What should I do?

[krazychick]

I am a MWF and have never thought of myself as being bi-sexual, but have recently been having bi fantasies and have been turned on by a girl that I work with. Technically I am her boss. We go out and party about once every two or three weeks. There have been little things that have happened that makes me think she may be interested too. She has touched my tits on more than one occasion but I kinda brushed it off do to the fact that we were totally drunk. She is also married. She is a good friend and I dont wanna mess things up....but I am a very sexual person and very much into kinky things and into trying new things and I don't want to pass up a good chance to have my first bi experience if she could be into it too. Any thing you have to say I would love to hear.

Carly

 

[LipstickKitten]

Gawd, what I'd give to be in your situation. If it were me, next time she brushes your breasts, drunk or not, I'd say something like, "Oh, that felt good. I don't want to misinterpret what just happened but your touch felt wonderful. Did you intend that? If not, I'll pretend it didn't happen." Then see what happens.

Anyone else got any ideas? Good luck in your pursuit.

 

[krazychick]

Thanks Candy......

We are going out this Friday for her birthday which I am sure will be a fun time.........Maybe I will try that if it happens. Thanks for your advice. And since you seem to be the only one with any......if you think of anything else.....Let me know

Thanks again
Carly

 

[LipstickKitten]

The only thing I can think of would be to be nonchalant about the whole thing. Act as if it's a surprise so if she's not into it, she won't think you're after her body. Don't be too intense about it. My guess is you'll be giving her a great birthday present.

 

[Thor69]

My thoughts?

You might also consider, sometime when you are just talking about stuff in general, bring up the subject of sex with men, then ease into a discussion about bi people and how that has you curious about what that is all about. Ask her some indirect questions to get her thoughts. She may be just curious or she may have some experiences but is afraid to openly approach you about it. Maybe a few drinks would loosen you both up, but I wouldn't suggest getting to drunk...to be a lasting thing, you'd want to remember it and also to look back at it as something you did with purpose and not in a stupper.

Once you've tried it, you may kick yourself for waiting so long...hey, take it from me, it IS the best of both worlds!

Let us know how it goes...Peace.

 

[krazychick]

Re: My thoughts?

You might also consider, sometime when you are just talking about stuff in general, bring up the subject of sex with men, then ease into a discussion about bi people and how that has you curious about what that is all about. Ask her some indirect questions to get her thoughts. She may be just curious or she may have some experiences but is afraid to openly approach you about it. Maybe a few drinks would loosen you both up, but I wouldn't suggest getting to drunk...to be a lasting thing, you'd want to remember it and also to look back at it as something you did with purpose and not in a stupper.

Once you've tried it, you may kick yourself for waiting so long...hey, take it from me, it IS the best of both worlds!

Let us know how it goes...Peace.

Thanks Thor.....we have talked a little about this kind of stuff. Her brother is a homosexual. She never says anything bad about him, only positive things. Shad said once before she would have a sexual experience with a woman......but not someone she knew well. She made some comment about she would do it if she never had to see the person again. So .....lol not a good thing right? But then again you never know. Thanks again for your comments. I agree on the not being drunk part. If it ever happens I want to remember every minute. And I am looking forward to having the best of both worlds.

Thanks again

Carly

 

[LipstickKitten]

Re: Re: My thoughts?

Thanks Thor.....we have talked a little about this kind of stuff. Her brother is a homosexual. She never says anything bad about him, only positive things. Shad said once before she would have a sexual experience with a woman......but not someone she knew well. She made some comment about she would do it if she never had to see the person again. So .....lol not a good thing right? But then again you never know. Thanks again for your comments. I agree on the not being drunk part. If it ever happens I want to remember every minute. And I am looking forward to having the best of both worlds.

Thanks again

Carly

Please let us know what happens Friday! I'm dieing for it to go well for you. <keeping fingers crossed>

 

[Thor69]

But hey...

...even if this doesn't work, take the positive approach and keep pursuing your fantasy...there seems to be a lot of sexy bi ladies out there and the personal ads are filled with people looking. Try checking out digitalcity.com...free ads all over the country. Don't stop learning and having fun....Peace.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

Good Luck....

double post!

 

[StondTmplPilot]

Good Luck....

I hope it works out for you, but I just want to caution you also. You stated in the original post that you are her boss. This complicates matters because if you do make an advance on her, you will leave yourself, and your employer, open to a sexual harrassmanet suit. Please, I realize you want to explore your fantasies, but is it worth THAT high a price? I have nothing at all against your fantasy, just want you to consider ALL of the ramifications before pursuing THIS avenue. Again, if you do decide to go through with this, good luck
John (StP)

 

[LipstickKitten]

Re: Good Luck....

I hope it works out for you, but I just want to caution you also. You stated in the original post that you are her boss. This complicates matters because if you do make an advance on her, you will leave yourself, and your employer, open to a sexual harrassmanet suit. Please, I realize you want to explore your fantasies, but is it worth THAT high a price? I have nothing at all against your fantasy, just want you to consider ALL of the ramifications before pursuing THIS avenue. Again, if you do decide to go through with this, good luck
John (StP)

Very good advice. That's why I counseled an innocent approach.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

Re: Re: Good Luck....

Very good advice. That's why I counseled an innocent approach.

Thank you LK, and your counsel was also very good. I sure would hate to see anyone's life thrown into turmoil, just for pursuing what should be something wonderful, and exciting. It really is a shame, that in our supposedly advanced society, that one should have to worry that pursuing an intimate fantasy can cost them their job. Frankly, it sucks, but it is reality, so it does have to be taken into account when considering how to approach the subject in this situation.
John (StP)

 

[krazychick]

Re: Re: Re: Good Luck....

Thank you LK, and your counsel was also very good. I sure would hate to see anyone's life thrown into turmoil, just for pursuing what should be something wonderful, and exciting. It really is a shame, that in our supposedly advanced society, that one should have to worry that pursuing an intimate fantasy can cost them their job. Frankly, it sucks, but it is reality, so it does have to be taken into account when considering how to approach the subject in this situation.
John (StP)

Thanks for your advice.....in a normal situation I would say I totally agree with you on that.....But in my situation....She was my friend long before I was her boss and She has made the advances first. I would never approach her at work or even approach her first. I wouldnt risk my job nor my pride in doing something like that. Thanks!

Carly

 

[krazychick]

Re: But hey...

...even if this doesn't work, take the positive approach and keep pursuing your fantasy...there seems to be a lot of sexy bi ladies out there and the personal ads are filled with people looking. Try checking out digitalcity.com...free ads all over the country. Don't stop learning and having fun....Peace.

Thanks for the tip. Maybe if things dont work out with this girl I will look that up......then again, maybe I will look it up anyway

Thanks a bunch!

Carly

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Re: Re: Good Luck....

Very good advice. That's why I counseled an innocent approach.

If they weren't coworkers, I'd say your approch would be the best! But since they are, personally I'd have to agree with STP that there's too much at stake, not only being coworkers but her boss. If she (the coworker) changes her mind down the road, or (and I'm citing an extreme here) if it's a scam and she's doing it solely to be able to sue for harassment even if there are no monetary damages, one or both will wind up being fired (consensual or not).

Pardon the pun, but it's a sticky situation

Good lust -er- luck!

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Sorry, missed the part that she was a friend first.

I'll just watch in the corner.

I promise to clean up after myself ...lol

 

[LipstickKitten]

Sorry, missed the part that she was a friend first.

I'll just watch in the corner.

I promise to clean up after myself ...lol

No problem, Shameless. I tend to read the most recent as well and find myself filling in after I've posted. Happens when there's a lot of activity in a thread.

Luv your av!

:rose

 

[LipstickKitten]

Sorry, missed the part that she was a friend first.

I'll just watch in the corner.

I promise to clean up after myself ...lol

No problem, Shameless. I tend to read the most recent as well and find myself filling in after I've posted. Happens when there's a lot of activity in a thread.

Luv your av!

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

No problem, Shameless. I tend to read the most recent as well and find myself filling in after I've posted. Happens when there's a lot of activity in a thread.

Luv your av!

I won't even try and say what your AV does to me ...lol

Though I seem to recall a variant on the existing one, one that was a tad more revealing? I think you were cold, but I could be wrong ....lol

 

[krazychick]

Sorry, missed the part that she was a friend first.

I'll just watch in the corner.

I promise to clean up after myself ...lol

You dont every have to be sorry for giving me advice. I will take all I can get. And you are right I do have to be careful. She is a friend and I honestly feel in my heart she would never ever do anything to hurt me. I appreciate your advice.


Carly

 

[LipstickKitten]

I won't even try and say what your AV does to me ...lol

Though I seem to recall a variant on the existing one, one that was a tad more revealing? I think you were cold, but I could be wrong ....lol

Yes, you have a good memory. I had one that was more blatant and I decided to go with sensuality and eroticism instead. It more fits my persona. Still like it, though?

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Yes, you have a good memory. I had one that was more blatant and I decided to go with sensuality and eroticism instead. It more fits my persona. Still like it, though?

I opened with "WHAT YOUR AV DOES", present tense because this one is no less erotic! Yeah, I like. You might say it conveys a "warm fuzzy" feeling (not from the trim on the shirt ...lol)

 

[Coven911]

One NEVER knows...

You dont every have to be sorry for giving me advice. I will take all I can get. And you are right I do have to be careful. She is a friend and I honestly feel in my heart she would never ever do anything to hurt me. I appreciate your advice.


Carly

One must ALWAYS suspect that if things go sour in a relationship that there may be bad feelings. I hope that this NEVER occurs, as I tend to be the type that if you don't want me around, then so be it and I vanish. But others tend to get vindictive. Please be careful .

Coven911

 

[Guest]

Re: One NEVER knows...

One must ALWAYS suspect that if things go sour in a relationship that there may be bad feelings. I hope that this NEVER occurs, as I tend to be the type that if you don't want me around, then so be it and I vanish. But others tend to get vindictive. Please be careful .

Coven911

I always try to be careful. At least I think so. Thanks again

Carly

 

[Snork Maiden]

just a thought ...

Hey krazychick

If you were a guy, and you posted this thread it is not difficult to imagine the sorts of replies that you might recieve.

Personally, the situation is not well defined - You say that you are technically her boss, you either are or you aren't, technically makes it sound like you are looking for an excuse for not persuing this relationship. If you have any doubts then you should follow your gut instincts.

Regardless of the fact that you work together you also say that you are friends. Is that friends, really good friends, best girls? Body space is very personal, but don't confuse friendship with sexual desire. I would consider a woman touching my skin, the need to connect with the flash, a more sexual signal than touching me through clothing, unless it ofcourse was more than just a brief touch.

With all things considered, and with all the advice offered, it is really down to you to determine if there really is something more than affectionate friendship or if you are misreading the signals, you don't really mention what her personality is like. How does she act with other people in similar situations, does she go out of her way to be in your presence at work, for example does she approach you often on trivial work matters as an excuse just to converse with you or are the they justified.

If you need an excuse to to find out how things stand between you I would suggest a controlled intimate situation. Why not go to the local gym and work out together, have a swim. A good opportunity for each of you to see more than just your daily attire. Shower together, maybe get her to wash your back, wash hers see how she responds.

Hope it works out for you which ever way it goes.