DirkCamacho
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I'm a 57 year old man. Married 20 years to a wife I love very much. She's 61 and still very beautiful. She keeps herself fit, and has a very pretty face, eyes, hair, and body. Our sex life is pretty good but I'm a lot hornier than she is. I think part of it is that she comes from a conservative background and doesn't feel comfortable being frank about sex. I have asked her to talk more openly about things, like give me more feedback about what she's feeling, what she likes to do or have done to her. But she won't use the words. I'm lucky to get some moaning while I lick her pussy, but if there's no moaning I just have to guess what to change. She won't say "Do it like this" or "I don't like that." Just getting her to say the words pussy, cock, clit, are kind of impossible. I want her to be a whore in bed, but no dice. I guess that's pretty normal for men vs. women, right?
I compensate for that by having an active fantasy life. Nearly every woman I see in public I imagine what she looks like naked, what it would be like to fuck her or eat her pussy. And of course, porn. I think if my wife were more of a horndog I would just be happy lovemaking with her most nights.
So now here's the problem. I can't get it up. Two nights ago I was feeling hot. I ate my wife out, and she came. That doesn't usually happen, she's not a frequent orgasm-er. But she did come right in my mouth the other night. That's my #1 turn-on! Usually I'll have a raging hard-on while that's happening. After I lick her pussy I'll fuck her, and if she's had an orgasm the fucking is super hot and she usually comes again. But that night, nothing. I couldn't believe it.
Then last night, same thing. I said I wanted to lick her again. She said yeah, but don't expect an encore performance. I don't mind. I just really enjoy eating her out. She didn't come but she did enjoy it. I had to ask because she was quiet. So after a good long time worshipping her vulva I finally was satiated. But still no erection.
This has happened before. What happens is, I go on long motorcycle rides by myself. Frequently I will have sex thoughts while riding. It used to be when I came home I'd share my thoughts, and ask her to try something different that I had thought of on the road. She's game, and she'll grudgingly talk dirty to me or whatever I ask. But the first few sex events we'll have, I can't get it up.
The last couple of rides I went on, instead of sharing my fantasies with her, I wrote them down. In my fantasies I'm a super lover, better than I actually am in real life. I fantasize about having a huge cock, about lasting as long as I want and fucking my woman to many orgasms, etc. I actually submitted my most recent story to Lit. Am currently waiting for it to pass the moderators and be published. Fingers crossed. And ever since I wrote that last story and came home, no erection.
So the question is, why can't I get it up? Am I just old? Do I need Viagra? Or is it a mental thing that is blocking my cock? Is there something about fantasizing a fantastic sex life that actually inhibits my real sex life? I don't get it. Any armchair psychology is welcomed.
I compensate for that by having an active fantasy life. Nearly every woman I see in public I imagine what she looks like naked, what it would be like to fuck her or eat her pussy. And of course, porn. I think if my wife were more of a horndog I would just be happy lovemaking with her most nights.
So now here's the problem. I can't get it up. Two nights ago I was feeling hot. I ate my wife out, and she came. That doesn't usually happen, she's not a frequent orgasm-er. But she did come right in my mouth the other night. That's my #1 turn-on! Usually I'll have a raging hard-on while that's happening. After I lick her pussy I'll fuck her, and if she's had an orgasm the fucking is super hot and she usually comes again. But that night, nothing. I couldn't believe it.
Then last night, same thing. I said I wanted to lick her again. She said yeah, but don't expect an encore performance. I don't mind. I just really enjoy eating her out. She didn't come but she did enjoy it. I had to ask because she was quiet. So after a good long time worshipping her vulva I finally was satiated. But still no erection.
This has happened before. What happens is, I go on long motorcycle rides by myself. Frequently I will have sex thoughts while riding. It used to be when I came home I'd share my thoughts, and ask her to try something different that I had thought of on the road. She's game, and she'll grudgingly talk dirty to me or whatever I ask. But the first few sex events we'll have, I can't get it up.
The last couple of rides I went on, instead of sharing my fantasies with her, I wrote them down. In my fantasies I'm a super lover, better than I actually am in real life. I fantasize about having a huge cock, about lasting as long as I want and fucking my woman to many orgasms, etc. I actually submitted my most recent story to Lit. Am currently waiting for it to pass the moderators and be published. Fingers crossed. And ever since I wrote that last story and came home, no erection.
So the question is, why can't I get it up? Am I just old? Do I need Viagra? Or is it a mental thing that is blocking my cock? Is there something about fantasizing a fantastic sex life that actually inhibits my real sex life? I don't get it. Any armchair psychology is welcomed.