What it is like to have an entire thread devoted to hating you...
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Cheyenne
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Oh no, I haven't been here all day again and this is the first post I read. I have that feeling of "I'm about to run into something bad that I don't want to read."
Jade, I haven't read any of whatever it is you are talking about. But I know you are a good person, so whatever it is, there must be a misunderstanding somewhere.
Jade, I haven't read any of whatever it is you are talking about. But I know you are a good person, so whatever it is, there must be a misunderstanding somewhere.
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Jade, I know this is your thread, and I hope you do not mind, but I am going to respond here.
OK, people, just in case you are wondering, it is I, that Jade is referring to as that person. Shy Kat, the one who stays the hell out of everything.
Jade, God, I don't hate you. I vented, that does not mean I hate someone. I don't know you anymore than you know me, so hate is a strong word to use. Being that we are strangers here, my words were quite disrespectful. I have apologized to you on my other thread, and I will apologize again. I had no idea you had lost a child and perhaps my wanting to brag abit about my childs talent hit you the wrong way. I cannot even imagine the loss you must feel. Again, I am so sorry. As you said, we are all intitled to our feelings and our opinions. I guess I just have to learn to handle the negative ones more.
Folks, Jade is not in the wrong here, I am sure my words cut very deeply. Hers were not hateful at all, but confusing to me. I just felt degraded, and foolish and mad. I am not looking for anyone to take sides, I am just hoping that something good comes of this...A lesson perhaps on both our parts. We should all be more aware of peoples feelings and think more before we post and reply to others messages. People can take things the wrong way, and I myself, did.
I hope you will forgive my harsh words Jade and not think of me as a horrible person. I know you are very well liked on this board, and I hope to hell, I have not lost the respect of others in venting at you. Now, I truly feel like shit, for I have hurt you and it's too late to turn back the clock. Hopefully, we can only move forward. Again, I am sorry Jade.
Hey Dreamer1, mind sharing your AOL nic, would love to say hi sometime...that is if you still want to talk to me??? I am Katerina Rose 1 if you want to give me a shout!
Thanks for listening. Kat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 08:33 AM]
OK, people, just in case you are wondering, it is I, that Jade is referring to as that person. Shy Kat, the one who stays the hell out of everything.
Jade, God, I don't hate you. I vented, that does not mean I hate someone. I don't know you anymore than you know me, so hate is a strong word to use. Being that we are strangers here, my words were quite disrespectful. I have apologized to you on my other thread, and I will apologize again. I had no idea you had lost a child and perhaps my wanting to brag abit about my childs talent hit you the wrong way. I cannot even imagine the loss you must feel. Again, I am so sorry. As you said, we are all intitled to our feelings and our opinions. I guess I just have to learn to handle the negative ones more.
Folks, Jade is not in the wrong here, I am sure my words cut very deeply. Hers were not hateful at all, but confusing to me. I just felt degraded, and foolish and mad. I am not looking for anyone to take sides, I am just hoping that something good comes of this...A lesson perhaps on both our parts. We should all be more aware of peoples feelings and think more before we post and reply to others messages. People can take things the wrong way, and I myself, did.
I hope you will forgive my harsh words Jade and not think of me as a horrible person. I know you are very well liked on this board, and I hope to hell, I have not lost the respect of others in venting at you. Now, I truly feel like shit, for I have hurt you and it's too late to turn back the clock. Hopefully, we can only move forward. Again, I am sorry Jade.
Hey Dreamer1, mind sharing your AOL nic, would love to say hi sometime...that is if you still want to talk to me??? I am Katerina Rose 1 if you want to give me a shout!
Thanks for listening. Kat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 08:33 AM]
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This is the pot calling the kettle black...
I am a sensitive person, sometimes overly so, which is why I feel I can say this. You two ladies reacted just a teensy bit overboard. I never saw Kat's original post. (GOD, I hate it when people edit out the post that starts the furor!) But from what I gather it was a bit of a brag about her kid's artwork. I see nothing wrong with that.
Jade posted something which I did not, and do not, see as an attack. I read it and wondered, "What's eating her?" (In retrospect, I can now see why she reacted the way she did, considering her history.)
Then I read Kat's meltdown. I can see why she exploded. Kat is an unobtrusive person who doesn't post everyday and, being the sensitve, easily hurt person she is, took Jade's response to mean, "Why the fuck does she think any of us want to see anything her kid did?" (Which was NOT what Jade was saying at all.)
Thankfully, everyone seems to have calmed down. Apologies and explanations have been offered.
Then, here is Jade, melting down on a separate thread.
Jade, no one hates you. Certainly not Kat. Geez. And the only way I can see that you are outnumbered is in the fact that most people didn't see a problem with Kat bragging about her kid. Just because people disagree with you doesn't mean they hate you. <ruffles your hair> Get a grip, sweetie.
I'm sure you have a lot to brag about. Look at the accolades you got from your pic.
I went through this with the infamous Fuck List. I let my insecurity build up until I had to say something about it. OF COURSE my thread and the fact that I was hurt over that wasn't going to stop people from participating in auctions or what have you, just as this isn't going to stop people from posting about their children. The solution for you and I, Jade, is inside ourselves. WE are the ones who have the problem, not the rest of the population. <smiles gently>
For the record, I don't hate you.
I am a sensitive person, sometimes overly so, which is why I feel I can say this. You two ladies reacted just a teensy bit overboard. I never saw Kat's original post. (GOD, I hate it when people edit out the post that starts the furor!) But from what I gather it was a bit of a brag about her kid's artwork. I see nothing wrong with that.
Jade posted something which I did not, and do not, see as an attack. I read it and wondered, "What's eating her?" (In retrospect, I can now see why she reacted the way she did, considering her history.)
Then I read Kat's meltdown. I can see why she exploded. Kat is an unobtrusive person who doesn't post everyday and, being the sensitve, easily hurt person she is, took Jade's response to mean, "Why the fuck does she think any of us want to see anything her kid did?" (Which was NOT what Jade was saying at all.)
Thankfully, everyone seems to have calmed down. Apologies and explanations have been offered.
Then, here is Jade, melting down on a separate thread.
Jade, no one hates you. Certainly not Kat. Geez. And the only way I can see that you are outnumbered is in the fact that most people didn't see a problem with Kat bragging about her kid. Just because people disagree with you doesn't mean they hate you. <ruffles your hair> Get a grip, sweetie.
I'm sure you have a lot to brag about. Look at the accolades you got from your pic.
I went through this with the infamous Fuck List. I let my insecurity build up until I had to say something about it. OF COURSE my thread and the fact that I was hurt over that wasn't going to stop people from participating in auctions or what have you, just as this isn't going to stop people from posting about their children. The solution for you and I, Jade, is inside ourselves. WE are the ones who have the problem, not the rest of the population. <smiles gently>
For the record, I don't hate you.
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Hey Whisper, you hit the proverbial nail on the head. That is exactly how I felt. You read me so well. Thanks for taking the time to try and make us both feel better. Sorry, I took out the original post, but I was angry and it was just a reaction. The pic is up if you are interested in viewing it.
Whisper, everyone is easily hurt, when harsh words are said, we are only human. There was nothing so horrible said to me by Jade, that I had to lash out like that. I guess I am sensitve though, as well as very defensive. I tend to take things the wrong way at times, but then I think we have all been there, haven't we? But please, no one has to walk on egg shells around me, I am a big girl and can openly admit when I have made a mistake.
I think anyone reading these two posts, mine, Talented Youth, and Jades here, will understand what happened. Perhaps I did over react big time, I just felt like I was being mocked. I felt so foolish, and belittled.
I know, you did not make me feel this way intentionally Jade, but I did feel this way, so I lashed out at you. It won't happen again...if I can help it. I will try to curtail my temper next time before I hurt someone else.
KitKat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 08:30 AM]
Whisper, everyone is easily hurt, when harsh words are said, we are only human. There was nothing so horrible said to me by Jade, that I had to lash out like that. I guess I am sensitve though, as well as very defensive. I tend to take things the wrong way at times, but then I think we have all been there, haven't we? But please, no one has to walk on egg shells around me, I am a big girl and can openly admit when I have made a mistake.
I think anyone reading these two posts, mine, Talented Youth, and Jades here, will understand what happened. Perhaps I did over react big time, I just felt like I was being mocked. I felt so foolish, and belittled.
I know, you did not make me feel this way intentionally Jade, but I did feel this way, so I lashed out at you. It won't happen again...if I can help it. I will try to curtail my temper next time before I hurt someone else.
KitKat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 08:30 AM]
Shit ... Take a day off to meet a new member of the family and this happens.
I haven't read the other thread ... and I'm not going to either. Just wanted to say that I hate no-one (not even you Whispersecret, although we ourselves have had our diffrences).
Like it has been said on many ocassions, we are all different, we are all individuals (Why do I feel like I'm on Monty Python here?).
We all need our own opinions, hell the world would be boring if we were all the same.
((((((((((((((JADE))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((KATERINA))))))))))))))
I hope that you are both feeling better about this.
Have a nice day
I haven't read the other thread ... and I'm not going to either. Just wanted to say that I hate no-one (not even you Whispersecret, although we ourselves have had our diffrences).
Like it has been said on many ocassions, we are all different, we are all individuals (Why do I feel like I'm on Monty Python here?).
We all need our own opinions, hell the world would be boring if we were all the same.
((((((((((((((JADE))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((KATERINA))))))))))))))
I hope that you are both feeling better about this.
Have a nice day
Cheyenne
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PMS alert?
Hey women, you know right now that all the guys at LIT are reading this and thinking something along the lines of "Gee, how did they ALL happen to time it so they have PMS together?" Notice how most are staying away from these particular threads?
Glad to see everything has worked out, it usually does by the time I get here to read the battle history. Both of you are important to the bb and no one would want to see either of you hurt or gone.
Hey, Kat. I'd still like to see whatever you posted in the first place about your kid. I have no kids, either, but I like to see good things about other people's kids. It reminds me that there are far more good ones in the world than the bad ones that we read about in the newspapers every day. Can you repost for the rest of us?
Hey women, you know right now that all the guys at LIT are reading this and thinking something along the lines of "Gee, how did they ALL happen to time it so they have PMS together?" Notice how most are staying away from these particular threads?
Glad to see everything has worked out, it usually does by the time I get here to read the battle history. Both of you are important to the bb and no one would want to see either of you hurt or gone.
Hey, Kat. I'd still like to see whatever you posted in the first place about your kid. I have no kids, either, but I like to see good things about other people's kids. It reminds me that there are far more good ones in the world than the bad ones that we read about in the newspapers every day. Can you repost for the rest of us?
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Wow-ladies and here I was irritated that the lit mailboxes weren't working.
I am not even sure how to say anything that will help,
But both of you sound hurt and invaded and regretful, so my solution is to send ((((((((((((((Jade))))))))
((((((((((Kat))))))))))
and pray for a sense of peace...jade if ever you want to talk email me-not at lit, their system is a tad broken
try my yahoo email
rthgdss@yahoo.com.
I am not even sure how to say anything that will help,
But both of you sound hurt and invaded and regretful, so my solution is to send ((((((((((((((Jade))))))))
((((((((((Kat))))))))))
and pray for a sense of peace...jade if ever you want to talk email me-not at lit, their system is a tad broken
try my yahoo email
rthgdss@yahoo.com.
Glad everything is worked out, now perhaps it would be a good time for some chocolate. I suggest we all get out favorite pint of Ben & Jerry's and share. I'll get the Phish Food and New York Chocolate Chunk, both of which are IMHO, the epitome of ice cream.
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Nicole and Earthgoddess, thanks for the hugs. I myself, feel abit better, I only hope Jade does too. I really do not want to lose the opportunity of getting to know her because of this. Guess, time will tell on that.
Nicole, I understand if you do not want to read my post, but this thread became what it is because of my words. You might just understand more of what happened if you read it, but then, that is up to you.
Oh, Cheyenne, I cannot repost my original message, but I did decide to repost the picture. I was not going to, but I thought others would understand more why I wanted to share.
I truly did not mean to come off like I was conceited and uppity here, but if I did, I am sorry Jade. Guess when you are showing off something you are so proud of, you get carried away. Bragging is a downfall of most parents I think, when it comes to being proud of their kids.
Wizard, don't worry, this was a misunderstanding, not a cat fight. I claw no ones eyes out, not my way!
Cheri, that party idea sounds really good, but this is Jade's thread, and I am not sure if she is in the party mood.
KitKat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 08:16 AM]
Nicole, I understand if you do not want to read my post, but this thread became what it is because of my words. You might just understand more of what happened if you read it, but then, that is up to you.
Oh, Cheyenne, I cannot repost my original message, but I did decide to repost the picture. I was not going to, but I thought others would understand more why I wanted to share.
I truly did not mean to come off like I was conceited and uppity here, but if I did, I am sorry Jade. Guess when you are showing off something you are so proud of, you get carried away. Bragging is a downfall of most parents I think, when it comes to being proud of their kids.
Wizard, don't worry, this was a misunderstanding, not a cat fight. I claw no ones eyes out, not my way!
Cheri, that party idea sounds really good, but this is Jade's thread, and I am not sure if she is in the party mood.
KitKat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 08:16 AM]
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((SuperHuggies(((((((((((((Jade))))))))))))))SuperHuggies)))))))))))))))))))))))
For what it's worth darling, I think you're pretty special.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((SuperHuggies((((((((((((Katerina))))))))))))))SuperHuggies))))))))))))))))))
You are pretty garsh darn special too sweetie, it takes a big heart to say I was wrong and I am sorry. I still haven't managed to accomplish that feat.
For what it's worth darling, I think you're pretty special.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((SuperHuggies((((((((((((Katerina))))))))))))))SuperHuggies))))))))))))))))))
You are pretty garsh darn special too sweetie, it takes a big heart to say I was wrong and I am sorry. I still haven't managed to accomplish that feat.
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Thank you KillerMuffin
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Oh no, Jade...Now that your original post is gone from this thread, everyone will yet again, be confused...You explained yourself so well, said what you had to say, clarified your feelings. Sorry, you felt you had to edit it.
Also, please understand that my thread was not a Jade bashing thread, everyone has been totally supportive of both of us. For that, I am thankful.
KitKat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 10:04 AM]
Also, please understand that my thread was not a Jade bashing thread, everyone has been totally supportive of both of us. For that, I am thankful.
KitKat
[Edited by Katerina on 08-26-2000 at 10:04 AM]
Well, since everyone edited the original to shit, I have no idea what's going on, nor do I really want to. Is it that big a deal in the first place? Kat, Jade, think about it, and I mean REALLY think. If one of you thinks the other is a bitch, fine....how's it really gonna affect anything in the long run anyway?
I missed the whole thing, like I said, and I don't hate either of you, but damn.....just when the board was starting to settle down.
I missed the whole thing, like I said, and I don't hate either of you, but damn.....just when the board was starting to settle down.
