What makes you cheat.

[*Eve*]

Distressed, I must say in Eve's defense that I would strongly consider turing to another man in her situation as well. I feel that vows are sacred myself but if I were involved in a marriage for 19 years and all I wanted was my husband to tell me that I was beautiful or make love to me from time to time and he didn't, I think I would feel a like I was missing something as well. I'm not making excuses for her but I ceratinly understand where she's coming from. I've been fortunate to be in a committed relationship with a great guy for the past three years and I would feel a but hurt if he ever treated me so nonchalantly. I'm not saying that I would cheat, but it certainly make me think about it.

 

[Eve_of_destruction]

What I did certainly is not what I would recommend other men or women to do... I am not condoning extramarital affairs! But there comes a time when, if you make concerted efforts to try and change a situation and see no end results, that things "happen". And, from my last post, you can see that I hardly see my husband, much less have a chance to spend quality time with him and having long heart to heart talks with him.

Poor "FOR THE WOMEN", the unregistered guy who originally posted this question... he's probably thinking the very worse now! But it sounds as if he is genuinely concerned about his wife and her happiness... Just keep that concern, and spend TIME with her, and I'm sure that all will work out well in the long run.

EOD

 

[Guest]

eve of d - I think that it is understandable what you've done because of the lack of genuine feeling from your husband. but, what's sad is where a perfectly good relationship is messed up because of curiosity and temptation about how green the grass might be elsewhere. this is what happened in my case, and I kind of wish I'd been more content where I was. the media is always bombarding us with ideas about how much more exciting our life could be elsewhere - away from our partner. film stars & rock stars with endless lines of groupies, multiple adulterers on jerry springer. they all seem so glamorous that it's easy to forget how good what you have is.

rach - get out of here, you sarky tramp. this is a serious discussion.