What the hell is wrong with me?

[ericfromstate]

Hey out there... I guess I need to rant here, and also ask for some help. I'm such a typical guy, and it pisses me off. I try to be anything but "that guy" that you tell people about. I fall fast for girls, then end up hurting them somehow. I don't know how to explain all this. I just met a girl in Toronto last weekend (I'm from the detroit area... 5 hours away) and now she has invited me to come up for thursday night... some formal thing that she wants me to attend with her. But the thing is... I know if I go, that a) I will get laid and b) I won't be able to sleep for 35+ hours, since I can't miss work, and would have to drive home at 3:00 in the morning to make back to detoit. And, on top of it all... I don't think I want to get laid. I had fun with her, and don't want sex yet, and I don't want to be "that guy"... but somehow, in the back of my mind, I know thats why I want to go. But, is it just pointless? She lives so far, and after this, I know that I won't see her until August at the earliest... man, this just sucks. I think its jsut a fling, but we all need stories for when we get older I guess?? (I'm 20 by the way) HELP ME PLEASE!

 

[Silverluna]

hi...umm here's my thoughts....
Be honest with her...if you don't want sex.....or whatever....be sure to make that clear.....even if its just a fling....feelings can get hurt....

Also, have you told all this to her....(minus the laid bit....if you wish) but i think she might want to know what's on your mind...and what you will have to do to get there.....



Hope I helped....*smile*
~Luna~

 

[PumpkinSmasher]

Talking to her takes the guess work out of guessing.

 

[Wiggles]

It seems to me that you're spreading yourself a bit thin here.

You might want to hold yourself back, and try to wait for a good relationship. It might make you feel better about yourself.

Only go up to Toronto if it's something you want to do, or if you've already made an obligation to her. It would be really hard to make a relationship work long distance, even if it is for only two months. And it sounds like you're really not sure of what you want.

And that's ok, you're young. You've got awhile to figure yourself out.

GL!