What To Do

[Golden Eyes]

What To Do

When you fall in love with someone here, and you are married. HOw do you handle it? How do you keep your heart from breaking in two? Anyone, give some input here. Have you ever fallen for someone here, and how did you deal with it?

Thank You

 

[ub6ibfine]

no, i dont do online relationships but good luck...

 

[n-erasmus]

Open your mind as well as your heart ...

Who told you you could only "love" one man? At a time. Or that "love" is always the same? Or that it does not change?

I think of myself as living in an emotional and hormonal stew, bubbling and boiling (if I am fortunate). Personally I accept what comes my way, preferably good stuff, good people, good women ( *REALLY* good is nice! ).

It sounds like you are trying an "either / or" sort of decision. If you don't *HAVE* to make such a decision, do not. Good luck!

 

[Golden Eyes]

UB

I dont either sweety, This is the first time, and it hurts like hell. but th anks anyway

 

[Korelon]

Golden eyes....I must admit that I feel your pain very much so...for I am going through the same thing myself and have been for the better part of 3 years now. She and I met on here and hit it off quite quickly when my marriage was in a rut and she just happened to be the woman I could only dream of having..we talked every day sometimes for 10-12 hours at a time..we had everything in commom she was perfect..and then there was my wife...the bearer of my child she was and is a wonderful woman and I love her dearly..but there is so many things she is lacking that the other makes up for....and so I find myself living each day by the moment...being with both of them...one of them only on here and I deal with it as it is...and yes I have become more cynical and pissy as the days go by wondering why my life has taken such a rotten turn and why it is I cannot find a way to straighten things out.....good luck to you in this..its not easy living with it as you can plainly see....maybe one day I can find out myself what I should trully do and do it

 

[rosie-posie]

What To Do

When you fall in love with someone here, and you are married. HOw do you handle it? How do you keep your heart from breaking in two? Anyone, give some input here. Have you ever fallen for someone here, and how did you deal with it?

Thank You

Its a very painful experience and not something I would like to repeat.

I met a guy in the chat room here, we hit off straight away and despite my gut feeling not to get involved we started a email/phone/chat relationship. Both of us are married and were happy with our respective partners. As time went on we spent more and more time online together, then suddenly he began to back off, I could see the signs but stupidly chose to ignore them until I got a message saying that he needed a break. So I left it and waited for him to contact me. That week was horrible I dont know how many times I checked my inbox, I was a horrible person at home and it wasnt until my husband begged me to tell him what was wrong with me that I came to my senses and tried to put him out mind.

About a week later, he emailed me, said he had missed me , I was so happy, all the tears and feelings of rejection were forgotten the minute I saw his name in my in box. So we continued until last week, when suddenly only hours after sending a very loving email, he writes to say he wants to take a break again. This time when I read it, although I felt hurt I am determined not to let the pain intrude into my home life. I am going to have to find the strength soon to write back and tell him I dont want him to contact me again.

In future anything I do online is going to be for fun only.

I know this really hasnt answered your question but please if you think its going to end in tears end it now the longer it goes on the harder it gets.

Good luck

Rosie x

 

[mayi]

dear GE,

it is easy to fall in-love here, but it is hard to keep it here, keep it out of real life. what you see here is the perfect person, the person who is everything the one at home is not. you read the words, but are you seeing the truth. i fell 'in-love' with someone on here and let it go into r/l. how did it end, very bad, he was not the person i thought and i almost lost my kids......think long and hard before you go in to deep......it is a long road bad and not a pretty one if it does not work. i amn ot saying to could not work, look at omaha and jenny, but those are few and far between. love is more then nice words and fantasy, it is looking at the person after a fight, when they are sick, when you have to pick up the dirty laundry everyday.......there is no 'perfect' person, just some are better then others........i wish you the best and even more.........i hope your dreams come true.


(crystal_blue1 in chat)

 

[Golden Eyes]

Rosie and Mayi

Thank you so much for your reply. It means so much to me, your input and your caring words. Yes, It has interferred in my r/l a bit. But as I have said, I do love my husband, family, kids. It is hard here on chat, when you do fall for someone. Yes, it does sound as though the people you meet here are perfect, sweet. I know that we will never meet in r/l we both have our real lives. But we give each other, what we aremissing at home, for the moment. We fill the lonliness. He will never leave his spouse and I will never leavemine. Thank you again for your thoughts, and for caring

GE

 

[AzBt101]

Online..

Golden Eyes, I've been there.. I knew her online for a year and a half, we talked on the phone daily and emailed several times a day for 3 months solidly. I thought I loved her.. she filled my life with sun shine like noone else ever has. We met last weekend, and to make a long story short, she just wasnt the person that she had made herself out to be (yes we exchanges pics). You may think you know this man, but you really only know what he's chosen to show you. Yes, I know that we all hide things from each other, but in person you can read people, see their expressions, feel their reactions. You just can't do this online. Everyone is perfect online.. I dont think you can truly love someone until you know them a whole lot better than you can get to know someone online. I know it hurts.. but I think you're in love with a fantasy, not a person.

/hugs
A