What sneaky things does your partner do to keep you "offline"?

[*bratcat*]

 

[brokenbrainwave]

she doesnt do a thing to keep me offline..hell she even watches me post here at times

hard to hide a secret when she knows I am harmless, grrrr

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[brokenbrainwave]

harmless, eh? <striking the brokenbrainwave off my to do list>

DOH!!!!!

 

[plasticman33]

Ha, she doesn't even know where the off button is! Nope she wouldn't bother or even be interested.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Nothing. I respect him and his opinions enough to not force him to think that he has to be sneaky to make me pay attention to him.

My marriage is more important than my computer time. If he has a problem with my online behavior--and he's more than welcome to see what I do online--then he comes and discusses it with me.

I may bellow about being told that I'm on the computer too much, but I usually get over it enough to understand that my family is probably more important than my writing. Besides, notebooks go fishing, too.

It helps that my writing--and hence computer time--brings in extra cash so it's legitimately considered work.

If you can't communicate in a marriage to the extent that one spouse or the other is doing these to make you change your ways, then you've got a serious marital problem.

Most of us claim that we're addicted to Lit. I use it to keep from staring blankly at the wall and to make myself write. You can tell from my behavior that I'm not really addicted. I can and do leave the site alone for extended periods unforced by circumstances. Some of us actually are.

If your online habits are disrupting your marriage, that's one sure sign of addiction.

Have you considered that he might be right about your online habits?

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[plasticman33]

KM's right, this is not real life after all, it's great for a distraction on a boring day, but that's about the extent of it! That's why I'm seldom on at night or on the weekends!

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[KillerMuffin]

You don't want to hear it, don't ask it. People can and do pass judgement on you based on what you post. You bring up your marital problems, people are going to respect you by taking you seriously.

I'm not going to lie to you or give you sympathy when you post things like that. It's just like the classic example of a wife pouring her alcoholic husband's booze down the drain. If you aren't comfortable with the image, that's your problem. You brought it up.

It may be amusing to you, but what you just posted isn't the least bit amusing. It's sad.

 

[Beebeeblue]

Silly man, when will he realize that I am much smarter than him?

Brat...to me it seems the smart one is him. He is the one who is trying to get your attention. Try something tonight when you see him. TALK TO HIM. Sounds to me like if you want this marriage to work, its the only way.

 

[sunstruck]

I'm online all day at work (for work), and when I'm on at night (which I have been a lot lately) it's usually because my husband is traveling and it's creepy being in a big ass house in the middle of the woods by yourself (even though I have a top of the line alarm system and three large protective dogs - for any freaks out there to take note of).

If I'm online and he asks me to get off I'm off. Unless I'm writing. Not because he told me to, but because I don't ever want him to feel like I'd rather be posting than spending time with him because I wouldn't.

I'm not judging anyone's marriage, but if your spouse is going to such extremems to keep you offline, you might want to find out why. Maybe he misses you.

 

[MissTaken]

Whether it be *bratcat* or any other of a number of posters here, if you have problems in your marital life, getting off the pc and taking care of the homelife would be a good first step.

Whether it means working it out, separating, or whatever in between....the answers are not here.

Best wishes to everyone.
My words are laden with concern and respect.

 

[plasticman33]

Whether it be *bratcat* or any other of a number of posters here, if you have problems in your marital life, getting off the pc and taking care of the homelife would be a good first step.

Whether it means working it out, separating, or whatever in between....the answers are not here.

Best wishes to everyone.
My words are laden with concern and respect.

Good points Miss T. It makes me wonder, do you think some people find this more than a simple diversion? They get to a point where they can not distinguish the fine line between reality and imagination.

 

[MissTaken]

Good points Miss T. It makes me wonder, do you think some people find this more than a simple diversion? They get to a point where they can not distinguish the fine line between reality and imagination.

Married or single that happens.

And for some it simply is more than a diversion. To say otherwise is to discount the quality of the friendships we have made at lit.

For some it is an escape. I have used lit to escape. Guess what? Even though it wasn't marital issues I was escaping from, my problems didnt' go away.

Sometimes, the reality check is necessary just to gain perspective and move forward. The internet throws us into a sort of holding pattern in terms of real life progression is concerned, if we aren't careful.

Hmmm again...I am not judging or meaning to hurt anyone. Just throwing out some thoughts.

 

[perks]

I made a decision awhile ago not to be online if the man is awake and home.

Even if we're just sitting on the couch watching tv together it's enough.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I made a decision awhile ago not to be online if the man is awake and home.

Even if we're just sitting on the couch watching tv together it's enough.

Ditto darlin.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

He says he's ready for sex!! That works EVERY time...lol

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Devilish1]

My ex-husband thought he was smart... Wrong!

My ex-husband disconnected the internet service one day after i got home from work and after a hour of trying to figure out what was wrong with the computer he told me what he did.
So i went out the next day and got the internet turned back on and this time in my name.

Now this was when i was new on the computer and i will admit i was VERY addicted to the internet.


I use to stay on the computer 5-8 hours a DAY and a few hours at night.
Now i usually get online a couple of hours during the week right before i go to bed. I can even go serveral days withut getting online.
And to think i did this without going to rehab for my addiction.....LMAO

But i have to agree with you on one thing, if your home alone and there is nothing else to do, i dont see any reason why you coldnt be on the computer. As long as the children( if u have any) arent being ignored and hubby is able to get in touch with you if he needs you( phone, pager..etc).

But if i was you, if hes home spend time with him, talk, go out, make dinner together. When he goes to work the computer will still be there.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[lickerish]

I don't have to sneak.. my lover is just as much of a perv as I am.

 

[penguindance]

 

[penguindance]