What to wear?

[Noor]

I have been thinking about what one wears when meeting someone from online who is definitely a friend but may have lover potential. This person is not from the lit community and our friendship is not cyber or sex based. I have been trying to think of something sensual but not blantant. I have no idea what will happen and I wouldn't want to lose the friend I have by freaking them out.
We will be meeting in a place that has a heavy nightlife so wearing stockings, heels, and low cut blouse would just be one of the crowd, besides that wouldn't be me.

Any ideas?

 

[silverwhisper]

noor:

have you exchanged pictures? if your friend has seen pics, perhaps trying to reproduce one of those outfits might not be a bad idea. if not, then go w/ whatever makes you comfortable. if the friend is interested romantically or sexually, hopefully it isn't just your looks that interest your friend. :>

ed

 

[Cathleen]

Why not wear what you consider 'you'? Something comfortable that is appropriate for the location. If you're the 'twin set' kind of lady, go with that, or if you're a dress kind of lady, go with that.

Since you are on the fence about expectations go as you - that is how your friendship began. Have a great time.

 

[fallon2]

Casual and

comfortable are the 2 key words. Being yourself and being honest is ALWAYS helpful. Good Luck!

 

[SweetErika]

I agree with everyone else...go with something you're comfortable and feel confident in...maybe something you feel highlights a couple of your best features. All in all, I don't think it matters one bit because you'll both likely be too excited about being together to notice how the other is dressed. Have fun!

 

[Brinnie]

Dress 2 Kill!

 

[Dstorage]

Why not just dress like you? That way you are not trying to be someone else, which is bound to cause problems if this turns into a more serious relationship, you can't be someone else all of the time.

 

[Eilan]

I can relate. My husband and I met online, and though we had exchanged pics, out first RL meeting took place at my job, because it was a pretty good halfway point. It wasn't a "real" date--just a brief meeting because I had to give a final exam. I was more than a little nervous, so I took some extra care with my hair and makeup, but I was dressed for work, which for me was a slight notch above Casual Friday.

Do you have a particular outfit that you always feel confident and sexy in?

 

[thegreenfairy]

Black pants. You can *never* go wrong with black pants.

 

[Exciteher]

The French anf Italian women have a way of dressing that is both a bit understated and sexy. Maybe wear something that channels him to your eyes? Don't think you want to be peeling his eyeballs off your breasts all night. If you wear something that you feel both sexy and comfortable in... AND will make him comfortable too... is the best I think. For me, in that situation, something that is a tad on the casual side, and classy..with a bit of the "girl next door" sexy thing in it.

 

[Brinnie]

I can relate. My husband and I met online, and...

wow. I have never heard of that b4. Congrats!

 

[sweetgirl666]

Ah, I had that dilema a few times. Last time I met someone I met online it was a just friend thing. We both had agreed that sex is out of the question (well, he actually told me its against his principles) and I thought I dressed smartly..black pants, just a comfy sweater that wasnt really accentuating anything, heck, I did not even wear contacts or real make up!!
Anyway... I headed back to my room and found an IM from him that he would have liked to do things you shouldnt do in public (we met on the last day I was in town for breakfast in my restaurant as he worked close to where I stayed).
Anyway, which also brings up the point of mis-communication, cause I really really would have liked more than coffee with that guy. Talk before what you two expect or at least try to give clear signals.

So, I guess if you dont want sex, wear an overall and dont wash your hair for a few days, which is what I will do next time.

For anything else, just be comfortable. If you feel comfortable in your clothes you will move as if you do, and guys can see that. And go for the black pants. They are always a sure bet.

 

[Scorch_30]

Maybe I have a simplistic view.

First I totally concur with the be comfortable and be you. A woman's sensuality can show through whatever she wears. And I have to tell you that I am a big lover of women in jeans.

Keep in mind that the most important sex organ is the mind....tease his mind.

 

[Noor]

Thanks guys

Sorry I haven't responded yet, I have been fairly ill. I will start today, hopefully.

 

[Noor]

Thank you! Lots of great ideas.

No pictures exchanged, I have seen his and he looks suitable twisted to me. Certainly is interesting to talk with on the phone, sounds like he would be fun to sleep with. We have talked about it a bit, and it will be one of those we will see what happens, although I am going into it of two minds. I always wash my hair before meeting people so that would be okay. I used to wear overalls a lot when I was young, it never stopped any guys, except they couldn't seem to figure out how to undo the buckles

I always dress as me so that isn't a problem. The problem is I know I can influence people by what I wear, nothing obviously sexual just cut and color. I just have to decide whether to do it or not.
Years ago I used to wear this taupe suit, close in color to my hair with a bluish-green blouse until one of my co workers asked me to stop wearing that blouse. He said "when I see you wearing that I just want to fuck you" he said it felt like he could get lost in my eyes.
I have also noticed that when I wear the color of my inner lower lip, a sort of burgundy, guys watch my mouth (and imagine who knows what )

I am thinking of taking a vneck princess seamed long dress with 3/4 sleeves maybe, vneck a fitted tunic with slits that I can wear over pants, fitted jeans, a couple pairs of sandals. Colors-blue, green, and burgundy. I have brown, burgundy and green sandals, probably just take the brown and green ones. I can take some scarves, they are light and can be good for many purposes so I can dress up or down. I will take a few fitted tshirts in my colors, and some 4 ply silk navy pants, that is as close as I get to black, I have very fair skin and am low contrast.
I have a silver and brass necklace and also a garnet one which both set off my fair skin nicely and work well with vnecks.

I don't know what outcome I want, or even if I wish to entertain one at this point beyond what we are, my emotional bank account is greatly overdrawn at the moment, so I am not sure I want to let another person beyond a certain point in my life anymore. I will pack and prepare just in case, I don't wear makeup, but I will take a shower and wash my hair, maybe wear perfume. I will go prepared for whatever extreme may happen, because who knows, maybe everything will settle with my other stuff, and be okay, so then I can throw myself unrestrained into whatever might happen. I will also take condoms, just in case too.

Oh I need some sort of nightwear, all I have are large holey tshirts which are a bit obscene to be staying at someone's house in and also I associate them with my overdrawn account. I was thinking of making a long t-shirt for sleeping, and maybe a semi sheer batiste cotton gown that ties closed up the front.

If anyone has suggestion, please let me know.

Thanks

 

[bush59]

By the tone of your long reply...............
I expect before too long you will be Fucking the life out of the chap.
You seem to know exactly what you are after...and that is plenty of hot hot deep and full probing of the physical kind...no a smidging of mental connection....pure sex.





Go easy with him.
Bruv

 

[Noor]

By the tone of your long reply...............
I expect before too long you will be Fucking the life out of the chap.
You seem to know exactly what you are after...and that is plenty of hot hot deep and full probing of the physical kind...no a smidging of mental connection....pure sex.

Go easy with him.
Bruv

Well, you may be right. It would be tempting to fuck my brains out, as a former co-worker used to like to say, but maybe not so responsible. Oh the mental connection is definitely there, he is a good man and a good friend, not sure about the physical. I will be with a girlfriend and have other things planned to do so either way I will be fine.
I just hope my other stuff gets better soon, so at least I can go with an open mind.

 

[Succulent-one]

Go for a little mix of sex and class. I basic black dress, not too clingy but with a little hug to it, and not too short. Leave him guessing a little what is underneath that. Then pearls, add that touch of class. Nice pumps no hooker spike heels. No heavy perfume. Just a slight touch behind the ears, so when he gives you a welcome hug he gets a litght wiff, leaving him wanting just a little more.. Just knowing you look fastastic will put you at ease and you will have a great time.

 

[Noor]

Go for a little mix of sex and class. I basic black dress, not too clingy but with a little hug to it, and not too short. Leave him guessing a little what is underneath that. Then pearls, add that touch of class. Nice pumps no hooker spike heels. No heavy perfume. Just a slight touch behind the ears, so when he gives you a welcome hug he gets a litght wiff, leaving him wanting just a little more.. Just knowing you look fastastic will put you at ease and you will have a great time.

Welcome hug???? That never occurred to me, yikes, I will have to prepare, thanks. I am not used to being touched by non-intimates, esp men.
I will bring my favorite perfume, since they don't seem to sell it anywhere in there. Pearls I have, maybe garnets would look better, I will take both. No black dress, but somelike it, more Noorish

Thanks

 

[Noor]

what I wore and what happened

Okay, I have been taking trips all month, meeting new people from online (even from lit!!!) Everyone has been as good as or better than I hoped.

I wore a fitted t-shirt with 3/4 length sleeve in a green/blue pattern, with a dark green straight skirt with a flounce at the bottom, and sandals. I was told I looked quite nice.

I really liked and felt very comfortable with one of the guys I met, not the one I had considered before. Unfortunately one who is much more conservative on the issue of what stage of a relationship one has sex, how do I get so lucky? First my favorite cyber guy gets too attached and goes moa, now this!

I have another trip next thurs meeting with a rl old friend, but at least I will be well prepared clothing wise.
Thanks everyone!!!

 

[PearlNecklace]

Im glad things worked out for you!