What should I do?

[Sammyjo]

I have reason to believe that my sister (she is 15) is carrying on over the internet, and on the phone with a man who is quite obviously over the age of 18. He says he is a computer tech (does this mean he's had some college, or could he get into this without schooling?)...and his profile says he is 16...which I think is just a ploy to attract young women.

I am quite concerned about my sister because she is very impressionable. She has already planned a "road trip" to meet this guy. I am really concerned that he is going to do something to her. Should I say something to her? Should I contact the authorities? Obviously, talking to my parents is of no use, because my sister can do no wrong.

And no, I was not snooping...not really anyway...she made the grave error of logging on to my computer and talking to him that way...I have snippets of conversations...a lot of it is "hi, call me"...but some of it is quite serious...like the "homework" he assigned to her...ugh!! I'm about to vomit...please excuse me.

Any advice would be apprecitated.

 

[Adoratrice]

God....some men make me sick!!


As we all know ,15 year olds know everything and can't be convinced otherwise.......

How about looking up as many news stories as you can find about young girls being tricked in this way ...find the really scary ones , ones where the girl never made it home.......then send them all to her email...or print them off & mail them one at a time snail-mail...don't let her know it is you...maybe you can scare the beegejesus out of her or some sense into her if nothing else.


Good luck.......and may his balls rot off.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I feel for ya sweetie. Never know what kinda nasties lurk on the internet.

Have you tried talking to her? I mean a sit down honest communication without any advice, condescension, or patronizing on your part that would alienate her and make her defenseive about the relationship. After all, she is 16 and 16 year olds know everything. She may have some concerns of her own, or just need someone she can trust to talk to about this. If you can't get her to confide in you, at least get the details of this meeting, so that way you can either chaperone it or prevent it entirely.

A man who would deliberately say that he is young enough for a 16 year old and comes across as a dominant or "master" is someone you have legitimate concerns about. It's bad enough that he is after a 16 year old, no need to compound it with BDSM.

My question, is his email address server based or is it a local ISP address, one that hooks up to his Outlook? I know where you may be able to get trojans to hack him, but I have no idea how to use them. Barring that, you can call his ISP and let them know he is stalking a 16 year old on the internet, or the police in his area. The easiest way is to take the last part of his address and stick it in the address bar with http://www. in front of it.

 

[Sammyjo]

Ugh!! I just had a whole thing written out and it's just making me more upset. Thank you for your replies. I wish she would listen to me, but she won't...I don't know anything, right?

Ooops, I forgot, the email he has listed is a hotmail account...I also saw another e-mail listed in his messages to her...if anyone wants to help me out here, that would be great...I just don't want her to find out that I know, not yet anyway.

 

[Skibum]

Sammyjo, if this guy is over 18, and masquerading as a minor to pick up young girls he is committing a crime. Call the police. Some police daepartments have special internet crime units that can investigate things like this. If the "homework" he had her do is anything sexual he is guilty of a sexual assault on a minor. That is pretty serious.

 

[KillerMuffin]

If you can track down his locale, then you should notify the cops, like Skibum said. You can do it somewhat anonymously, as far as your sister is concerned.

 

[DarkAngel]

Sammyjo

Sammyjo, There are ways of tracking what you sister is typing to this guy and what this guy is typing to your sister.... and lots of ways of locating hi IP address...But it will depend on what there are using for a chat program or if they are using a message board. If you would like to know how just give a shout.... I will be around... and you don;t need a degree to be a tech.


If you would like to e-mial me Go through Cyan....

 

[R Nitelight]

SammyJo

I think you should raise as much of a stink as you can manage. Tell anyone who will listen. Your sister will hate you, but I think that is something that you can live with. Staying quiet and having something terrible happen is something that you can't.

 

[forgetunome]

What they all said....

I won't add anything except that you are getting good advice here!

 

[SimplySouthern]

SJ.

My contact info is listed. Let me know if I can be of help. I would be happy to email her and tell her all about the murder case my office just handled where a man met a woman on the internet and killed her.

I am at your disposal my Queen.

Also, you might enlist the help of the group called cyberangels. They try to disuade things such as this.