about you coming inside her before you have sex, this way its decided before hand. My ex claimed it burned if I came in her, so some women are either sensitive to it or don't like the feeling of it coming out later on the toilet.
Well I think I wrote plenty, but I can ask any more if ya want.
Nomadic Lady
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If only more people were aware of the pleasure of just sitting in a nice warm bath with the one you love, a bottle of beer, or even a hot tea, and a good game of Scrabble.
Do you get strange looks when you ask someone if they would like to do this?
The response I usually get when I ask if they would like to sit in the bath and have a game of Backgammon or whatever is, "maybe later". There was only one man that enjoyed this.
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Nomadic Lady said:
There's absolutely nothing bizarre about this scenario! I find it warm and fun. To each their own if it doesn't do anything for you, but I found Nomadic Lady's response here very genuine & heartfelt! Besides losing some backgammon tiles in the drink could be fun!
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funny...
Siitng here thinking about it... There's not much my girlfriend can do sexually that DOESN'T turn me on
As for the anal sex thing, my gf has her best ogasms from anal sex.
PowrDragn
Siitng here thinking about it... There's not much my girlfriend can do sexually that DOESN'T turn me on
As for the anal sex thing, my gf has her best ogasms from anal sex.
PowrDragn
SweetInnocence
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What turns me on..
*The smell of leather
*Sweet cologne and soft skin
*watchin a man 'play'
*Oh and playing rough when the time is right
*The smell of leather
*Sweet cologne and soft skin
*watchin a man 'play'
*Oh and playing rough when the time is right
thedirtypoet
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Pervy Me
Things that turn me on.... lots of things here's some of the bigger turn ons...
Watersports/Golden Showers
Light bondage esp. tying a woman down and fucking her, teasing with vib or beer bottle etc
Sex in places you can get caught (ie: I fingered my ex by side of road, corner of car park etc)
My number one turn on is anything with my ex gf who I split up with recently... she's sexiest woman I have ever known.
Things that turn me on.... lots of things here's some of the bigger turn ons...
Watersports/Golden Showers Light bondage esp. tying a woman down and fucking her, teasing with vib or beer bottle etc Sex in places you can get caught (ie: I fingered my ex by side of road, corner of car park etc)My number one turn on is anything with my ex gf who I split up with recently... she's sexiest woman I have ever known.
