What to do...

[Nexxus]

Recently I met someone over the phone. We e-mailed back and forth and I was immediately enthralled with her. I moved too fast and made a mess of the situation. We live very far apart from one another and I made it clear that her desires would drive the friendship. I expect it would consist of primarily e-mails, and a small amount of phone calls. Since I got so deep and "thought provoking" I believe I have scared away one of the sweetest most intriguing people I have ever met, and I am sullen over the fact that she may remain distant.
How do I back pedal and try all over again to move at a slower pace and get her to believe I am not a nutcase who is obsessive or has some major plan in my head that I am following? She's very fair and objective (i think) and extremely intelligent. How does one go back and start all over?

Nexxus

 

[Golden]

by being as straight with her as you have been with us; good luck; if she is as sweet as you believe, she'll forgive and agree to the suggestion you go back to near the beginning of the second movement and take it from the top, where the cellos come in ...

 

[Nexxus]

Thanks Golden. You Live up to your name. I feel the confidence returning and I believe she is that sweet. You'll hear the happiness if she responds.

Nexxus

 

[Vixen]

Oh, Nexxus, I think we've all done that at least once. I would suggest that you block/copy your posting here and email it to her. Golden's right, if she's as nice as you think, an honest apology and request to start over could just do the trick. Good luck.

 

[Hung_Like_Horsey]

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[Lasher]

Horsey's right, man. Once you pull off a bonehead play like that, there's no way to unfuck yourself. The more time you spend saying, "Hey, that's not really me, I'm not like that", the more you end up sounding like you are like that.

All you can really do is move on. The only chance in hell that you have of making it work is to shut up and see if she'll come looking for you.

 

[Nexxus]

Wow, were have you people been hiding?! I could've used you all before I made an ass of myself. And for the record I did e-mail a short coherent(long and babbling screams emotional problems)apology.
Why is it the harder we try, the deeper we dig? Lashers right, its so difficult to "unfuck yourself." I was going along fine enjoying the newness of the relationship and BOOM, I became this "what is the real reason we met, don't you dig the deeper plane, how infinite is the cosmos" talking 12th grader (and 12th gradr was mumble years ago mind you!). Who knows, I sure don't. But everyone on this general board is great, I could cruise the topics and responses forever (literally...its like the encyclopedia Britannica!). Be well all I promise to tell you if she e-mails me back.

Oh and a sidebar to Horsey. Yes you are right, those things are generally a sign of the persons true personality. But in this instance it was the excitement of meeting someone you had never thought about ever being lucky enough to meet and tripping over yourself to prove your value to them. Slow and steady wins the race and I was just in such a rush to become "old friends."
But thank you for your exceptional insight.

Nexxus