What to do....

[Kitte]

Ok in need of advice... went to the wake of my friend today... traumatic as it was something occured that has me in quite the quandry

I went to the wake with some dear family friends one of whom has been like a mother to me my whole life. Her husband who I have known since I was just a lil one and I were talking... just random how are you stuff... then he comes out with " I have always liked you best out of your whole family, you are the nicest, the prettiest, the sexiest." I kind of let that slide even though the way he said it gave me that yucky feeling in the pit of my stomache.

then he goes on to tell me, how well I have grown up and that I understand his problems etc. all the while he is leaning in closer and closer to me...
While talking about step parenting ( i was trying to change the subject) I made an offhanded comment about running away from home and he says "thats a great idea let me know you and I can run off to some desert Island together, and again it wasnt so much the words as the intonation in them...

I tried again to let it slide by changing the subject to computers. And from that he says, Oh you should give me your email I can email you. I think Harmless enough... I tell him I have no business cards but that I am going back to the house after the wake and I will leave one there... he gets this panicked look on his face and says he rather no one know he is emailing me. So I gave him my addy quick... not wanting to say "your freaking me out no!"

So here is my question... was he REALLY hitting on me or am I just over reacting... my thought is to wait and see how he emails me the tone of them etc.. but Im REALLY CREEPED OUT!

Any thoughts???

 

[Ice Cold]

Sounds like he was perving on you... I mean maybe one comment is innocent... but pushing the issue... especially at a wake? There is something definately wrong with that. Comments like that aren't something you should just shrug off.

 

[Allexus_TN]

Dearest Soul Sister,
You know to trust that ache in the pit of your tummy. Always. Its called instinct. When the email comes, block the address. Period. Go with your gut!!!!!!!!!

 

[CarolineOh]

I cater wakes all the time, and I see how people get at them sometimes. It's such an emotional time that all kinds of things come to the surface. But the fact is, the feelings he expressed were revelaed, not created, by the situation. It sure sounds like he was hitting on you to me.

 

[InnocentAngel81]

he sounds just a tad bit obsessed, please be careful.

 

[Sillyman]

He wants to pork you. Preferably while wearing your panties while you scream "No Daddy Don't!". Avoid him.

 

[Shaq]

Vote=

He was hitting on you.

No guy is that persistent unless he's trying to get at you. And chica I gotta be honest. Unless he's a total perv or he's crazy guys aren't usually that persistent unless they think you WANT them to try to get at you.


Question:If he freaked you out so much why did you give him your email address? I'm not saying you invited his advances...I'm just sayin if you are as offended as you claim you probably would have done a better job of deflecting them....

 

[StrawberryPez]

He wants to pork you. Preferably while wearing your panties while you scream "No Daddy Don't!". Avoid him.

OMG.....ROTFL...that's just wrong....

 

[Kitte]

Re: Vote=

I'm just sayin if you are as offended as you claim you probably would have done a better job of deflecting them....

Honestly I was in shock, I was at the wake of a friend who was murdered less then a week ago. I wasnt sure If I was just being over senstative. I wasnt in my best frame of mind. He is a close family friend as I mentioned and someone I have looked all my life to as one of my elders. It seemed almost impossible to me that he intended it as it sounded. Til I had a long drive home and had time to think about it.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Do NOT just avoid him. Tell him "NO", then avoid him.

 

[Liontamr]

Stay away.. From the sounds of it this man has very wrong intentions and even knows it himself..

Maybe he's going through some tough times himself and needs to sort shit out.. But in the meantime it's best to give him PLENTY of space.

Just my two bits..

 

[Sillyman]

Yes, in addition to my previous post, do tell him quite firmly you are not intrested, preferably by mail or e-mail if there is a chance he may put you on the spot.

 

[stargazer]

It sounds like he was hitting on you. Stay as far away from him as possible. I'd go further and tell one of your family; someone that you can trust. So, if for some reason, you get pressured to spend any time around him at a family gathering, you have someone there to watch out for you and stand beside you. There's something wrong with anyone that would hit on someone at a wake.

 

[Kitte]

He wants to pork you. Preferably while wearing your panties while you scream "No Daddy Don't!". Avoid him.

Damn, if he was only 30 years younger and HOT that might work!
Ok well maybe not that exactly... but still... do I get a spankin

is trying to find humor in a yucky situation